Ok so I need some opinions/advice I have worked out a highly contributing factor to my s.a and it's my insecurity regarding my calves and I kist cannot accept them and will never wear shorts to the gym I am sick of being so self concious I feel they have held me back alot in life and after much research I have discovered that there is hope and I can get them reduced with minimal complications ( I rlly think I had bdd for years unknowingly and i developed s.a and bulimia bcoz of it) what are your thoughts ..
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I think surgery is a super bad idea for someone with BDD. Fixing an imaginary calf problem will not solve a legit psych problem. You'll probably just find something else wrong with you. Not to mention the cost and pain involved. Why not post a picture of your calves. People around here will be honest (I think, anyway I will be). They are probably lovely.
aien89
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I do see your point and understand your problem. It's not good going around being insecure, because you're unhappy with a bodypart.
I'm glad that you get this opportunity to change it, but think wisely about it. Sometimes you just have to accept these things. If people get bad opinions of you because of your calves, they do not deserve your friendship nor your love.
And even if you do get the operation done, what will happen next? Suddenly you find a new bodypart you want to change, and this can end up in a vicious cycle. I have SAD myself and I'm insecure about many things about my body, but you must always try to think rationally. When we have SAD, we get irrational thoughts in our mind and the key tool is to control those thoughts.
You're a pretty girl - accept yourself for who you really are
Well it's kind of hard to accept them when I continuously get **** for them everytime I show them or showed them someone comments and I'm not imagining it I got teased fir them which led me to feel the way I do I trulely hate my calves I honestly do not have a problem with any other part of my body face or skin it's just my muscly calves bcoz of being teased and put down about them i'm sick of hiding I want to feel confident and happy in my own skin I wud do anything for a confidence boost I notice everytime I get a grip of my s.a I move onto my calf issues and Trying to fix those or I get a comment about them takes me back to square one
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I'm not going to say don't do it, just please be very aware of what you are doing. You have to have realistic expectations if you are going to have surgery, do NOT expect it to change everything or even make anything at all easier. Only do it if you are absolutely certain that is what you want, and if you know you will never regret doing it. It costs thousands of dollars, and can mess things up sometimes, so you really have to be sure. I don't know what your calves look like, but I can assure that in my honest opinion I would probably say you didn't need it. It's about what you want though. I am having plastic surgery for my face sometime in this next year, so I know how you feel.
I'm not going to say don't do it, just please be very aware of what you are doing. You have to have realistic expectations if you are going to have surgery, do NOT expect it to change everything or even make anything at all easier. Only do it if you are absolutely certain that is what you want, and if you know you will never regret doing it. It costs thousands of dollars, and can mess things up sometimes, so you really have to be sure. I don't know what your calves look like, but I can assure that in my honest opinion I would probably say you didn't need it. It's about what you want though. I am having plastic surgery for my face sometime in this next year, so I know how you feel.
Well the thing is I know it's realistic bcoz I sent the surgeon photos of my calves ad he said I was being realistic and that I would be a perfect patient for the partial gastronemus reduction surgeory which is he most safest affective way for women with bulkier looking calves I have constantly dieted and trained on and off my whole life and I keep failing and putting it back on and no matter wat I do my calves can't loose muscle I just want to be comfortable in my own skin and not feel so inferior to everyone girls especially !!
What is wrong with ur face ? What do you want surgery for ?
What is wrong with ur face ? What do you want surgery for ?
aien89
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Well the thing is I know it's realistic bcoz I sent the surgeon photos of my calves ad he said I was being realistic and that I would be a perfect patient for the partial gastronemus reduction surgeory which is he most safest affective way for women with bulkier looking calves I have constantly dieted and trained on and off my whole life and I keep failing and putting it back on and no matter wat I do my calves can't loose muscle I just want to be comfortable in my own skin and not feel so inferior to everyone girls especially !!
What is wrong with ur face ? What do you want surgery for ?
Why would you be inferior, just because of your calves?
Can I please see a picture of your calves?
I also had the same problem some years ago, because I was strongly hit by acne on my chest. And I was always afraid of taking off my shirt during the summer periods, because I was afraid of peoples reaction. My brother always said "Oh come on, it means nothing". And he was right - I meant absolutely nothing. No person in the world can tell what kind of person I am based on my acne. So I took off my shirt and people were staring alot at first, but I tried not to care. I'm a great person and nobody can do a realistic judgement of my personality based on my looks.
So my point is, that SO WHAT if your calves look different? It's not your fault. Rational people would probably look and think "Wow, that's some calves", but their mind stops right there. No rational adult would ever say "Disgusting calves - she must be a disgusting person!".
Even though I love taking care of my looks, I do know that looks and personality shouldn't be mixed together. Looks are what your born with - nothing else. Personality is something you grow up with, something you learn and something you gain. If your personality is great - no civil human being would ever tease in a hostile way about your looks. And if they tease you - they're not worth anything.. ignore them.