Nital said:
Yeah Fruitloops, I know exactly what you're talking about. I'm a pretty shy guy and I've always been intimidated by most girls. I'm 18 and I've never had a girlfriend, or really any serious friends of my own for that matter, but there were lots of girls I liked a lot, but never had the guts to say more than a few words to, even if it seemed like they liked me.
Through highschool there was a girl I liked a lot and sometimes I'd try to talk to her and it really seemed like she liked me, but I would always try to act cool around her and it made me really nervous and i would say something stupid or irrelevant. As much as I wanted to get to know her I hated the feeling of nervousness I'd get being around her or if I knew she saw me, so most of the time I would try to avoid her or pretend i didn't see her if she was looking at me. Like you said, this probably gave her the wrong message, that i wasn't interested in her, so nothing happened and then i started seeing her with lots of other guys.
This is really how it is with any girl i Like.
haha you actually sound very simliar to me, I too am 18 never had a GF or really any chick friends.
I too at highschool had a girl I really liked, but she always looked real angry - she gave me her ph no (!) one day out of the blue, I hadn't asked - hell I dont think I'd even really talked to her. I sat next to her in a class for a whole year with nothing said between us cept can i borrow a pen maybe twice at best.
I never rang that number, I was 16 at the time and just couldn't find the confidence to do it. I always will regret that. I could always find a little something to do and i'd tell myself I would call her, or no maybe tomorrow - of course that day never came, damn procrastination...
After a week I thought hell its been a week, I can't ring now - what will she think ... about a week after that she went out with some other guy from my form. She was with him all the way through until 7th form 2 years later, and she avoided me like the plague for the rest of school.
One time I recall walking into our common room and only she was there, she quickly grabbed her books upped and left - I dont actually recall saying a single word to her for the remainder of school. :? I always felt bad that I never rang her, she seemed to be sad for years because of it - and I felt bad beacuse I had missed an oppertunity you don't often come across. Overall I found that I seemed to hurt chicks if they tried to get close to me, so I kinda just didn't really socialise too much with them.
Since then, other girls have taken my interest but I've still never done anything about it, or have had my trust betrayed before I've had the chance.
But gotta keep positive about these things, I'm sure I'll find someone (my track record to date would say otherwise :wink: )- I am getting slightly more confident around girls, ones I find less attractive or are taken are easier to talk to I find - less pressure on me about how I come across what I say/did not say risk of hurting them etc.
I dont start a conversation with a girl, but if i'm asked something i'll reply - if I know them I might ask something else back, depends on how i feel I spose
Whew thats one massive post, sorry - I've gotta sleep anyway. Got biological assessment to done on me - arrrg needles :evil: