Hi im new here, ive been reading a lot of posts and think I may have this condition
I think it started for me when I was 13. I moved schools and at the same time developed terrible acne.
Before this I was very outgoing, had loads of friends, and was very confident. My parents always tell me that between 0 and 7 years I never stopped talkin to the point of being irritating. I also always had to be out. Now im quiet and introverted.
After I developed the acne and moved schools some of the kids in the new school would say things like, ughh look at his face or, ooh poor lad. I became very self conscious because of it and used to walk around town and school with my head down not daring to see if anyone was staring at me. In class I despised presentations because it drew all attention on me. I used to feel intense fear, all my limbs would shake, I sweated and my face went noticeably a brighter red making the experience even worse. I made a few friends in the first year of that school but they were the so called UN cool kids. I didn’t really make many new friends because of my anxiety about my looks. I found it especially hard to talk to girls and people I didn’t know. I didn’t like to go out a lot because of my anxiety and so I think I missed out on a lot of experiences to develop my social skills.
Im a lot better now than I used to be due to forcing myself into situations, university helped a lot. I guess my condition isn’t very severe because I only get anxiety now in certain situations. Its strange I have absolutely no anxiety being in large crowds of strangers now, just walking round town. My acne is gone so I don’t feel self conscious about my appearance anymore
I find I can easily talk to strangers, e.g. shop assistants and people im never going to see again. Doing some sales jobs helped immensely. Im comfortable around close friends and family, I am fine with reading to large groups of people I don’t know. I play guitar and sing on stage in front of loads of people and I feel fine.
My main problem lies with people I meet but don’t really know very well.
I get nervous if its one on one but I can cope, sometimes I feel no fear at all if the person is like me, quiet, laid back and shares my interests. My biggest fear comes from groups. The more people around the worse it gets. If I am with a large group and everyone’s standing round in the same conversation and they are all very loud, funny and chatty people I get terrible anxiety. I think the fear lies with people that I perceive to be much better socially than I am. Sometimes the anxiety gets so bad I can’t think straight. I start sweating, my head aches and my mind for some reason goes blank. I seem to with draw into myself and become almost completely silent, only talking when im asked a question. Its like im a different person and people think im arrogant or weird for it but I just cant seem to control it.
I go out with friends but there’s always a large group and a lot of the time people I hardly know are there. Im the quiet one of the group and I worry these other people think im strange. I do like these people and I like the activities but I can’t enjoy myself because of the constant anxiety. Im always happiest when im on my own. After a night out I feel relieved its over and I seem to feel drained afterwards.
I am content and happy with my own company. Not all the time but most of the time. I think the reason I keep putting myself into these situations again and again is because of pressure from society. People don’t understand that you like being by yourself and so to not appear weird and hermit like I force myself to go along with them but im nearly never happy. Im usually always around lots of people, family, friends phoning me, housemates and people at work. If I don’t go out and be with them the problem I know will just get worse so I endure. People seem to always want to intefere in other peoples lives and make them feel bad for being the person they want to be. it sucks
Anyway sorry for the essay and hope it makes sense, am abit drunk while writing this. hope there are others who can relate to these feelings. Any comments or advice would be appreciated.
I think it started for me when I was 13. I moved schools and at the same time developed terrible acne.
Before this I was very outgoing, had loads of friends, and was very confident. My parents always tell me that between 0 and 7 years I never stopped talkin to the point of being irritating. I also always had to be out. Now im quiet and introverted.
After I developed the acne and moved schools some of the kids in the new school would say things like, ughh look at his face or, ooh poor lad. I became very self conscious because of it and used to walk around town and school with my head down not daring to see if anyone was staring at me. In class I despised presentations because it drew all attention on me. I used to feel intense fear, all my limbs would shake, I sweated and my face went noticeably a brighter red making the experience even worse. I made a few friends in the first year of that school but they were the so called UN cool kids. I didn’t really make many new friends because of my anxiety about my looks. I found it especially hard to talk to girls and people I didn’t know. I didn’t like to go out a lot because of my anxiety and so I think I missed out on a lot of experiences to develop my social skills.
Im a lot better now than I used to be due to forcing myself into situations, university helped a lot. I guess my condition isn’t very severe because I only get anxiety now in certain situations. Its strange I have absolutely no anxiety being in large crowds of strangers now, just walking round town. My acne is gone so I don’t feel self conscious about my appearance anymore
I find I can easily talk to strangers, e.g. shop assistants and people im never going to see again. Doing some sales jobs helped immensely. Im comfortable around close friends and family, I am fine with reading to large groups of people I don’t know. I play guitar and sing on stage in front of loads of people and I feel fine.
My main problem lies with people I meet but don’t really know very well.
I get nervous if its one on one but I can cope, sometimes I feel no fear at all if the person is like me, quiet, laid back and shares my interests. My biggest fear comes from groups. The more people around the worse it gets. If I am with a large group and everyone’s standing round in the same conversation and they are all very loud, funny and chatty people I get terrible anxiety. I think the fear lies with people that I perceive to be much better socially than I am. Sometimes the anxiety gets so bad I can’t think straight. I start sweating, my head aches and my mind for some reason goes blank. I seem to with draw into myself and become almost completely silent, only talking when im asked a question. Its like im a different person and people think im arrogant or weird for it but I just cant seem to control it.
I go out with friends but there’s always a large group and a lot of the time people I hardly know are there. Im the quiet one of the group and I worry these other people think im strange. I do like these people and I like the activities but I can’t enjoy myself because of the constant anxiety. Im always happiest when im on my own. After a night out I feel relieved its over and I seem to feel drained afterwards.
I am content and happy with my own company. Not all the time but most of the time. I think the reason I keep putting myself into these situations again and again is because of pressure from society. People don’t understand that you like being by yourself and so to not appear weird and hermit like I force myself to go along with them but im nearly never happy. Im usually always around lots of people, family, friends phoning me, housemates and people at work. If I don’t go out and be with them the problem I know will just get worse so I endure. People seem to always want to intefere in other peoples lives and make them feel bad for being the person they want to be. it sucks
Anyway sorry for the essay and hope it makes sense, am abit drunk while writing this. hope there are others who can relate to these feelings. Any comments or advice would be appreciated.