I've read here and there, that having friends and maybe a girlfriend/boyfriend aren't enough to acquire self-esteem for people like us (me) that suffer from social phobia, what do you think about this?
Personally i think that it doesen't really make sense to live a life without friends, a girlfriend, being always alone, never go out on weekends, never going on holiday or going everywhere alone and so on, basically how do you pretend to have a happy life like this?
I was thinking that basically i'm miserable about my phobia and thinking it all depends on that when maybe it would be much basic to consider that my failures in life and especially the fear of people it's all caused by lack of self-esteem in turn caused by the unhappiness i face in life. If i could have first friends and then maybe a girlfriend, maybe i'd feel happy and in turn boost my self-esteem and then overcome my fear of people, what do you think about this and for those who already have friends and even a girlfriend\boyfriend, does that help?
Personally i think that it doesen't really make sense to live a life without friends, a girlfriend, being always alone, never go out on weekends, never going on holiday or going everywhere alone and so on, basically how do you pretend to have a happy life like this?
I was thinking that basically i'm miserable about my phobia and thinking it all depends on that when maybe it would be much basic to consider that my failures in life and especially the fear of people it's all caused by lack of self-esteem in turn caused by the unhappiness i face in life. If i could have first friends and then maybe a girlfriend, maybe i'd feel happy and in turn boost my self-esteem and then overcome my fear of people, what do you think about this and for those who already have friends and even a girlfriend\boyfriend, does that help?