Hi Icecube,
No, I would never explain a theory like that to anyone other than someone who'd already bother needing to find one. So, no, I didn't explain it to anyone, it is just my way of understanding things and essentially all it is is just enabling me to operate in a more objective manner.
And, I suppose you're right to say that such an explanation is 'flabbergasting'. I do my best to be clear and objective, but I can't say that I've mastered it yet.
Here is a simpler explanation of what I mean...
Again it's the yin and yang -or as I prefer to call it -the Alpha and the Omega. Now, i believe that when a person is sufferring and struggling for balance that this is because life is somehow changing too quickly for the m to keep up with. I believe that the Alpha and Omega is the balance between two sides and that it is God and God is 'I am'. That a concept of two opposites is how we know who we are.
Only change comes along and what happens is that the form that this Alpha and Omega takes changes. It moves to a deeper level. ...and example is, imagine a person who believed strongly in monogamy nowadays; it is more likely that such a person would need to reinvent their definition for both who they are as well as their concept of 'relationship' in order to survive and exist as who they are in a world where values and definitions for 'relationship' are changing rapidly, and there is more emphasis on casual relationships. A person would need to accomodate for a greater range of types of 'relationship', and also develop a greater tolerance and acceptance for 'easy going' relationships, period. Otherwise, the pressure from the rapidly changing outer world will somehow or rather cause them unhappiness. ...basically, I'm talking about evolution of how we define ourselves etc.
There is always a new Alpha and Omega -a new 'I am'- based upon a new form for a set of opposites; ie: on how the world changes and we see ourseles changing in respect to it. In between when a person has a clear sense of who they are in this changed world, there is a lot of struggle to attain balance. The vicious circle is where the individual finds themself; and when they actually 'find themself' they see 'the circle' instead. Both sides to something as being in harmony with one another and these two sides, opposites, are defined on a deeper level.
Every once in a while, a person in a state of confusion (who is now experiencing the outside world changing too much for them) reaches a peak in their experience and they 'find a part of them that cannot change' that is irrespective of what is going on around them, just as it transcends and goes deeper than their -up to now- definition of what exists and who they are. A new Alpha and Omega is found. And this is akin to the basis of cognitive behavioural therapy, where the purpose is to change one's perception of what is real. But, going by the old idea of what is real, the old set of opposites, definition of self and world, God etc... ends up making a rift, a person finds they struggle to get free and that the more they try the worse their experience becomes. And feelings along with thoughts occur whereby a person becomes concerned with status, and likewise their survival, they cannot help but to some degree think in terms of 'my side' vs 'their side', and Alpha vs Omega, the strong vs the weak, good vs bad etc -and in reality, on this new level, there is no difference between two sides but it is difficult to think this way and to see it when a person is caught up in this emerging re-birth of self and is both emotionally and mind wise caught-up in a past definition of who they are.
And, having said all that, all my 'technique' is was too believe in this new definition of who I am -that one side exists by virtue of the other- that all is relative. And to believe in this and give-up my old way of defining my self, which simply makes me hold-on to 'my side' just in case of pain, and then when opposition comes along I suffer pain because I am unable to adapt to it; and I also find that one part of me thinks my self better whilst the other thinks my self worse. There just is difficulty really being balanced and having emotional integrity.
But all that i do is to allow my self to base who I am on this 'new definition'. I do it by believing that because all is relative, that if I base my self on this only, that everything will turn out how I need and want it to. So I believe in a small part of 'my side' being right and knowing that this is true for others, I focus on building tolerance/acceptance for a part of 'the other side' that is also always right, and through this I allow my self to become more flexible to different people, and to 'do for others what I would like done for me' ....since, life is unfair, until and unless you can see a deeper form for reality, one by which you can recognise how again two sides are equal. And by which you can see the fairness in this unfairness, being that everything moves and changes, and the more a person looks at life like this the easier life is for them -and they don not have to be so fooled by their emotions that in the moment may tell them that they are 'inferior' to others or even that they are 'superior' -which ends up being the same thing.
That's most of what I know and think. But I'm sure there is more complicated aspects at work that I still don't understand properly.