Starting a new job next week

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solitarysiren

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The good news is that I managed to land a new job this summer. On the other hand, I am feeling nervous because I am shy and tend to struggle with new situations. Can I have some good thoughts and well wishes? I keep telling myself that I will be able to handle it, but it helps to have some outside encouragement as well.
 
Sacrament

Sacrament

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Just relax and tell yourself that it's not the end of the world. We tend to feel as if the whole world focuses on us when there's something like a new job, a job interview, etc. Calm down, trust your skills, be open to learning, and don't forget that you're not supposed to know everything, and it's okay if you have to learn a few things first.

You'll be fine. Just keep breathing.
 
Joan6466

Joan6466

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Good for you! Congratulations! Remember they hired you because they need you. They need your help. You're in a partnership with them. You're there to help them.
Keep your goal small when you're beginning. Your goal is just to get thru the day. No criticism- honor your getting there and making it thru the day.
Sleep. With all the excessive stimuli you will be more tired - eat food that keeps your blood sugar stable.
Remember- no one's perfect. Everyone makes mistakes on the learning curve. It's totally normal.
Smile! By your pretending to be calm and relaxed, you calm them- they know nothing about you. You don't have to feel calm- but by practicing in a mirror- how your face feels when you have a pleasant expression,(you can practice in the mirror),you relax them- and they will feel better around you.
We're all cheering you on! =)
 
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Silatuyok

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Congrats! As a rule, I always give myself about six months to settle into a new job. Until then, don't beat yourself up over how you are doing, how people are reacting to you, whether or not you make mistakes, etc. Just give yourself time.
 
KiaKaha

KiaKaha

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Yes I know how you feel.
I have no idea why people are so dismissive and unfriendly to people who are new.
Its very unkind - no one wants anything to do with you and cant be bothered with you - and wont include you.

I dont understand why this is. If the shoe was on the other foot, people would appreciate a welcoming gesture - but are so unwilling to give one themselves. Its funny how quickly people forget what its like to be 'new' - its all bull**** - because *I* wouldnt treat someone new that way - I would try to make them feel welcome and less nervous about their new environment.

Sorry - I dont have any advice really. Try and stick with it and do the best you can.

I really really really really HATE starting new jobs - ugh it makes me feel sick just thinking about it.

Sorry I am probably not helping. I will shut up.
 
Srijita52

Srijita52

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Sacrament said:
Just relax and tell yourself that it's not the end of the world. We tend to feel as if the whole world focuses on us when there's something like a new job, a job interview, etc. Calm down, trust your skills, be open to learning, and don't forget that you're not supposed to know everything, and it's okay if you have to learn a few things first.

You'll be fine. Just keep breathing.
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Agreed, don't be too hard on yourself and give yourself a little time to adjust. I'm sure you'll do just great. Good luck!
 
mikebird

mikebird

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I get into this situation very, very often.

I find advice from others to relax, or good luck, or... don't worry... winds me up even further.

I tend to take congratulations or bouncy 'well done' the wrong way.

I spend more than a year or so hunting for something to do, and having trouble settling with a new bunch, even when I get through a relentless interview, in an uncomfortable suit in the hot season

The only way I ever feel really good about things (school exams, uni, new job) is when the right attitude shines from within myself, because I know the facts are right, and I plan it all properly. If anything is out of place, I benefit better by calling it quits and moving on.

When I hear squawks from other people who aren't in my situation at all, it's useless and results in a compounding of less esteem.

I learn from my experience. The one and only person I can trust or gain from is me
 
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