thoughts on your future

[lily]

hi everyone, What are your thoughts on your future. I was thinking about my future and now that I very recently got my eye contact to be quite a lot better, I thought my mom will retire soon so I don't want a 9-5 job and only get to spend the evening with her. I want to be able to spend valuable time with her. After she retires, she would like to enjoy her life so I want to spend that time with her and we get to have fun together too. So I want to work at a cafe so I can come home after shifts and then spend time with my mom or even meet up with her somewhere. What about you? What would you like your future to look like?

 

[Xervello]

hi everyone, What are your thoughts on your future. I was thinking about my future and now that I very recently got my eye contact to be quite a lot better, I thought my mom will retire soon so I don't want a 9-5 job and only get to spend the evening with her. I want to be able to spend valuable time with her. After she retires, she would like to enjoy her life so I want to spend that time with her and we get to have fun together too. So I want to work at a cafe so I can come home after shifts and then spend time with my mom or even meet up with her somewhere. What about you? What would you like your future to look like?

Sounds great, lily! You both sound so close. That's lovely.

As for myself, I don't know. It's the one question I've not been able to answer ever since I was a teenager. I have a friend who lives in Australia that would be excited to have me as a roommate. That could be a possibility. I'm currently looking after my mother, who has health issues, so right now I'm pretty much stuck. Which isn't her fault. I've been stuck prior to her issues. Getting over my dependency on others has always been the biggest hurdle. But life is funny and weird and unpredictable. We'll see!

Best of luck to both of us, eh.

 

[lily]

Sounds great, lily! You both sound so close. That's lovely.

As for myself, I don't know. It's the one question I've not been able to answer ever since I was a teenager. I have a friend who lives in Australia that would be excited to have me as a roommate. That could be a possibility. I'm currently looking after my mother, who has health issues, so right now I'm pretty much stuck. Which isn't her fault. I've been stuck prior to her issues. Getting over my dependency on others has always been the biggest hurdle. But life is funny and weird and unpredictable. We'll see!

Best of luck to both of us, eh.

Yes we are very close Thanks. I see, your friend in Australia would be excited to have you as a room mate. That sounds so nice! How do you feel about that? What are your thoughts on that? I'm so sorry to hear your mother has health issues right now. What kind of health issue? I can probably help. Yeah it would be hard to get over dependency issues if your social anxiety is really bad. Finally, just recently I've been quite a lot better with my eye contact from a short YouTube video I was given to watch which was weird like you said because I was looking for medicine to help me.

Yeah, we'll see.. and yes, best of luck to both of us, hehe.

 

[Graeme1988]

What do I want my future to look like?

Like Xervello, this is a question I struggle to answer. Mainly because I don't tend to think about. really. I guess I'd like to be a wee bit more independent and not so reliant upon those around me to do things for me. But that's more related to my cerebral palsy than anything else.

Though, I see myself living in bungalow at some point in the future. Either by myself or with my mum whom I care for. As both of us kinda struggle with the flight of stairs which lead to our bedroom in the house. It's spiral staircase as well; which we both fell down at some point in the past. My mum did more recently, a few months ago. And I fell down them twice many years; both times I broke bones in my feet.

Oh, and I'd like to get over my constant self-doubt and lack of confidence. I feel that my negative self-talk about myself has really stop me from doing things.

 

[lily]

What do I want my future to look like?

Like Xervello, this is a question I struggle to answer. Mainly because I don't tend to think about. really. I guess I'd like to be a wee bit more independent and not so reliant upon those around me to do things for me. But that's more related to my cerebral palsy than anything else.

Though, I see myself living in bungalow at some point in the future. Either by myself or with my mum whom I care for. As both of us kinda struggle with the flight of stairs which lead to our bedroom in the house. It's spiral staircase as well; which we both fell down at some point in the past. My mum did more recently, a few months ago. And I fell down them twice many years; both times I broke bones in my feet.

Oh, and I'd like to get over my constant self-doubt and lack of confidence. I feel that my negative self-talk about myself has really stop me from doing things.

Yes I'd like to be more independent too. And like you, I'd like to move to a new place which is something that's in progress right now. Good luck with living in a new bungalow w/ your mom if you do! I believe you can! You deserve it! You're a nice person. Yes, that's true, I see you having negative self-talk, but you can build your self-confidence by positive affirmation and perspective/outlook! Try, try, try like I have to, too.

 

[Xervello]

Yes we are very close Thanks. I see, your friend in Australia would be excited to have you as a room mate. That sounds so nice! How do you feel about that? What are your thoughts on that? I'm so sorry to hear your mother has health issues right now. What kind of health issue? I can probably help. Yeah it would be hard to get over dependency issues if your social anxiety is really bad. Finally, just recently I've been quite a lot better with my eye contact from a short YouTube video I was given to watch which was weird like you said because I was looking for medicine to help me.

Yeah, we'll see.. and yes, best of luck to both of us, hehe.

The Australia option is probably unlikely at the moment. For starters, I have a dog and I don't see how I could safely transport her with me there. I'm not putting her on multiple planes for 20 hours. And I don't see how with my severe anxiety and inexperience with independence I could manage flying thousands of miles on my own. It's more of a "break glass in case of emergencies" option right now, lol.

As for my mother's health issues, she's getting older. It's harder for her to walk, she has some breathing problems. She's becoming more physically dependent on others (me) to do things. I appreciate you wanting to help though, that's very sweet! I'm happy that your issues with eye contact have improved. Was your difficulties with it due to anxiety or a because of a physical problem?

 

[lily]

I see.. I don't know if my eye contact difficulty is due to anything physical like me not having the right or enough of the right chemicals so I have to try harder. I was not brought up with very good nutrition though. It just was not that good, even bad nutrition for the developing brain. I find that I still get anxious though like if I forget to calm my brain for a while or if there's new people or more people around or a very outgoing person but I'm working towards trying herbs like an adaptogen and calming herb/s in addition to what this video has helped me w/ and along with seeing a counselor. Thanks for being happy for me in improving my eye contact. I said thanks to the bus driver today. haha