To SMS or not to SMS...

[Toby1991]

I really like this girl who works at the local coffee bean. I have known her for a couple of years, we also use to go to the same high school. I liked her when I was 17 i'm now 19. I had asked her out when I was 17 but she said no, which I respected.

We've started talking again (after 8 1/2 months of silence) and i messaged her last weekend asking if she'd like to meet up for a catch up, she said yes but would prefer if our mutual friends came along because of it being awkward......not exactly the answer I was looking for.

All our mutual friends are away in Europe and won't be back till mid august....I don't want to wait but think that might be my only option.

I was considering sending her another message along the lines of it wouldnt be awkward (I do like her, but no where near as infatuated as what i used to be, she never knew to the extent that I liked her). I don't think it would be uncomfortable and i would just try act as normal as i could. Would rather do something sooner rather than later, don't understand why our friends have to be there...!

Just wondered what you dudes thought the best thing to do is...

1. Wait till august until our friends come back and arrange a meet up then.
2. Message her again, kind of reassuring her it wouldn't be uncomfortable.
3. Other...

Thank you for reading.

 

[Damaged]

Well i'm not sure if you still like her more than a friend? because if you do maybe thats why she feels a bit uncomfortable because you asked her out before.
If you just want to be friends with her and catch up then tell her that, reassure her that it won't be uncomfortable.

 

[Anthem of the Angels]

You probably should wait... another message could either creep her out or convince her that her friends' presence is not a requirement... which I can't guess.
Either way, this is just my opinion, and not expert advice

Welcome to the forum

 

[Ignace]

Welcome to SPW, you don't seem to have any social problems, that's good for you !

I would just SMS her, it's not gonna ruin your chance or anything. Are you in love with her ? If she isn't, you're gonna be dissapointed again, try to think about that. Other then that: good luck !

 

[Noca]

Welcome to SPW! I would give it a few days since she texted you before you should text her back.

 

[fudgy]

I would text , but nothing to heavy ...

remember she may have her own issues and fears which is why she wants a chaperone as it where !


I would just say something like " would rather meet sooner than august for a catch up and don't worry I certainly don't feel awkward , just looking forward to meeting up again"

if she insists on waiting then respect that. ( and move on )

 

[Toby1991]

Thank you for all your responses everyone! Probably the best thing to do if i want to salvage the friendship is to leave it till august....knowing my luck she wouldn't reply and i'd feel like an idiot for texting her.

 

[foxdude]

I wouldn't text if I were you...
she's been very clear to you, so you should respect that