Spending summer alone?

[dmsg]

Does anyone else here spend summer alone? I feel so lonely all the time. The only company I have now is my family though our relationship isn't that good. I got only few old friends but they are so outgoing and hard to approach with my SP that it feels almost better to be alone. I have always hated school, though I have been always fairly good student, but at least in school it didn't feel so lonely. Im starting university in september so I hope im going to get some new friends with whom I can spend my freetime. Or maybe im going to be left alone again Well at least I can start from the beginning again because nobody knows me. Anyways the main problem now is having something to do in the summer so maybe i can overcome the feeling of loneliness. I used to be alone in summers before but I never haven't felt this lonely

 

[Richey]

Does anyone else here spend summer alone? I feel so lonely all the time. The only company I have now is my family though our relationship isn't that good. I got only few old friends but they are so outgoing and hard to approach with my SP that it feels almost better to be alone. I have always hated school, though I have been always fairly good student, but at least in school it didn't feel so lonely. Im starting university in september so I hope im going to get some new friends with whom I can spend my freetime. Or maybe im going to be left alone again Well at least I can start from the beginning again because nobody knows me. Anyways the main problem now is having something to do in the summer so maybe i can overcome the feeling of loneliness. I used to be alone in summers before but I never haven't felt this lonely

one way of looking at your situation is that when you start University you will be interacting with the class! thats unavoidable because your given group projects and you have to chat with teachers and you will be given many opportunities to make friends and even if you dont you'll feel healthy for keeping busy in your course! combatting loneliness during the summer isnt easy have you considered a summer job? or signing up for a sport, guitar lessons? or music lessons, ive found that when i have nothing to do then i just stay busy with a hobby, write yourself a plan of what you want to pursue then chase after it, its not easy but youll feel better for trying :wink:

 

[jayfan]

i know how it feels. i mean i have a few friends/acquatainces that invite me places and i go play basketball with a group of guys that im really cool with for a few hours nearly everyday of the week (we dont hang out outside of the court) but not many members of the opposite sex.
i mean on the weekends i get lonely because outside of my job(i work nearly everyday) i dont really do much. im trying to work on it though . i know what i have to try to do but its so scary
you just got to find ways to keep yourself busy and dont really dwell on it to much -obviously if your just sitting around do nothing 24/7 thats not realistic.

 

[dmsg]

Hehe thanks for your advices. Getting summer job is already a bit too late now I tried to apply before to one place but weren't accepted I should have just send more applications Well anyways i do play guitar so maybe i should set some goals on that area. It won't be easy but I'll try.

 

[crazydiamond]

I have spent pretty much every summer alone. I forced myself to get a job last summer (still there today). It has helped my confidence in social situations, though it hasn't done much for my anxiety overall. So nothing has really changed this summer.

 

[Nubly]

summer...fall...winter...spring...all them are alone

 

[satstrn]

I'm spending the summer alone too, the best thing to do in my opinion is figure out something to do alone. Find something to be confident in, like I'm trying to exercise a bunch and I'm also learning to play the guitar. Find something you like doing and get good at it. eventually you'll meet people who have similar likes (I'm guessing). I struggle a lot with SP but I'm trying to use my energy to get good at some things I've just discovered. It helps me to take my mind off of myself and puts me in a better mood.

 

[thor01]

Yeah I am alone this summer, again, like usual but worse because i don't have a reason to go anywhere, and even be among anyone, so there's no real chance of contact with anyone of the opposite sex at all. I play the drums, and just wish I could find other outsider type people to play with who understand me and like all the same things, I guess that may never happen exactly how I want.

 

[mikestar]

yer be alone no doubt family be forcing me to do things I just cant do, bless em. Wait and see, take each day as it comes

 

[satstrn]

Yeah man, also girls think drums are sexy, you just gotta let em see your skills!

 

[Psychedelicious]

yum delish

Of course I spend it alone! Just like all the seasons. I wouldn't even know if it was summer or not if people didn't say it was, well that and the ever crushing heat.

 

[satstrn]

cheer up aurora!!!!!! remember im here for ya buddy!!

 

[oxygencult]

During the summer or the semester break I have friends who actively push me to follow them out for social activities, like playing football on the weekends, go catch the latest movies, clubbing or just generally hanging out.. Sometimes if I feel like going and I'm confident that I have my SA in control, I would follow them.. it's all great at the beginning but during the middle my excitement levels tend to fizzle out.. If I'm feeling very anxious and depressed, I will make up random excuses and lie my way out of socializing.. so most of the time in the summer or during breaks I spend my weekends at home, doing nothing productive.

 

[Fighter86]

i know how it feels. i mean i have a few friends/acquatainces that invite me places and i go play basketball with a group of guys that im really cool with for a few hours nearly everyday of the week (we dont hang out outside of the court) but not many members of the opposite sex.
i mean on the weekends i get lonely because outside of my job(i work nearly everyday) i dont really do much. im trying to work on it though . i know what i have to try to do but its so scary
you just got to find ways to keep yourself busy and dont really dwell on it to much -obviously if your just sitting around do nothing 24/7 thats not realistic.

I think its quite lucky you have some friends you can go play basketball with, I have no friends, I mean really no one I can call up and go out for coffee with or something, except for one I met on this site some couple of years back and we are still in touch sometimes through MSN or email, but because we live in different countries, we haven't actually met each other before even though we have known each other for years now.

As for work, I recently got myself a job some 4 months back, my first job and something to do after years of not going to school, having a job, or doing anything at all, just staying home day after day after day. At least, I can earn some money and am actually doing something though this isn't exactly a terribly good job.

Sort of side tracking here, but oh well...