I want to say something, feel free to tell me if I'm wrong.
I feel like many of you assume that the so called "normal" people are happy, social people with no problems to deal with. When I read some posts it makes me feel as if some of you separate people with mental issues from normals.
Well, let me just tell you this. Those you call "normal" people have sh*t to deal with just like we do. They have bad days, they have stress, they can feel sad, they might want to be left alone at times. They don't live their entire lives smiling and socializing.
I am dealing with SA, Depression and other things while my neighbour is a social person, but a nervous wreck when she returns home, she's also divorced and left alone with a really troubled kid and a deaf mother.
The group of uberly loud people at my school were well... loud, obviously very social, they seemed really happy, but I remember hearing one of them mentioning their parents being divorced, another one was having some job issues.
My teacher, who is a famous cartoonist who makes sh*t tons of money, had to close one of his schools because he was starting to have health problems. Docs had to tell him to take it easy or he was going to have even more problems. I remember he was really sad about it. He is a social person by the way, has no problem at all speaking in public, getting into giant crowds, he's very confident, maybe even a little too much, yet he has stuff to deal with.
Then this girl... This girl I've met who seemed like she had absolutely no troubles in her life. She was so ignorant, so shallow, had so little understanding of other people's feelings that talking to her made me cringe. She talked to A LOT of people as well, seemed kind of popular. For a moment I thought she was lucky, until I saw how she was doing relationship-wise. She had no deep bonds with anyone (hence, no actual friends), her partners lasted nothing because of her shallow, egocentric behavior. I keep thinking she's not going to have a real relationship, ever. She's going to have a lot of disappointment in her life, because not everyone will be there to kiss her a$$ and put up with her self-centered attitude. To make it worse, she doesn't realize this, so she's going to feel even worse, not knowing why people dump her. Really, really sad.
And those are just a few examples.
Just saying, just because you see people smiling and talking to each other, it doesn't mean they come back home and continue being all cheery. Just because someone is successful at something, it doesn't mean their lives are perfect. I've met a lot of people who looked "normal", but I've found out a lot of things about them later that made me think I'm grateful to be me and not them. Nobody is normal. Everyone is messed up in their own unique way.
