"Successfully Shy"

[Earthcircle]

I'm not sure if this is a new approach or just the same old same old (i.e., "force yourself to be social; you'll see that it's great!"). But I thought this might interest people on the forum.

How Do I Overcome Shyness? : Indiana University Southeast

 

[Ithior]

Thanks, going to give it a read now.

 

[Earthcircle]

Thanks, going to give it a read now.

Not sure if it's any good, but I did order one of Carducci's books. So he made a sale. Lol. I do feel that a lot of "therapists" are just making money off of us. That's really rather cruel when one is too shy to find employment.

 

[jaim38]

Yeah, I don't buy some of the advice being mentioned. For example, this advice:

Since self-consciousness is a principal cognitive component for many shy people, it is very helpful for such shy people to realize that most people are far more interested in how they look or what they are doing than what anyone else is doing or saying.

My bullies certainly cared about my actions, words, and appearance. No matter how much I stay quiet, they still pick on me and ignored others around me.

But, I'm probably overanalyzing this article. After all, it's an article for overcoming shyness, not how to deal with bullies or prevent people from bullying you. I wish someone wrote an article on how to avoid bullies or how to be invisible so that bullies don't notice you.

 

[Earthcircle]

Yeah, I don't buy some of the advice being mentioned. For example, this advice:



My bullies certainly cared about my actions, words, and appearance. No matter how much I stay quiet, they still pick on me and ignored others around me.

But, I'm probably overanalyzing this article. After all, it's an article for overcoming shyness, not how to deal with bullies or prevent people from bullying you. I wish someone wrote an article on how to avoid bullies or how to be invisible so that bullies don't notice you.

Bullies are a huge reason I'm so shy in the first place. I wonder if Carducci's book addresses the issue.

 

[Ithior]

I believe the article is mentioning normal social situations, and I don't think bullies are part of it. My shyness doesn't come from bullies either way so I'm not sure how it can affect the bullied people in normal situations.

Anyway, I didn't find anything in this article that I hadn't already read somewhere before, but it's always good to be reminded of some things.