Anubis
Well-known member
I've been a member of this forum for a good half-year, and this is something I've just noticed in A LOT of people's posts (including mine when I was really depressed). For some reason, the essence of every social phobes problem is rooted in their hatred of how their actions "seemingly" never result in what they believe should be the appropriate result. This feeling of hatred is aggravated when they see others that "seemingly" do the same action, but get their preferred results and more. The social phobe then gets angry at himself, and the world, and stops doing the action almost as a protest to the world and it's unfair reciprocity. He also obviously stops because he is afraid that any miscalculated actions might result in permanent and harmful consequences.
I'm not really suggesting a solution, except the interesting observation (at least to me) that social phobia is deeply rooted in the need for control. And perhaps to gently alleviate it, the social phobe in question must aggressively explore methods on how to consciously perceive that he has control. It is only after the social phobe has gained an adequate sense of certainty in his life that we may say he is cured from social phobia.
That is my theory at least. And yes, it is kinda obvious, but sometimes the most obvious things allude us, lol.
I'm not really suggesting a solution, except the interesting observation (at least to me) that social phobia is deeply rooted in the need for control. And perhaps to gently alleviate it, the social phobe in question must aggressively explore methods on how to consciously perceive that he has control. It is only after the social phobe has gained an adequate sense of certainty in his life that we may say he is cured from social phobia.
That is my theory at least. And yes, it is kinda obvious, but sometimes the most obvious things allude us, lol.