Why are females often so judgemental of each other?
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Satine
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I think it's based on insecurity. It's 'she's thinner/prettier/more popular than me, so I have to make her look bad'.
I try not to do it, but just occasionally I catch myself making a bitchy remark, and I don't like it. As I say, I'm training myself out of it.
I think sisterhood feels good enough that we don't need cattiness.
I try not to do it, but just occasionally I catch myself making a bitchy remark, and I don't like it. As I say, I'm training myself out of it.
I think sisterhood feels good enough that we don't need cattiness.
It's likely that if you (and most woman for that matter) seem to get this alot from your perspective - and since your posting about it we cannot be blamed for assuming this- I would say more than half the woman you expect that are doing this to you actually aren't, and you are simply taking their actions which they would do regardless if it were you or anybody else personally, as so many people with anxiety and social phobias do.
On the other hand, if a woman is blatantly being two faced to you and seemingly taunting you in between all your interactions as well as purposefully trying to wedge herself into your affairs by sabotage, or just being a bonafide b*tch, there is no doubt it is because she resents and is very much intimidated by you.
If you are threatened (which means you inherently fear) by someone or something, you either avoid it, or attack it. It's the law of being an organism.
These woman you speak of are simply being proactive in their approach to this fear
On the other hand, if a woman is blatantly being two faced to you and seemingly taunting you in between all your interactions as well as purposefully trying to wedge herself into your affairs by sabotage, or just being a bonafide b*tch, there is no doubt it is because she resents and is very much intimidated by you.
If you are threatened (which means you inherently fear) by someone or something, you either avoid it, or attack it. It's the law of being an organism.
These woman you speak of are simply being proactive in their approach to this fear
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I_Walk_Alone
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Haha, yep its always about a guy.
Typical...
Typical...
bagota50
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Yes, I think it's more of a natural competition thing, sort of like how some men challenge others to take greater risks by saying there more "badass" then the other.
I_Walk_Alone
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madmike
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I keep overhearing girl's conversations on the bus/train etc and it's like it revolves mostly around slagging off other girls, even friends and flatmates by what i could make out. Makes me kinda glad i'm not a girl, i think guys are nowhere near as nasty... competition? Lack of other interesting talking points? who knows, people are strange lol
Emmmmy
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Yeh, I don't get this either. Sometimes it seems some girls like to have rivals near to them, just because it provides more opportunities for putting them down??
I know that maybe sounds unlikely but.... for example.... I have a painful memory of being invited to a party when I was about 14, (only really went out of politeness) and was just put down loads and made to feel excluded.:
: Cruel girls! And yes, I agree - girls often have an agenda when boys are concerned!
Being a girl sucks I think.
AsHLeY
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I don't think it's just females that are judgemental of eachother, it's humans in general. (Females tend to be a little crueler about it though with snyde remarks.) I think that some people tend to voice everything they're thinking about other people, no matter how inappropriate or rude it is. Women generally tend to be a little more insecure than men are, though - so sometimes it probably is jealousy. A lot of women "bring down" other women they're jealous of so it'll make them look better....or make them feel better about themselves by finding fault in someone else.
this_portrait
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I'm amazed at how rude some of the girls who actually have boyfriends are.
Yesterday, I went to a graduation party for this girl (Ashli) I went to school with. One of my friends (Caleb) was there with his girlfriend. This other girl (Sarah) was also there. I guess Sarah and Caleb had gone through a bunch of drama b/s because of his girlfriend, and when I was there, Ashli mentioned that she told him that he had to at least say "Hi" to Sarah as a graduation gift to her (Ashli herself).
Well, Caleb and his girlfriend were upstairs with one of his guy friends, away from any other females at the party. I followed Ashli, Sarah, and another of Ashli's friends up there. Ashli said to Caleb, "What are you supposed to say?" He was silent for a bit, before he barely let out an embarrassed, "Hi."
You know what his girlfriend did? She f*cking hit him hard on the arm! All for saying a simple "hello" to another girl! When that happened, Ashli was all, "Wow, Rischel, grow up. . ." Girlfriend replies with a snobby, "I'm older than you."
I was just shocked at how rude this girl was. Seriously, she doesn't even like her boyfriend talking to other girls, even if the girls already have boyfriends! I can imagine what she'd do if she knew that her boyfriend who she's oh-so-possessive of was talking to me online nearly every time he goes on his computer. She would really hate me, and she doesn't even know me!
Yesterday, I went to a graduation party for this girl (Ashli) I went to school with. One of my friends (Caleb) was there with his girlfriend. This other girl (Sarah) was also there. I guess Sarah and Caleb had gone through a bunch of drama b/s because of his girlfriend, and when I was there, Ashli mentioned that she told him that he had to at least say "Hi" to Sarah as a graduation gift to her (Ashli herself).
Well, Caleb and his girlfriend were upstairs with one of his guy friends, away from any other females at the party. I followed Ashli, Sarah, and another of Ashli's friends up there. Ashli said to Caleb, "What are you supposed to say?" He was silent for a bit, before he barely let out an embarrassed, "Hi."
You know what his girlfriend did? She f*cking hit him hard on the arm! All for saying a simple "hello" to another girl! When that happened, Ashli was all, "Wow, Rischel, grow up. . ." Girlfriend replies with a snobby, "I'm older than you."
I was just shocked at how rude this girl was. Seriously, she doesn't even like her boyfriend talking to other girls, even if the girls already have boyfriends! I can imagine what she'd do if she knew that her boyfriend who she's oh-so-possessive of was talking to me online nearly every time he goes on his computer. She would really hate me, and she doesn't even know me!