What to do about my haircut?

n0id

n0id

Active member
Hello fellow anons.

I am feeling rather anxious tonight due to the fact that I will be going back to work tomorrow.. With a new haircut. A Mohawk to be more precise.

First things first, I am a male in my twenties, and I play in a punk band in which I do backup vocals and play guitar. I also am lead vocal on some songs, but not every song.

I believe I have mentioned before on this forum, that I am a rather shy person. Too shy for my liking, and too conscious of that fact, so much in fact, that I am trying my best not to think about it; ultimately forget about it. Overcome it.

Which was the main reason why I started (well, joined. but I was the one who came up with the name) a band with my friends.

Earlier today I decided it would be fun to get a mohawk, because we have an upcoming gig very soon and I wanted to "punk myself up a notch". Also because I have always wanted to have a mohawk and see how I look in one. (In my opinion it looks insanely awesome!).

But I can't stop thinking about how the people at work will react to the new "image". Will they like it? will they hate it? will I be shown less respect? Or more?

I don't really socialize with the people at work, so I don't know them very well. I can hang around my friends in my mohawk; they just love it. But my co-workers?

It sounds very stupid, and I am glad that I am anonymous (to some extent) so that I am free to openly talk about it here with strangers.

I realize I haven't been an active member on this forum, and don't really "know" you guys, but you seem like a nice bunch of people from what I have come to know.

Anyone else here have a mohawk? How did people react to that?
 
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Drongo

Active member
I think after the initial shock wears off, they [your co-workers] will realize you're still the same person, assuming you don't do anything to support possible negative assumptions they may make based on your new appearance.
 
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LycraPantiies92

Well-known member
Well with a mohawk it sounds as if you'll stand out more, i'm not sure you wanna do that if yr shy. People will probably ask you about it like a million times ! That always happens to me, so i stopped getting my hair colour drastically changed xD
I'd say more but i need to go to bed now >.<
Hope they like it !
xx
 
Satine

Satine

Well-known member
Well, if it does happen to go wrong then you can always change it, so that's not such a big deal. But I'm guessing that if you had the mohawk done in the first place you must have a certain amount of faith in your ability to cope with this change in yourself at work.

Brass it out. When you go to work, make a point of keeping you head high, imagine someone sitting on a ledge above your head holding a fishing pole and that their fish hook has hooked under your ribcage: pull it up. All of this will make you look more confident, and that will help.

Get out there and show 'em your freaky spikes! Like Sabbath says, diversity is the thing!
 
n0id

n0id

Active member
Hi,
I was up so late last night reading a book and worrying about this problem, that I had trouble getting up in the morning.

I decided to not go to work today.

My reasons for this:
* I show up late.. with a mohawk.. Easily draws attention and possibly negative feelings.
* I was so tired anyway and really had not got much sleep during my vacation so it was so easy to just forget about the day and instead sleep it away.
* I didn't have the courage to go to work with the mohawk at all, I'm too afraid of the judgement they will have for me.

This is probably sounds rather weird, however; where I work people tend to wear ..should I say suits? Yes, suits, combed hair, very expensive cell phones, they are all around their 50's. The company I work at is special in the sense that I don't feel like I fit in at all: the people that work there are too different from me. They talk loudly, are very confident, they all know what to do under any given circumstance. They are, in my whole opinion, rich people hanging out with other rich people.

Me, I'm just your average kid with no money whatsoever. I can't afford new clothes so I've been wearing the same old crap ever since I started working there, and my cellphone is just that.. a cellphone. One that you can make calls with and send messages, nothing more. well, there's a calendar and stuff.

Then when I show up after a three week's vacation, with a mohawk... It just doesn't belong.

I'm afraid a boss of mine will come up and say that this kind of appearance doesn't belong here. It would be too embarrassing.

And when I show up tomorrow at work (since I didn't go there today, I'll have to do it tomorrow) and they either don't mention anything or do and it's that they don't like it; and I feel too stressed out and shave it off. the next day they would probably start talking behind my back that I removed it so suddenly and stuff like that.

Maybe I just think too much, maybe you think I'm an idiot for even thinking this.

But that's pretty much who I am: an oversensitive prick, too shy to even call a friend on the phone or begin a conversation, too scared to try and be myself amongst other people (that I have no- to little -relation to).

Excuse my grammar, I probably have a load of wrongly spelled words or falsely built sentences. :( English is my third language.

Oh and yea, at work I have to speak and write in English; seeing as how all of our clients come either from the U.S, Scotland, India or even Australia. :( It's good practice to me but well, you probably know how I feel about speaking a language I barely know.

Anyway.
I thank you for the encouragement you have all given me! I feel a little better now; and have decided to show up at work NO MATTER WHAT, and just TRY to be myself.

Ah, I am ranting too much and will cut it short here.
 
n0id

n0id

Active member
Well I just did it. Go to work that is.

I don't know how, but I simply stopped caring about my haircut. Maybe I was in a shock; not being used to see myself with that kind of hair. It feelings of anxiety simply passed away somehow.

In a way I regret not going to work on that first day, because then I would have been able to battle and experience the "pain" and maybe grow used to it, rather than hide out and wait. Which means that the next time, I won't have any experience and will undoubtedly do the same thing again.

Ah well, life does that to you.

In case anyone wondered what they said, they didn't say much.
One person (a girl) asked me how my summer was, but she didn't ask about my hair. She doesn't usually stop and talk with me so that was rather odd. One of my bosses just laughed, and being as emotional as I am I took it the wrong way. But I realized after a while that he probably liked it. As for my image problem; I think that people started to respect me a little more. Simply because they probably got the impression of "yea, I have a mohawk. So what?" And they don't seem to mind, rather they seem more friendly in a way.

Believe it or not, but I got asked out by a girl (not the same one mentioned above). To have a drink or two after work; I smoothly declined. Saying that I couldn't. (Of course I could! but why the hell would I? I can't simply go out with a ..stranger.. and, and talk!)

Also, as far as I have noticed: girls seem to have taken a notice of me now. Or maybe I'm just more alert to these sorts of things (checking to see if anyone's looking at me, which they are (girls, I mean)).

Yea.. I pretty much suck.

So now I have "the look" it would seem.. I simply need the personality; and I'd get a date.

Thanks for your support.
 
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AGR

Well-known member
Hehe I was just trying to trim my hair a bit by myself,but I made a mistake and had to get a buzz cut(but it looks awesome when I wear a cap) hehe now we will see what people will say when I go to class :D.
 
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Fighter86

Well-known member
I'm glad all went well for you. My brother, who sort of isn't the type people who would classify as adventurous, went out and got the mohawk too, and in the end, people received it well. Anyway, good luck!
 
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