Why do people stare at you? How do you handle it?

[hardy]

People can stare at you for all kinds of reasons. I am of Middle Eastern appearance so whenever there has been a terrorist attack by Islamic extremists somewhere in the world, people stare at me a lot more in public. They probably think I'm entering bomb detonation codes into my mobile phone when I'm actually just playing Tetris Still, at those times, you are always guaranteed an empty seat on public transport as the people scatter to other carriages and compartments. Blissful peace

But, seriously, why does it matter to you that people stare at you?

Let them stare!

You have just as much a right to be here in this world and express yourself in your own unique way as anyone else alive. So if there is something about you that makes them want to stare at you, then so what?

There is undoubtedly an element of the Law of Attraction at work here also. You probably noticed one time somebody staring at you, and you gave enough attention to that thought that it started to attract to itself to the point of receiving physical vibrational matches regarding it.

In other words, the more you think people are staring at you, the more the universe puts you in situations with other people who like to stare at you (for whatever reason).

If you just relax and enjoy the fact that people are staring, preferably accompanied by a I don't care what they do feeling, you'll probably soften that attitude a bit and you'll notice it happening less often, or not at all.

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[laure15]

I also notice that people stare at me because I have something on my face, I hunch when I walk, or they want to embarass me/make me feel uncomfortable. I do get angry and hateful stares from people, especially my cousin and her mom. I used to go to family gatherings, and I notice that my cousin and her mom like to stare at the relatives that they dislike, as if they're trying to drill their eyes into you and hopefully make a hole. There were several times that they stared at me continuously and talked negatively under their breath. I tried to ignore them but it got very uncomfortable. One time, as soon as I walked into the house, everyone was mostly quiet and staring at me and the mom finally shouted, "Ignore her!" Just like that, and the other relatives ignored me. I used to feel so angry and hurt about it, but now that I think about it, I feel pity for her for having such a negative attitude and trying to spread hatred around.

 

[mikebird]

I love the question.

In public spaces or indoors / transport, staring is passive.

I guess it's all about appearance, but I don't have a mirror. Or it's about what I do.

In a train carriage with no seats available, everyone stands up for a long time. I get down on the carpet and spread out flat, with eyes shut. I get stares when I briefly blink, and when everyone wants to head for the exits as the train slows down. My approach is generally passive, but won't move, in any crowd, if in someone's way. Puppydog eyes / eyebrows is my way to communicate. Still waiting for a violent manoeuvre to happen one day, and be fulfilled. I seem a bit humble to let it out :numberone:

 

[hardy]

I love the question.

In public spaces or indoors / transport, staring is passive.

I guess it's all about appearance, but I don't have a mirror. Or it's about what I do.

In a train carriage with no seats available, everyone stands up for a long time. I get down on the carpet and spread out flat, with eyes shut. I get stares when I briefly blink, and when everyone wants to head for the exits as the train slows down. My approach is generally passive, but won't move, in any crowd, if in someone's way. Puppydog eyes / eyebrows is my way to communicate. Still waiting for a violent manoeuvre to happen one day, and be fulfilled. I seem a bit humble to let it out :numberone:

lmao......

 

[JackOfSpades]

Unless the person is staring because they approve, then I figure they're staring because they don't. And isn't that the problem of a lot of social phobics-feeling unapproved or rejectable? For me that's a big fear, and that there is something "wrong" about me. And any confirmation of that, particularly by people that shouldn't "know" that, is bothersome. It affirms the fear I'm right.
Having said that, I don't tend to find people staring, or if I do I rarely think too negatively about it. I tend to think it's positive, and then become anxious of dissapointing lol. It's hard to win sometimes.