Stopping you from going places

[Kneesocks]

Hi, I am probably breaking a rule or something since I'm a total noob here and don't really know much about the rules for a new thread and what not.

Anyway, has your SA disorder or phobia made you stop doing things/ going places?

I've missed so much school because I honestly can't really feel comfortable with so many people just .. there.

I really hope I don't fail, but anyway I'm just wondering about you or how it affected your life.

 

[drewjanes]

hmm yeh,watch out you dont fail. as much as it sucks you need a high-school diploma minim and if your in my boat you need a collage diploma asweell... i got accepted into collage this year, and i really wanted to go! it's been a dream of mine to become an architect. but with my panic disorder so severe and my agoraphobia, i had to decline.

maybe next year. i hope

 

[KiaKaha]

Yep,

Avoidance is a big part of having SA.. I myself have avoided many a party, gathering, job opportunity, new experience etc etc...all because I am too nervous about meeting people....

Its a really bad habit to be in, because there is no way to grow and get out of that anxious cycle by not facing fears, but for me at the moment its too great...especially in the last year as I have had more difficulty than usual and am still trying to get better from being really sick

 

[Kiwong]

Yes. I avoided shops, newsagents, chemists, service stations.

My anxiety doesn't stop me doing the things that really matter to me though.

 

[redmatter]

Absolutely. I feel like an alien even on these boards though because I honestly feel I have good reason. Most people blame themselves, I think especially because they're made to feel that way - but I don't, I avoid people because my experiences with people have really sucked. I wish it weren't the case.

 

[Paahi]

Yes, i say no to a lot of things because of it.

 

[SeniorRedrings]

I've missed so much.The last five years or so of my nieces growing up,something I can never get back.The chance to get back into work,something which the thought of grows more daunting yet distant with each passing day.
My condition has also stopped me from fully participating on the internet,in my mind I feel that appearing on camera is some form of going out,and that stops me from having real online friends.I'm just words to many people.

 

[Agent_Violet]

I never missed school bc it just wasn't an option in my house but I do know a woman with a daughter who does alternative school in place of high school. The daughter has a lot of social problems but seems to be flourishing in these alternative classes.

I wonder if there's anything like that in your area? It would be really terrible for you to fail school....it might be worth a shot to check out other educational options.

As far as my social issues stopping me from going places...my social life has taken the path of a slow and painful death. I cringe everytime I receive an invitation to someone's home for a party or gathering and I usually make up reasons for why people can't come to my house or why i can't do something.

My husband is so sick of me at this point. He has taken to forcing me to do things by putting the guilt on me about it. I guess it's good for me. It sucks though.

 

[Section_31]

Mine has stopped me from international travel. Im too afraid to leave my country to visit any place else. Its totally silly, but on some level im scared i wont make it back home,. Even driving to the US for the day and back is somthing ive never done, and the US border is only 2 hours south from me.