LovelyAmor
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(Ugh):
-I'm 19
-I have SA (SP) and APD
-I've been through a lot of traumatic s**t in my life (mentally and emotionally abused by my mom, tormented all throughout school)
-I didn't receive proper emotional development growing up
-I had to see a psychiatrist and a therapist in the 10th grade
-I had to take anti-depressants
-My grandmother (best friend) and grandfather just randomly up and died a year apart from each other (2 years ago) - seems like yesterday
-My house was repossessed
-My mom is very sick now and stays in CALI with my aunt
-I am stuck here alone in college, not close to any other family members, suffering every single day with SP
The main problem I have right now is with me being uncomfortable in my dorm room. I wanted a single room but I had to stay in a hotel for a while because NO rooms were left and I had to take what became available.
I'm a sophomore and my roommate is a freshman. She is a lot nicer than my roommate last year but I feel intimidated. She has a cool personality but she drinks, smokes (weed and cigarettes), and parties almost until 4am every night. She does not bring any mess into the room though.
I have a hard time communicating with her. I don't say anything unless she says something to me. I feel that she is annoyed with me. Whenever she brings her friends in the room I get SO uncomfortable and leave the room as soon as they enter. I cannot take it. I just get uncomfortable when she is in the room. I feel better just alone. She brought a guy friend in there one time. I started trembling while I was trying to type my work up. I couldn't take it. I got my books and walked all the way over to the library in the cold so I could finish my work. This frustrates me because I should be able to stay in my own room! Half of the room is mine but I feel so uncomfortable when anyone is in there and I just have to leave.
I bothers me so badly. I don't want to spend the rest of the year in the library! She has brought many people to the room and I haven't brought a single person. Most of the friends she brings are her high school buddies. I feel like she thinks that I have no life. She asked me before: "Do you go out? I just said "Sometimes or not all the time".
It brings me to tears because I can't even stay in the half of the room that I paid for and I get so shook up. I know it would be unfair for me to tell her that she can only bring people over at a certain time because she has HALF of the room. I feel like she thinks that I am unfriendly sometimes OR she my think that I am just shy/introverted/loner and just accepts that. I really don't what to say to her. I'm afraid to tell her about my SA because she might get weirded out or something and not speak to me anymore (which has happened before). It's so frustrating. I don't want to be in the room with someone else and not feel comfortable around them, or them around me. I know she wants to get to know me better but I feel that she thinks that I am uninterested. I don't know...
I'm trying to be more social with people but something keeps holding me back. I just have this intense fear down in the pit of my stomach and it won't go away. I am tired of going to places alone and I see everyone else with at least 1 person. It bothers me a lot. I feel pathetic because I only have 2 more years left and I am still acting this way. I just don't know what to do.
I don't want to use how I was treated or what I have been through as an excuse because I am an adult now and I am in control of my own destiny. The truth really hurts. ::
-I'm 19
-I have SA (SP) and APD
-I've been through a lot of traumatic s**t in my life (mentally and emotionally abused by my mom, tormented all throughout school)
-I didn't receive proper emotional development growing up
-I had to see a psychiatrist and a therapist in the 10th grade
-I had to take anti-depressants
-My grandmother (best friend) and grandfather just randomly up and died a year apart from each other (2 years ago) - seems like yesterday
-My house was repossessed
-My mom is very sick now and stays in CALI with my aunt
-I am stuck here alone in college, not close to any other family members, suffering every single day with SP
The main problem I have right now is with me being uncomfortable in my dorm room. I wanted a single room but I had to stay in a hotel for a while because NO rooms were left and I had to take what became available.
I'm a sophomore and my roommate is a freshman. She is a lot nicer than my roommate last year but I feel intimidated. She has a cool personality but she drinks, smokes (weed and cigarettes), and parties almost until 4am every night. She does not bring any mess into the room though.
I have a hard time communicating with her. I don't say anything unless she says something to me. I feel that she is annoyed with me. Whenever she brings her friends in the room I get SO uncomfortable and leave the room as soon as they enter. I cannot take it. I just get uncomfortable when she is in the room. I feel better just alone. She brought a guy friend in there one time. I started trembling while I was trying to type my work up. I couldn't take it. I got my books and walked all the way over to the library in the cold so I could finish my work. This frustrates me because I should be able to stay in my own room! Half of the room is mine but I feel so uncomfortable when anyone is in there and I just have to leave.
I bothers me so badly. I don't want to spend the rest of the year in the library! She has brought many people to the room and I haven't brought a single person. Most of the friends she brings are her high school buddies. I feel like she thinks that I have no life. She asked me before: "Do you go out? I just said "Sometimes or not all the time".
It brings me to tears because I can't even stay in the half of the room that I paid for and I get so shook up. I know it would be unfair for me to tell her that she can only bring people over at a certain time because she has HALF of the room. I feel like she thinks that I am unfriendly sometimes OR she my think that I am just shy/introverted/loner and just accepts that. I really don't what to say to her. I'm afraid to tell her about my SA because she might get weirded out or something and not speak to me anymore (which has happened before). It's so frustrating. I don't want to be in the room with someone else and not feel comfortable around them, or them around me. I know she wants to get to know me better but I feel that she thinks that I am uninterested. I don't know...
I'm trying to be more social with people but something keeps holding me back. I just have this intense fear down in the pit of my stomach and it won't go away. I am tired of going to places alone and I see everyone else with at least 1 person. It bothers me a lot. I feel pathetic because I only have 2 more years left and I am still acting this way. I just don't know what to do.
I don't want to use how I was treated or what I have been through as an excuse because I am an adult now and I am in control of my own destiny. The truth really hurts. ::
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