ABunkerHere
Active member
Hey all,
To give the background information quickly; I am 22 and in college. I struggle with SA as all of you do, and my most difficult task is always to start conversation with people. I've been able to become a "normal" conversationalist once comfortable with the people involved, but it's the initial breaking of the ice that I find nearly impossible to accomplish without major anxiety.
Anyway, there is a girl in my chemistry class who I'd really like to ask out, but I am struggling with confidence. Also I am thinking too much about whether it's "weird" or not to talk with somebody immediately after class (lab) and just say, "Hey, so... I know you just got done with a lab experiment, but would you want to grab a bite to eat sometime?" I've always over-analyzed, but I can't help but feel that asking such a question would be silly. On the other hand, over the years I KNOW I've lost out on possible friendships/relationships by not extending beyond typical classroom conversation... I really want to get past this stage of my life. I want so badly to have a girlfriend, but asking that question is so difficult. I can be charming in class, I can be funny and entertaining... But even after all of that, I don't really feel that any woman would really want anything to do with me.
Any advice? Guys? Gals?
Thanks,
Pete
To give the background information quickly; I am 22 and in college. I struggle with SA as all of you do, and my most difficult task is always to start conversation with people. I've been able to become a "normal" conversationalist once comfortable with the people involved, but it's the initial breaking of the ice that I find nearly impossible to accomplish without major anxiety.
Anyway, there is a girl in my chemistry class who I'd really like to ask out, but I am struggling with confidence. Also I am thinking too much about whether it's "weird" or not to talk with somebody immediately after class (lab) and just say, "Hey, so... I know you just got done with a lab experiment, but would you want to grab a bite to eat sometime?" I've always over-analyzed, but I can't help but feel that asking such a question would be silly. On the other hand, over the years I KNOW I've lost out on possible friendships/relationships by not extending beyond typical classroom conversation... I really want to get past this stage of my life. I want so badly to have a girlfriend, but asking that question is so difficult. I can be charming in class, I can be funny and entertaining... But even after all of that, I don't really feel that any woman would really want anything to do with me.
Any advice? Guys? Gals?
Thanks,
Pete