MrTornado said:
Anyway, I asked him later why he thought that and he was like "it was just a joke man" acting as if there was something wrong with me. But, usually when someone makes fun there i a grain of truth to it, right? I'm not sure what to take from his comment... :?
I think there really is something to be said about the "grain of truth" in people's jokes. Sometimes "humor" can be used as an opportunity to bring things up that would otherwise not be talked about. In your case I think your friend's true feelings came out (that you are a loser with women), but he disguised them with a "joke." He's probably talked about you behind his back with other people and that's the consensus they've all come to. But even if he was just trying to be funny, it was at your expense and the joke was on you...which is mean spirited. Unless you have the type of relationship where you joke back and forth to each other in a mean spirited way on a regular basis, he probably did mean what he said and was being a jerk.
I can relate to you because something someone said the other night upset me too. I was at a friend's house playing charades with his seven year old daughter, his wife and another women. My friend of almost 30 years, his brother and another guy were in a near by room doing a jam session. My friend's daughter was acting something out in front of me and I was trying to guess what it was when my friend's brother walked into the room, saw that we were playing charades, shouted "child molester" and looked at me. Instantly I went from being in a good mood to a bad mood because what he said was totally offensive and out of line. But I'm sure he was just "joking," looking to get a cheap laugh at my expense. My guess is that he, and all the other guys there (including my long time friend) were in the other room making fun of me because I am close to 40 years old, never have a girlfriend and get along good with kids. I guess that automatically makes me a sick pervert in their minds, so when the opportunity to "joke" about it presented itself, what they really thought about me came to the surface.
Unless I clear the air with my friend's brother, I doubt that I will ever hang out with any of them again. I want friends who are kind to me and understanding; not mean spirited jerks.