Greetings,
There must be countless threads about this, or like topics. I admit. However, I still take the liberty of opening up a new one.
Right. Unapproachable. That's what I appear to be. Even if it's not what I say, it's mostly how I say it, or what I look like while saying it. People in real-life - even my principal back at school - have told me that they feared talking to me, that I seemed to disapprove of or dislike any kind of human contact. A very unfriendly and cold vibe must emanate from me.
The thing is, I couldn't care less about whether people want to be friends with me or not. I am enough for myself, in almost all aspects of life. I, however, don't want them to feel uneasy and uncomfortable around me, as for them, their emotions are most significant and decide about their work efficiency. As I (will) have to deal with lots of people in my (future) life, I want to become a bit more approachable such that others can comfortably work together with me. (I may qualify as schizoid. Though, it's self-diagnosed, almost all criteria [except one] match my personality, which appear to suffice according to several diagnostic approaches.)
What I would like to see changed is my seemingly overt display of indifference, such that people can feel good around me. I have no idea whatsoever how to do that, though. I cannot easily control my body language.
Do you know of anything that has worked for you, possibly long-term, and made your body language look more friendly / approachable?
Thanks.
There must be countless threads about this, or like topics. I admit. However, I still take the liberty of opening up a new one.
Right. Unapproachable. That's what I appear to be. Even if it's not what I say, it's mostly how I say it, or what I look like while saying it. People in real-life - even my principal back at school - have told me that they feared talking to me, that I seemed to disapprove of or dislike any kind of human contact. A very unfriendly and cold vibe must emanate from me.
The thing is, I couldn't care less about whether people want to be friends with me or not. I am enough for myself, in almost all aspects of life. I, however, don't want them to feel uneasy and uncomfortable around me, as for them, their emotions are most significant and decide about their work efficiency. As I (will) have to deal with lots of people in my (future) life, I want to become a bit more approachable such that others can comfortably work together with me. (I may qualify as schizoid. Though, it's self-diagnosed, almost all criteria [except one] match my personality, which appear to suffice according to several diagnostic approaches.)
What I would like to see changed is my seemingly overt display of indifference, such that people can feel good around me. I have no idea whatsoever how to do that, though. I cannot easily control my body language.
Do you know of anything that has worked for you, possibly long-term, and made your body language look more friendly / approachable?
Thanks.
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