Edited: Ok I put it back up..may delete it later
I thought people would just find me stupid and I didn't feel like getting bad comments anytime soon.
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As I sit here playing Guild Wars, it comes to my attention how imperfected everything is, including me.
Ever since I was diagnosed with my mental illness/es I have wondered why I could not be like everyone else.
The first time I fell in love was the longest hope I ever had. She gave me what I did not have..HOPE! Every night I would lay my head down on my pillow and think nothing else but her, I even dreamed of her. Nothing ever lasts forever and it ended..who ended it? Myself! But why? I still have no obvious reason. I could never live up to what I wanted and my future was surely grim. How could I make her feel good about herself when I wither in my own negative self. I try to shrug off these things from my mind but they always return and take over my mind.
I feel incapable of loving another person in a way they find satisfying. My head drops to the ground in sorrow as I write this.
But am I missing something? It takes 2 people to love. Yet I only see in black, not black or white, or grey, just black....I expect that I should be the only one who can love and others could never love me back. Is this why it never works out?
No matter how I try I can never accept a person loves me. No matter how they prove it, I always tell myself that I am not worthy of being loved and throw it aside. But hey, there's a big problem here. If I feel that I can only try to love, do people turn me down for the same reasons? Reality check!! No, I don't think so. So what? I have to find a solution. The only one that seems to make sense and what I have stuck by has been the fact that I love and fail and everyone loves and fails. Love doesn't exist, but I try to make it happen. Am iI loving/being loved but seeking perfection?
No matter what method or way I look at it, things turn out bad. My biggest weakness has to be not accepting ignorance as a way of life. I try not to ignore anything except the things that cause me great pain, but once past that stage the pain is too great to ignore and it becomes all so clear.
This is the longest time I have been ill and not had a girlfriend. Why should it bother me? I guess it's because I feel weak and a failure. These guys are able to get girlfriends easy but me? I am looking for a very specific type. Anyway, It's been well over a year since I actually had a girlfriend online. Before hand I only used to be without one for a few months. A year must not be long, I suppose, but to give you an idea of my age. I will be happy to live to 40, yet I'm 21. I feel half my age already so I guess it's been 2 years.
Every moment I do not have someone to talk to me I feel horrible. You know what really gets me? Women will choose guys who are less sensitive to guys like me, who even they claim that I am very nice and understanding. I will sit down and listen to their problems for hours and other emotional support. I truly am a selfish selfless man..it's true! While I care about my needs mostly I cost myself a huge amount of emotional pain by helping others feel better about themselves. Isn't that what a woman would want? A man who REALLY would like to get better and help others. I do not want a job that pays, I want to do it all volunteer. I don't care how much it costs me, but in future I just want to help people who suffer more. My target? The developing world. Anyway, I suppose it makes sense. A guy who causes himself pain to help others is not a stable person. I never ask for help, but no one really offers it to me either. Now here's the bit that makes the selfish selfless make sense. When someone tries to do the same for me (offer emotional support) I will not accept it and hurt them in return. So I'm the only one who is allowed to do it, right? Selfish! Or am I wrong?
I may seem like I don't want to do some things, but I really do. I want to grab my girl and hug her..I want to tell her I love her, I want to show her by giving and accepting. Not material stuff, because I don't have much of that, but with...
:sigh:
It's a dream. Requirement for happiness includes a part of me that is a dream, it's just never gonna happen. As you can see, I am negative as hell. This is my downfall and I'll never improve it. I'll never get to touch another girls hand, not in real life. Someone HUG me, even an E-HUG.......If a girl can get past my horrible looks, what does she have under that is so attractive? There isn't anything. I am a frankenstein inside and a monster on the outside. Women/Girls who pass through that and find something good are rare and/or already taken.
With my life and illness, I can never find someone like that. I haven't even tried to, I've waited and done everything I can. A year later I haven't even talked to a female to the point of getting personal in such a way. Sure I've had some deep conversations and emotional things happen but not even any of them would be interested in anything more. I dunno, they just get scared and I find they are scared of me so I do them a favor and just leave.
Silence, Darkness, Loneliness...The Shadow that walks and everyone mistakes for another shadow.
I cast a shadow but it's all a person can see. WHY CAN'T I BE INLOVE!!!! *cries*
I thought I was getting over this, but it's striked back big time because of the length of being completely alone. I was in bath earlier and just wanted to lay there and die. I gotta find someone, but I just can't. I won't accept anyone. Desperate and losing it!!!!
