socially retarded, not social phobic
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coyote
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Social skills can be learned - just like any other skill
As an example, I'll share the following info that I just received in an e-mail this morning.
It's meant to be funny, but there is an amazing amount of truth in it.
NINE WORDS WOMEN USE
(1) Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
(2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
(3) Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
(4) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission.. Don't Do It!
(5) Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
(6) That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a woman can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
(7) Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome' . that will bring on a 'whatever').
(8) Whatever: Is a woman's way of saying F--- off!
(9) Don't worry about it, I'll do it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.
As an example, I'll share the following info that I just received in an e-mail this morning.
It's meant to be funny, but there is an amazing amount of truth in it.
NINE WORDS WOMEN USE
(1) Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
(2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
(3) Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
(4) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission.. Don't Do It!
(5) Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
(6) That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a woman can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
(7) Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome' . that will bring on a 'whatever').
(8) Whatever: Is a woman's way of saying F--- off!
(9) Don't worry about it, I'll do it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.
DamnedOrDamned
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I know exactly what you mean KJC.
I'm afraid of having to integrate further into society more than I already am forced to because my social skills are awful. I feel like I have to push myself a lot to improve my confidence so I could get a job in the future and interact easily with the people I'll constantly be surrounded by. Honestly though, I think I'd be much happier working alone where I'm not constantly conscious of myself. I wish there were more options like that.
I'm afraid of having to integrate further into society more than I already am forced to because my social skills are awful. I feel like I have to push myself a lot to improve my confidence so I could get a job in the future and interact easily with the people I'll constantly be surrounded by. Honestly though, I think I'd be much happier working alone where I'm not constantly conscious of myself. I wish there were more options like that.
As for myself, it is the anxiety before,during and after social encounters that disables my ability to get my social skills functioning properly. I would add that the mental clouds that the anxiety and depression leaves me with contributes greatly to difficulties in understanding what is going on outside my own world. I am trying to combat this by focusing on the moment not the problem. I also strive to relax so to allow my mind to rest and heal. However, I have years upon years of fear and despair that has been accumulated. It is difficult to overcome these difficulties and impossible if I am in the throws of depression. I think that the most important tools that I have today is my better knowledge of my problems and how to fight back against them along with much better support that helps me to move forward rather than be stuck in the past while worrying about the future.
Hastings & Main
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That's me as well. If the situation's good I can concentrate & do alright, but any stress & I either clam up or my syntax goes on a field trip and I end up doing what my friends call Yoda-talk.