What are your thoughts

[Bar-AKA-Redzer]

Like serious what do u be thinkin for instance just when your outside walking around? if a car goes by? or someone is walkin towards ya? or if you see people you know? or just walkin to go some place do you be think OMG everyone is lookin at me and they know i have SA/SP!!! Do u dread that uhhh i have to go outside today for some reason?

I used to be like that, think everyone was lookin at me in cars or laughing at me on the bus or lookin at me when i walked into a shop, now what i find myself thinking....and thats rare because i always have my MP3 player with me listening to music, but on he odd time i would forget it i am starting to not think about anything really just what i need to get or do once i arrive at my destination. Or for fun to just booast my own ego i look at others and think "ehh what makes me any less of a person then that person...NOTHING!"

I get the idea on here alot of people who afraid of going outside and have to interact with the public in some way be it on bus or in a shop, they just think everyone is lookin at them or talkin about them, but the truth is that no ones gives a shit! all the wanna do is que up at the bustop pay the driver sit down and go home or buy there shopping and go home, no one wants to even make eye contact with other people much less think about some random strangers life sat or standing next to them is like. There probily thinking about what the did at work or did they send that last fax or email or did the forget an item from the shopping list, i can honstly tell you when i am in such places and someone sits down or stands next to me i dont start thinking what is his/her angle i'll look them once over and thats it end of.

 

[redski]

Like serious ...

Yep, you have got the right idea. People do not care, it's all in our head.

 

[divethruhaze]

yeah people usually don't care

the problem is here when its som1 you know / knew in the past that is on the way, that's when awkward situations arise, i think...

 

[mikestar]

All very well saying that now but when I go out tomorrow I'll still be thinking the same.

Other people can tell u there not staring and laughing or whatever, but its gotta come from u and you have to believe yourself not anyone else...thats why am starting cbt sessions on tuesday

 

[Bar-AKA-Redzer]

yeah people usually don't care

the problem is here when its som1 you know / knew in the past that is on the way, that's when awkward situations arise, i think...

Thats true it can be uneasy for a number of reason be it your not that good friends or you never really say much when you do meet or its been months since you last seen them. Here is an idea to try. Lets say the situation arises and you think "ahh shit there is..... its been ages since i seen him/her. Once you have that though then right away think ok to avoid this ugly unplesent moment i'll say hi first like we are best friends and have'nt seen each other in years, get that idea into your head and then act it out the person will be surprised and caught off guard so they will be at ease and if you are happy and cheery and pleasent they will resond to this in the same way, i know i have tried it and it works, then you avoid all that shifty arkward uneasy upset, if you learn how people think and how to use that knowledge you will have a massive advantage on how to control how people respond to you.

 

[danstelter]

Like serious what do u be thinkin for instance just when your outside walking around? if a car goes by? or someone is walkin towards ya? or if you see people you know?

I definitely think, some days, that people are watching me, but what is helpful for me is to actually look around and see who it is that is looking at me. Most people, like you say later in your post, are not looking at me and could care less. Some people just give me random glances though too, and while these used to be frightening, I have learned that other people just look at me because they are looking around to see what is going on, not because I am important, interesting, or goofy in any way.

 

[Bar-AKA-Redzer]

I have learned that other people just look at me because they are looking around to see what is going on, not because I am important, interesting, or goofy in any way.

Thats it thats all there doing i could'nt put it better myself

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

I used to be like that, think everyone was lookin at me in cars or laughing at me on the bus or lookin at me when i walked into a shop, now what i find myself thinking....and thats rare because i always have my MP3 player with me listening to music, but on he odd time i would forget it i am starting to not think about anything really just what i need to get or do once i arrive at my destination. Or for fun to just booast my own ego i look at others and think "ehh what makes me any less of a person then that person...NOTHING!"

I sill get this sometimes. It used to be a lot worse. Headphones and music helps a lot.

 

[recluse]

I only really get it when i see people i know. I start feeling panicky when i see them because they will talk to me and ask me what i am doing.

 

[BlackKids]

I still have negative thoughts but instead of spiraling outta control I can normally just shake them off. I figure that if someone is that intrested in me then they can't have anything better to do and I feel kinda sorry for them.

Not 100% yet but my anxiety hasn't stopped me from doing anything for a few months atleast. I kinda like a little bit of anxiety, butterflys. Makes me feel more aware and alert, more alive you could say

 

[divethruhaze]

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