Tell Your Most Shamefull Secrets or Evidence Proving That You Are Unloveable

[Phobologist]

As long as you dont make personal attacks,or let things get out of hand if you can help it,you have every right to defend your opinions and stuff Just common sence really.If your unsure about anything read the rules,I know that sounds a bit cold but they will give you an idea of what we consider crossing the line on here and stuff,I will try and find you a linky.

linkage- http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/policy-revised-rules-3332/

Okay, for example, let's suppose someone with agoraphobia says that I am being a whiney baby and making a huge deal out of nothing because I can't take criticism, and that I should just get a grip. This is a direct attack on my social anxiety, and demeans my person by insinuating that my problem with rejection isn't real, and that I a have a personality flaw, attitude problem, or some other deficiency which is behind it.

Could I respond to that person in such a fashion: "Well perhaps your agoraphobia isn't a big deal and you are just a whiney baby who really shouldn't be trolling on this website".

I honestly don't see the difference. What do you think? Would that be going over the line. Its an honest opinion and really, Its not going to hurt as much as what they did to me.

 

[Danfalc]

I just want to point out,a couple of people did point out to him that "people have it worse than you"..now imo that isnt really constructive and it's even a bit petty,its not a competition and he never claimed he has it worse than everyone.I can actualy understand why he got annoyed.

And *sighs* Phobologist.. I was sticking up for you just as you wrote me that message as you can see above.You have read the rules,they are pretty easy to understand,common sence as I said and I'm not going to get into a big debate.

But no you couldnt respond like that,instead if you percieve somthing to be a personal attack,report it to us instead of taking it into your own hands.

 

[Phobologist]

Like i said just my opinion, everyone is intitled to there own and as far as i see it i dont think it does much for anyone. I cant speak for everyone here so i cant tell you what to expect but like i said before when you post threads your open to criticism and people are gonna disagree so there was no need to over react like that and i also dont like how you talked to agoraphobickatie in the message you sent her because she disagreed with you.

You can have your opinions, and I can have mine. So here' goes:

This thread is probably one of the most important ever posted on this website. Its got over 600 views in one and a half days. Everyone has secrets they need to let out, if they felt safe here, they would do so. If you don't like this thread, then it's too bad. Im not going to take it down for your comlaints. And as for free-speech, you dont want me to have it, so you lose your right to it also. I think your complaints should be deleted and removed from this thread because they make others feel unsafe and upset.

As for katie, well I think that's screwed up she snitched on me. It was a private message intended for her eyes only. But oh well, I should have known better than to send anyone a private message! ::

 

[Phobologist]

I just want to point out,a couple of people did point out to him that "people have it worse than you"..now imo that isnt really constructive and it's even a bit petty,its not a competition and he never claimed he has it worse than everyone.I can actualy understand why he got annoyed.

And *sighs* Phobologist.. I was sticking up for you just as you wrote me that message as you can see above.You have read the rules,they are pretty easy to understand,common sence as I said and I'm not going to get into a big debate.

But no you couldnt respond like that,instead if you percieve somthing to be a personal attack,report it to us instead of taking it into your own hands.

Hey Danfalc, thanks for responding:

1. Thanks for understanding why I felt attacked and hurt. Actually someone admitted to me in private that they felt insecure and upset because my problems didnt seem "serious" to them. There is a lot this going around here and honestly, I really think something needs to be done about it.


2. No debate! I will not argue, and I mean that. However, I have no common sense. Thats part of the reason Im here. I think I'm really out of touch with other people because of my SA. Im super sensitive and tend to get hostile easily. Im really trying to work on it. I am actually treating this thread as a personal triumph. Normally....yea. You get the idea.


3. Okay, I will do so. All personal attacks shall be reported immediately.

 

[Danfalc]

No worries man

1) I can understand you felt hurt,I would feel a bit annoyed if I was honest about all my insecurities,then someone told me they had it worse than me,or people in general have it worse than me.That doesnt mean your problems arnt hard for you.

But saying that,I think you AgraphobicKate,And Bar got wires crossed,all they really said is they didnt think these threads helped in there defense.

2)No worries,I would try and break down the rules a bit more for you,but I am honestly too tired now.Just before you write somthing,try and think if it might offend someone.And even if you feel offended that doesnt give you the right to last back at someone.Hope that helps a bit maybe.

 

[Phobologist]

Yep, thanks Dan.

I will allow the moderators to do the asskicking. I will just report stuff and let justice ensue. Theres no need for me to get riled up and strike back.

 

[Bar-AKA-Redzer]

You can have your opinions, and I can have mine. So here' goes:

This thread is probably one of the most important ever posted on this website. Its got over 600 views in one and a half days. Everyone has secrets they need to let out, if they felt safe here, they would do so. If you don't like this thread, then it's too bad. Im not going to take it down for your comlaints. And as for free-speech, you dont want me to have it, so you lose your right to it also. I think your complaints should be deleted and removed from this thread because they make others feel unsafe and upset.

As for katie, well I think that's screwed up she snitched on me. It was a private message intended for her eyes only. But oh well, I should have known better than to send anyone a private message! ::

Hold on a minute you, dont gimme some crap about freedom of specch because you cant deal with the fact that some one dont like your post so ya go on about me saying you cant have freedom of speech show me an example of this....? and as for this i think your complaints should be deleted and removed from this thread because they make others feel unsafe and upset Thats cause you dont like me so thats a personal attack on me because you dont like gettin told that i dont like your post so thats tit for tat and thats just sad mate. And so what if Katie wants to tell me about how you harssed her we are friends and we talk your lucky she did'nt report it as it goes cause i dont think the mods would like to hear that kinda news

 

[Remus]

thread closed due to flame war

mods will take a look into this