Should I visit a hooker?

[Argamemnon]

First, I'm sorry for being so blunt. As a 32 year old virgin, I don't want to lose my sanity. Should I just visit a hooker and get it over with? It's driving me nuts. It's very hard for me because of my SA, and also because I'm religious. But just once.. to preserve my sanity?

 

[Doomed2Die]

Forget about it, take a stand against the sterotypical belief of virginity and stop worrying.

It will most likely create more anxiety than kill off.

 

[Argamemnon2]

It will most likely create more anxiety than kill off.

Why would it create more anxiety?

 

[Psychedelicious]

Only if you feel you absolutely have to. Just make sure that doing this will not cause huge regret for you in the future. I wouldn't recommend it but again it is your own decision, just don't get hurt by your choices and make sure you're ready for something like that.

 

[Argamemnon2]

Only if you feel you absolutely have to. Just make sure that doing this will not cause huge regret for you in the future. I wouldn't recommend it but again it is your own decision, just don't get hurt by your choices and make sure you're ready for something like that.

I don't see how it would hurt, do you people know how much it hurts to be 32 and not having experienced sex even once. I think most of you are still young and can't really relate to what I'm saying. I'm getting old, I must hurry.

 

[sabbath92003]

Go for it!

The neon lights are shining on me again
I walk the lonely streets in search of a friend
I need a lady to help me to get through the night, through the night
If I could find one then everything would be alright

The sleepy city is dreaming the night time away
Out on the streets I watch tomorrow becoming today
I see a man, he's got take away women for sale, yes for sale
Guess that's the answer
'Cos take away women don't fail

Oh dirty women, they don't mess around
Oh dirty women, they don't mess around
You've got me coming
You've got me going around
Oh dirty women, they don't mess around

Walking the streets I wonder will it ever happen
Gotta be good 'cause then everything will be o.k.
If I could score tonight then I will end up happy

A woman for sale is gonna help me save my day

 

[Doomed2Die]

Why would it create more anxiety?

Your religious aspect for one, performance worries prehaps, other peoples view on this is also likely. Generally those irrational fears that SA is composed of.

I don't see how it would hurt, do you people know how much it hurts to be 32 and not having experienced sex even once. I think most of you are still young and can't really relate to what I'm saying. I'm getting old, I must hurry.

How much sense does this make exactly? What's the reason other than peer pressure, experience?

 

[Ventrilo]

i consider it too

 

[chris87]

Don't do it. I think it's something that you will regret later in life. I'm sure you will have the "opportunity" when the time is right!

 

[Ken]

Basically it comes down to how special you want your first time to be. If you just want to go ahead and get it over with then go ahead and go with the hooker. However, if you want it to be special, go with a girlfriend or a close friend that you trust. I'm a 21 year old virgin and yes, I know that is does suck for various reasons.

 

[strawberrybrunette]

I don't know - it's your decision, but if you do and you end up having an awful, embarassing experience, it might taint other sexual experiences you have in the future. Also, due to your religious standpoint, you might end up feeling really guilty afterwards - again, not a good experience. You shouldn't end up equating sex with guilt and embarassment.

 

[Ursula]

It's your decision but I would advise you against it as I think it might make you feel worse in the long run as it could be a bit humiliating and embarrassing trying to have sex with someone who's only there for the money. It sounds as if being a virgin has become a massive cause of anxiety and self-hate for you or at least a focus for those feelings. I think it's more having those anxious feelings that's the problem rather than being a virgin. I know this wont necessarily make you feel better but I do know other men in their 30s who are virgins so you're not alone. It's not as rare as people think but as noone admits to it except on forums like this it means you feel a real freak of nature.

 

[Angel_Of_Death]

I would strongly recommend you do it. It will do you more good than harm.

You will finally stop obsessing on the fact that your a virgin
You will feel as if there is a huge weight off of your shoulders
You will be thrilled of the satisfaction
You will definitely enjoy it
You will gain some confidence in yourself

If you do it on more than one occasion, it will give you experience so when time comes to do the monkey dance with a real partner, you won't be as anxious about it.

Here is a tip I can give you...

