Blumentopf
Member
Hi,
Yeah well, it's really like that. A lot of advices here also says stuffs like "Just speak out and you'll see the result isn't that bad." or "Why keeping thoughts always to yourself." or generally just step up and being yourself or whatsoever. People might start to like you etc.
But as often I could push myself to just step up and speak out and participate and being myself (!) doesn't work! I'm not getting good results at all! People still look at me like i'm a total loser which doesn't encourage me at all. the few Friends i have are growing further away from me even if I socialize with them as much as possible. My brother I'm so close with makes some jokes of me (he doesn't know of my SA) and I still feel horrible of what she is saying now which didn't bother me years ago and my confidence breaks and breaks..
But yeah, people here also say: "If they don't like you, Forget them! these people obviously don't want to know you and ther're thouusands more who'll like you!"
The main problem to me is, even if i meet the NICEST and most outcoming and caring People, we're never getting friends or they even don't like me or think i'm really weird. It's so sad and screws my life even if i'm SOOO ready to change it! I made so many attempts to talk to people.
Talking or none at all won't help me getting out of the situation.
it's frustrating!
I hope you guys could giving me some comments, advices or your thoughts about that. Maybe some of you experienced the same. I don't know ^^.
Blumentopf.
Yeah well, it's really like that. A lot of advices here also says stuffs like "Just speak out and you'll see the result isn't that bad." or "Why keeping thoughts always to yourself." or generally just step up and being yourself or whatsoever. People might start to like you etc.
But as often I could push myself to just step up and speak out and participate and being myself (!) doesn't work! I'm not getting good results at all! People still look at me like i'm a total loser which doesn't encourage me at all. the few Friends i have are growing further away from me even if I socialize with them as much as possible. My brother I'm so close with makes some jokes of me (he doesn't know of my SA) and I still feel horrible of what she is saying now which didn't bother me years ago and my confidence breaks and breaks..
But yeah, people here also say: "If they don't like you, Forget them! these people obviously don't want to know you and ther're thouusands more who'll like you!"
The main problem to me is, even if i meet the NICEST and most outcoming and caring People, we're never getting friends or they even don't like me or think i'm really weird. It's so sad and screws my life even if i'm SOOO ready to change it! I made so many attempts to talk to people.
Talking or none at all won't help me getting out of the situation.
it's frustrating!
I hope you guys could giving me some comments, advices or your thoughts about that. Maybe some of you experienced the same. I don't know ^^.
Blumentopf.