I thought people would just find me stupid and I didn't feel like getting bad comments anytime soon.
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As I sit here playing Guild Wars, it comes to my attention how imperfected everything is, including me.
Ever since I was diagnosed with my mental illness/es I have wondered why I could not be like everyone else.
The first time I fell in love was the longest hope I ever had. She gave me what I did not have..HOPE! Every night I would lay my head down on my pillow and think nothing else but her, I even dreamed of her. Nothing ever lasts forever and it ended..who ended it? Myself! But why? I still have no obvious reason. I could never live up to what I wanted and my future was surely grim. How could I make her feel good about herself when I wither in my own negative self. I try to shrug off these things from my mind but they always return and take over my mind.
I feel incapable of loving another person in a way they find satisfying. My head drops to the ground in sorrow as I write this.
But am I missing something? It takes 2 people to love. Yet I only see in black, not black or white, or grey, just black....I expect that I should be the only one who can love and others could never love me back. Is this why it never works out?
No matter how I try I can never accept a person loves me. No matter how they prove it, I always tell myself that I am not worthy of being loved and throw it aside. But hey, there's a big problem here. If I feel that I can only try to love, do people turn me down for the same reasons? Reality check!! No, I don't think so. So what? I have to find a solution. The only one that seems to make sense and what I have stuck by has been the fact that I love and fail and everyone loves and fails. Love doesn't exist, but I try to make it happen. Am iI loving/being loved but seeking perfection?
No matter what method or way I look at it, things turn out bad. My biggest weakness has to be not accepting ignorance as a way of life. I try not to ignore anything except the things that cause me great pain, but once past that stage the pain is too great to ignore and it becomes all so clear.
This is the longest time I have been ill and not had a girlfriend. Why should it bother me? I guess it's because I feel weak and a failure. These guys are able to get girlfriends easy but me? I am looking for a very specific type. Anyway, It's been well over a year since I actually had a girlfriend online. Before hand I only used to be without one for a few months. A year must not be long, I suppose, but to give you an idea of my age. I will be happy to live to 40, yet I'm 21. I feel half my age already so I guess it's been 2 years.
Every moment I do not have someone to talk to me I feel horrible. You know what really gets me? Women will choose guys who are less sensitive to guys like me, who even they claim that I am very nice and understanding. I will sit down and listen to their problems for hours and other emotional support. I truly am a selfish selfless man..it's true! While I care about my needs mostly I cost myself a huge amount of emotional pain by helping others feel better about themselves. Isn't that what a woman would want? A man who REALLY would like to get better and help others. I do not want a job that pays, I want to do it all volunteer. I don't care how much it costs me, but in future I just want to help people who suffer more. My target? The developing world. Anyway, I suppose it makes sense. A guy who causes himself pain to help others is not a stable person. I never ask for help, but no one really offers it to me either. Now here's the bit that makes the selfish selfless make sense. When someone tries to do the same for me (offer emotional support) I will not accept it and hurt them in return. So I'm the only one who is allowed to do it, right? Selfish! Or am I wrong?
I may seem like I don't want to do some things, but I really do. I want to grab my girl and hug her..I want to tell her I love her, I want to show her by giving and accepting. Not material stuff, because I don't have much of that, but with...
:sigh:
It's a dream. Requirement for happiness includes a part of me that is a dream, it's just never gonna happen. As you can see, I am negative as hell. This is my downfall and I'll never improve it. I'll never get to touch another girls hand, not in real life. Someone HUG me, even an E-HUG.......If a girl can get past my horrible looks, what does she have under that is so attractive? There isn't anything. I am a frankenstein inside and a monster on the outside. Women/Girls who pass through that and find something good are rare and/or already taken.
With my life and illness, I can never find someone like that. I haven't even tried to, I've waited and done everything I can. A year later I haven't even talked to a female to the point of getting personal in such a way. Sure I've had some deep conversations and emotional things happen but not even any of them would be interested in anything more. I dunno, they just get scared and I find they are scared of me so I do them a favor and just leave.
Silence, Darkness, Loneliness...The Shadow that walks and everyone mistakes for another shadow.
I cast a shadow but it's all a person can see. WHY CAN'T I BE INLOVE!!!! *cries*
I thought I was getting over this, but it's striked back big time because of the length of being completely alone. I was in bath earlier and just wanted to lay there and die. I gotta find someone, but I just can't. I won't accept anyone. Desperate and losing it!!!!