For your first time, as doing the whole act might be intimidating and overwhelming even with a hooker, start off only with a blowjob. It will cost you less, there isn't much you have to beside lay there and watch her go at it. It will give you a chance to feel more comfortable with the service provider so next time you can go for the full service.

Another tip, don't go for a street hooker. Look up adds on the internet or the newspaper and choose and independent escort, meaning one that works for herself and not an agency. Most of the time they offer better service. You can choose one that offers incalls or outcalls depending on your convenience.

Hope this helps. Good luck!

 

[Argamemnon]

If you just want to go ahead and get it over with then go ahead and go with the hooker. However, if you want it to be special, go with a girlfriend or a close friend that you trust. I'm a 21 year old virgin and yes, I know that is does suck for various reasons.

What girlfriend? I've never had a girlfriend (and I never will); if I had one, I wouldn't have this problem in the first place..

Anyhow, thanks for the replies everyone!

 

[Ken]

If you just want to go ahead and get it over with then go ahead and go with the hooker. However, if you want it to be special, go with a girlfriend or a close friend that you trust. I'm a 21 year old virgin and yes, I know that is does suck for various reasons.

What girlfriend? I've never had a girlfriend (and I never will); if I had one, I wouldn't have this problem in the first place..

Anyhow, thanks for the replies everyone!

I meant, get a girlfriend, but if that's too hard then go ahead with the hooker.

 

[79_89_99IneIneIne]

If you just want to go ahead and get it over with then go ahead and go with the hooker. However, if you want it to be special, go with a girlfriend or a close friend that you trust. I'm a 21 year old virgin and yes, I know that is does suck for various reasons.

What girlfriend? I've never had a girlfriend (and I never will); if I had one, I wouldn't have this problem in the first place..

Anyhow, thanks for the replies everyone!

I meant, get a girlfriend, but if that's too hard then go ahead with the hooker.

thats his issue in the first place bro!

 

[_Brittany_]

NO!

 

[Argamemnon]

I would strongly recommend you do it. It will do you more good than harm.

You will finally stop obsessing on the fact that your a virgin
You will feel as if there is a huge weight off of your shoulders
You will be thrilled of the satisfaction
You will definitely enjoy it
You will gain some confidence in yourself

If you do it on more than one occasion, it will give you experience so when time comes to do the monkey dance with a real partner, you won't be as anxious about it.

Here is a tip I can give you...

For your first time, as doing the whole act might be intimidating and overwhelming even with a hooker, start off only with a blowjob. It will cost you less, there isn't much you have to beside lay there and watch her go at it. It will give you a chance to feel more comfortable with the service provider so next time you can go for the full service.

Another tip, don't go for a street hooker. Look up adds on the internet or the newspaper and choose and independent escort, meaning one that works for herself and not an agency. Most of the time they offer better service. You can choose one that offers incalls or outcalls depending on your convenience.

Hope this helps. Good luck!

Thanks, you must be experienced.

 

[Argamemnon]

NO!

WHY? 8O

 

[krs2snow]

Hi again, Arg

I can understand the need to have physical contact w/someone but I don't think a hooker is such a good idea, imo anyway. First, theres the issue of legality. I'm not sure about the UK but I know here prostitution is illegal and soliciting a prostitute can land you in "The Big House". Then there's disease. Of course you would be safe and use protection and of course the hooker of your choosing would be tested, clean, and disease free. Buuut, in the case that you didn't or in the case that she wasn't, it's probably not worth risking your health for one nite of ehem 'fun'. Then there's religion. And the guilt that comes along with it. That's a big one. There's also issues of money, availability & opportunity. I don't know about you but, where I live I never see hookers. Wouldn't know where they are or where they hang out or whatever. And, what in the heck would you tell your family? Like, if you had to drive an hour away to find your hoe, you'd have to lie to your family and tell 'em you were somewhere else the whole day. There's other things to consider too but those are the top few I can think of for right now.

Anyways, I write this with a degree of humor. Maybe I'm mistaken but, I don't think you're all that serious about gettin' yourself a hooker. :wink: Hope I'm right.