Sweaty hands/body - new love relationship

Sprawling

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#1
It's been almost 5 years since my last relationship and have now entered a new relationship with a woman whom I met several years ago. Sometimes you just never know that someone you met in your past might be a future lover. My new love and I have seen each other maybe twice a year atvaries parties and such and have always clicked. It's all about timing. Funny thing is we live about 2 miles apart.

I told my new love about my hand sweating right off the bat. Her reaction was "so what." She mentioned how her hands and feet were always cold. Talking about taking a load off ones mind. Funny how I can hold her hand and feel dry. Yes, I do ionto and it works most of the time, but not all of the time.

At times I sweat around her and I've had full body sweating with her and it's no big deal. I only feel a little self conscious about it, but knowing I'm with a partner that doesn't care makes all the difference. She cares about me, not about how my hands, feet or body sweats. She doesn't jump, make faces or pull away if my hands are wet when I touch any part of her.

I've mentioned of how I've experienced this sort of thing in my life in previous older posts. I've also mentioned being on dates with people who pull there hands away from slight moisture coming from mine. When you meet someone special, the sweating stuff becomes small and I don't say this lightly.

It's wonderful not having to put a whole lot of worrying into something I have little control over. I've told my story numerous times over the years. Been married, have a child, divorced, several relationships etc.

Our life with another person is not defined by our sweaty problem. I'm living proof of that. Yes, it effects different areas of our lives, yet it doesn't have to in our love relationships. If you don't take a chance with someone, then you are the one loosing out.

Being in my 50's I learned to be up front about my sweating situation. The more you tell people about it, the easier it becomes whether it's just your friends, family or potential love interest. It was hard at first, but for me it's at the point like talking about the weather.

Just wanted to share:).
 

NickM

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#2
Great post sprawling! I have super sweaty hands, feet, and other areas, and I'm getting married to a beautiful woman in May! You don't have to let HH stop you from finding love. Just be open and true to yourself and the right person won't mind your condition!


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Englishman

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#3
Glad to hear it Sprawling it looks like you have become a living example of your own preachings, I'm happy for you, hopefully I can take the same mental attitude as you in the future.
 

CharlesN

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#4
Awesome! You help a lot of people on here with your knowledge. Happy to see you find someone that 'fits' with you... Good luck with it moving forward.
 
#6
You are a virtuous man... your vision of love is realy natural... its not aplicable to me... or others i know... i live in a dream... she is my dream........ i think im gonna be crazy xD
 
#7
Wow this takes real confidence , I've never told a soul , not even my mum. I had a partner for 3 years and he doesn't gave a clue even to this day! X
 

Sprawling

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#9
I found it so much easier to talk about HH with others than to hide it. Sometimes I sweat with my new girlfriend, sometimes not. She can be rubbing my hand and which of course is a trigger point for sweating and it doesn't phase her in the least. For the most part my hands have been pretty dry when I hold her hand. Having an understanding partner makes all the difference.

Intimate relations are of course very sweaty at times and I'm sure that's the case for regular non HH people also. Having HH is no reason not to have a loving relationship.
 

corranhorn

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#10
Sprawling, do you think her reaction may be in part to being older and more mature? I'm in your shoes, though in my 20's. I am divorced and have tried dating, but the reactions of people I tell when I date were not the same as yours.

Generally, I find women my age to be vain, and men to be judgmental and ignorant, so I keep it to myself.
 
#11
Awesome to hear and it's a great reminder that people go through much more serious issues than we do with our own sweaty hands. I have really just began to laugh it off and be upfront about it, it really does work wonders.
 

Sprawling

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#12
Sprawling, do you think her reaction may be in part to being older and more mature? I'm in your shoes, though in my 20's. I am divorced and have tried dating, but the reactions of people I tell when I date were not the same as yours.

Generally, I find women my age to be vain, and men to be judgmental and ignorant, so I keep it to myself.
I'm not sure it has to do with age. When I was in my early 20's I dated a woman for 8 years and she was well aware of my sweating and it never bothered her. In my 30's I married a woman and had a child and the sweating wasn't an issue.

In my late 40's dated a woman for 3 years and my sweating wasn't a concern.

I tried dating a friend of mine in my 50's and there was a reaction from her with my hand sweating. She is still a very close friend and the not perusing a relationship had little to do with her reaction to my hand sweating.

It's possible you are just not meeting the kind of people you'd like to be meeting. Don't give up.
 

Sprawling

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#13
Awesome to hear and it's a great reminder that people go through much more serious issues than we do with our own sweaty hands. I have really just began to laugh it off and be upfront about it, it really does work wonders.
I agree about being upfront about it. The more one talks about it, the easier it becomes.

To those of us that have HH it is a serious issue that is hard t ignore. One can not fairly compare one illness or disability to another. Each can be hard on the person who has to live through it.
 
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