Theres a girl I like

[Darker Than Black]

I liked her, but got over it long ago

 

[Anomaly]

You know, she might consider your behavior a bit cute. Some do. It's hard to say what course of action you should take. Maybe get in a study group with her?

 

[Darker Than Black]

You know, she might consider your behavior a bit cute. Some do. It's hard to say what course of action you should take. Maybe get in a study group with her?

...um..o_0..well, shes in neuroscience..I'm in petroleum engineering..wtf, I don't know her, she doesn't know me, I don't know anyone that knows her, so its gonna be awkward if I do..besides, what am I going to say..to whom?

 

[Anomaly]

Looks like you've got a bit of work to do, then. Find some people who do know her. Find out what she's interested in and try to initiate a conversation about it (on MSN if you have to). Maybe there are some GE classes you both might have to take? You'll be taking some electives anyway.

 

[Scrabbl]

I don't know dude. I have no advice for you since i have the same problem.
What I'd do is to give up on this one girl. instead I'd focus on getting some friends first, who might introduce you to some girls they know

 

[Darker Than Black]

That's it, I give up on this relationship thing.

I messaged her yesterday, and I was like

me: Hi

her: hi

me: How are u?

her: ...
lol im good..

and so on, and

it was awkward.

I gave up, I'm not going to pursue and relationships kind of thing ever again, its too much, I'm going back and focusing on school.

 

[jamie99]

That's it, I give up on this relationship thing.

I messaged her yesterday, and I was like

me: Hi

her: hi

me: How are u?

her: ...
lol im good..

and so on, and

it was awkward.

I gave up, I'm not going to pursue and relationships kind of thing ever again, its too much, I'm going back and focusing on school.

What was so bad about that? Don't give up so easily..

 

[Darker Than Black]

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[divethruhaze]

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[Flimsyman]

I hate girls that give all the initiative to boys as if we were ****ing animals and they were expecting some demonstration of our habilities. I saw in Discovery channel that some kind of monkeys do just that, they start to jump around to impress the female while the female does nothing, just seats there in silence and waits in order to decide which of the monkeys is the nicest one. I am no monkey, and since I am no monkey, I don´t wanna have anything to do with girls that write things like "...." in msn just waiting for us to impress them by our habilities. Besides, since women emancipation we are suposed to have the same roles, then why do we have to talk to them and entertain them as if they were above us and we had to exepct them to judge us. I know, my english it´s no good, but I try

 

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[Richey]

she is not better then you, she does a crap, probably trips over, says awkward things. messes up. what are you basing this defeatist mindset on? if it's looks then pretend that she is ugly, whenever you see her if she struts then pretend she has an embarrassing limp and a gimp leg.

its like whenever i walk through busy shopping malls i pretend that everyone is naked and i'm this superior being. of course i don't truly believe that i'm superior in reality but when i put this belief into practice i actually start to relax and i laugh imagining these people walking around with no clothes on as if its normal like its some monty pythons episode. it helps me with being less self conscious and i'll try any method.

if i was you i wouldn't become attatched with the idea of this one girl you dont really know, and you arn't even friends with yet. in fact you'd be better off trying to just make friends with new people instead of thinking in tunnel vision of finding a girlfriend especially on limited interaction. its a nice thought but really you want to just make a connection and make it seem as if you are relaxed and interested. pretend that you are like a cousin and you've known her all her life so you're not as anxious. so its not as frightening initially.

the reason i say this is because the novelty of attraction and that fuzzy feeling two people get will wear off over a certain period. so you want to know that this girl or any girl is also someone you are comfortable around and that you both have a strong relationship.

work on your randomness and ability to make people smile and laugh. go and practice it on your family or a person you are already comfortable around. if there isn't anybody then do it in front of a mirror and start living your own life how you want it. you'll find that once you are in your element or stride then people will start to gravitate towards you because you'll look happier and more relaxed this way.

 

[Darker Than Black]

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