Hi guys.
I've been attending an anxiety group - it lasts six weeks and is with six or so other people. It's mostly just being taught about coping techniques, but I have managed to get myself to speak sometimes when the group is asked things.
Next week is the last week and as usual I'm leaving without knowing anyone. Well I didn't really expect that to happen, but most of them I've barely said more than 'hi' to. Why can't I find the time to try to talk to people? What do other people do? The problem is the sessions are two hours long and there just aren't enough opportunities... it ends up as a short time when they arrive at the start, and a few minutes as a break in the middle, when if I'm lucky, there might be a chance. This isn't even one-on-one, but most of them seem to disappear in the break so it depends who stays. It's usually one or two of them. And then if I do get a chance, I feel too awkward.
I thought that making an effort not to sit silently in the corner for the entire time would help people want to talk to me but it just doesn't make any difference. I'm definitely approachable. :sad:
There are other groups that I might go to in the future and I'm going to try not to get hung up on this one but I'm afraid that starting again every few weeks is going to stop me getting anywhere. It's just too slow and I know I need to learn what to do but I'm so stuck. It's such a shame and such a waste.
Any ideas what I can do next time to get anything more from the time I have left? I'm not even in a position to make anyone a coffee or anything... I know I'm not going to me making friends or getting phone numbers but just to feel like I exist would be nice. Last time nobody even looked at me or said 'bye' to me when it finished although some kind of have in the past.
I've been attending an anxiety group - it lasts six weeks and is with six or so other people. It's mostly just being taught about coping techniques, but I have managed to get myself to speak sometimes when the group is asked things.
Next week is the last week and as usual I'm leaving without knowing anyone. Well I didn't really expect that to happen, but most of them I've barely said more than 'hi' to. Why can't I find the time to try to talk to people? What do other people do? The problem is the sessions are two hours long and there just aren't enough opportunities... it ends up as a short time when they arrive at the start, and a few minutes as a break in the middle, when if I'm lucky, there might be a chance. This isn't even one-on-one, but most of them seem to disappear in the break so it depends who stays. It's usually one or two of them. And then if I do get a chance, I feel too awkward.
I thought that making an effort not to sit silently in the corner for the entire time would help people want to talk to me but it just doesn't make any difference. I'm definitely approachable. :sad:
There are other groups that I might go to in the future and I'm going to try not to get hung up on this one but I'm afraid that starting again every few weeks is going to stop me getting anywhere. It's just too slow and I know I need to learn what to do but I'm so stuck. It's such a shame and such a waste.
Any ideas what I can do next time to get anything more from the time I have left? I'm not even in a position to make anyone a coffee or anything... I know I'm not going to me making friends or getting phone numbers but just to feel like I exist would be nice. Last time nobody even looked at me or said 'bye' to me when it finished although some kind of have in the past.