Taden
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A few years ago I found out about this site and I signed up. But I was always too scared and lacking of confidence to speak on anything in the forums. I figure now, with my life in utter shambles, what do I have to lose?
I would just like to first start with an apology/declaration of lack of inter-personal skills. I've been told that I can sometimes come off as rude, curt, unemotional, too emotional, etc... I've not had very much communication with healthy minded people (healthy minded being non-abusive)...As such, I try to be as detached from people and situations when I'm trying to think or reason things out. At least, on the forum that is really the only likely effect that will show through. In person I can also get frightened and over-emotional in comparison to the situation's level of emotional requirement, but given the format of being able to truly think before 'replying' (messaging) I believe it to not likely be an issue here at all.
My goal on this forum site is to gain a sense of support from understanding people. Apart from four people in my life who have recently become my world, I have no one. For this journal of sorts, my goal is to just put into a clear and written format, my thoughts and memories, as it says in the title. I hope that people will comment, and depending on the posts, possibly gain perspective on similar situations they themselves may be facing.
Quick facts about me:
I am diagnosed with Dysthymia (form of depression), Social Anxiety, and Insomnia. Along with these I also have numerous general anxieties.
I would like to take a moment to honor the people I do still have in my life. I know that they have proven beyond a doubt to myself that they are in my life for better or worse. They are my supports; when the weight of everything falls on my head, they are there to protect and hide me from the dangers and the sadness, and the arms that lift me back to my feet after I fall. If looking back I required one good thing done right, or a source of pride and luck, it would be that my beloved makeshift 'family' found me. I met three of them in group therapy with them when I was in highschool; Bella, Taylor, and Brad. And then my husband Derrik, who, in the brief time that I was able to endure highschool, I met and fell in love together with.
The musing I had for today was actually inspired by the thought of Letting Go.
I'm still trying to wrap my head around what this truly means for myself...
At what point do you let something go that built who you were? Likely never, though that's just my thought. It depends obviously on the situation and context, but at least as it deals with me and other individuals who had, to put it, "less then favorable beginnings".
If the first three years of a human's life is the most crucial in developing a proper sense of self and sense of others, at what point are you even in any control to the situations that arise later that you personally deal with SOLEY based on what you learned as a child. If you have no basis for what society deems 'good' or 'proper' etc, you have no way to know that the behaviour needs modification and nothing to base a modification on anyways? And if you carry the weight of, as I put it, "less then favorable beginnings" then isn't it only natural that, to some degree, you will carry that base of who you are, in you, until you either cease being or possibly have traumatic brain damage that whipes you clean (in which case you would cease being the old you and become an entirely different you)?
Wouldn't it only be natural then to harbor, to some capacity at least, an anger or hurt? Wouldn't it illicit some sadness to know that beyond your control, someone with more knowledge or experience to the human condition, either allowed or caused such conditions in your past that they now effect every aspect of your life in some way or another?
I would just like to first start with an apology/declaration of lack of inter-personal skills. I've been told that I can sometimes come off as rude, curt, unemotional, too emotional, etc... I've not had very much communication with healthy minded people (healthy minded being non-abusive)...As such, I try to be as detached from people and situations when I'm trying to think or reason things out. At least, on the forum that is really the only likely effect that will show through. In person I can also get frightened and over-emotional in comparison to the situation's level of emotional requirement, but given the format of being able to truly think before 'replying' (messaging) I believe it to not likely be an issue here at all.
My goal on this forum site is to gain a sense of support from understanding people. Apart from four people in my life who have recently become my world, I have no one. For this journal of sorts, my goal is to just put into a clear and written format, my thoughts and memories, as it says in the title. I hope that people will comment, and depending on the posts, possibly gain perspective on similar situations they themselves may be facing.
Quick facts about me:
- Adopted
- Commonlaw/Married
- Pansexual
- Artistic
- Musical
- Abstract
- Science Enthusiast
- Animal Person
- Anime Lover
I am diagnosed with Dysthymia (form of depression), Social Anxiety, and Insomnia. Along with these I also have numerous general anxieties.
I would like to take a moment to honor the people I do still have in my life. I know that they have proven beyond a doubt to myself that they are in my life for better or worse. They are my supports; when the weight of everything falls on my head, they are there to protect and hide me from the dangers and the sadness, and the arms that lift me back to my feet after I fall. If looking back I required one good thing done right, or a source of pride and luck, it would be that my beloved makeshift 'family' found me. I met three of them in group therapy with them when I was in highschool; Bella, Taylor, and Brad. And then my husband Derrik, who, in the brief time that I was able to endure highschool, I met and fell in love together with.
The musing I had for today was actually inspired by the thought of Letting Go.
I'm still trying to wrap my head around what this truly means for myself...
At what point do you let something go that built who you were? Likely never, though that's just my thought. It depends obviously on the situation and context, but at least as it deals with me and other individuals who had, to put it, "less then favorable beginnings".
If the first three years of a human's life is the most crucial in developing a proper sense of self and sense of others, at what point are you even in any control to the situations that arise later that you personally deal with SOLEY based on what you learned as a child. If you have no basis for what society deems 'good' or 'proper' etc, you have no way to know that the behaviour needs modification and nothing to base a modification on anyways? And if you carry the weight of, as I put it, "less then favorable beginnings" then isn't it only natural that, to some degree, you will carry that base of who you are, in you, until you either cease being or possibly have traumatic brain damage that whipes you clean (in which case you would cease being the old you and become an entirely different you)?
Wouldn't it only be natural then to harbor, to some capacity at least, an anger or hurt? Wouldn't it illicit some sadness to know that beyond your control, someone with more knowledge or experience to the human condition, either allowed or caused such conditions in your past that they now effect every aspect of your life in some way or another?
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