Should I accept her apologies

[da_illest101]

So my former best friend decided out of nowhere to apologize to me, after not talking for a month. I block her from my msn, delete her from facebook and my cell, but somehow she found a way to reach, ( i think she got a new cell or something).

So the thing was I was cursing her name everyday since the last time we spoke and revenge was the only thing that was on my mind. We already had a few problems about her attitude issues, but last time was a blown out catastrophe.

I'll be lying if i say that i don't miss her, i mean she was one of my closest friend for a reason but i don't to be in another fight, don't want to get treated like crap again you know.

so what should i do

 

[SoulSeeker]

If you miss her..then accept her apologies. Life is too short..and good caring friends can be valuable. Yeah she went missing..but it could have been for any reason. I think everybody makes mistakes..and everyone is worth a chnace. Good luck.

 

[friendchen]

If you think she's sincere...and if you think you need her..then just accept her apologies..

If you don't think,, better just let it be..

 

[Ignace]

Depends on what happened what caused the 'fight'. What happened ? I would give her a 2nd chance, if she screws up again by insulting you or whatever, slap her in the face and tell her you are dissapointed in her and let her go.

 

[fudgy]

either way you respect her for holding out the olive branch


Then you decide if you want to carry on the friendship

if yes ...you tell her that she hurt/upset/angered you and you talk about it , lay it to rest and move on and enjoy yourselves again.


if no ...tell her to get fkd and move on

 

[da_illest101]

thank you all, i won't accept her apologies yet but i will at least talk to her

 

[Emily_G]

Forgive and forget is always the best policy.

 

[emboki]

She might sincerely regret how she acted. Anyone can make mistakes..I am sure there are times we all look back on and regret how we acted. I would suggest that its best to forgive. Even then if you decide not to be close friends with her anymore, its still appropriate that you both move in your direction but without any feelings of hatred involved.

 

[Mr isolated]

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[BlackKids]

Life is way tooooooooooooo short so instead of been like a dog with a bone just let it go.

 

[EscapeArtist]

I agree with all the "life is short"s. My best friend ditched me and even though I claim to hate her I would give the world to just hang out with her once! Take advantage of this and just do what will make you happier, screw the bad parts of the past

 

[Scars]

Forgive her... if she was a friend to you once and she cares about you enough to acknowledge her mistakes then you should definitely give her a second chance. Maybe she's going through something nobody can see... something she hides until she can't anymore and it explodes in that catastrophe you had. Could be depression or anxiety or both... I know that's how I act.

If you think that might be the case... she might really need you to be the one to step into her heart and mend the wounds. I probably would never be in the miserable state I am if I had a friend like that.

So think about it, not just from the perspective of "does she deserve forgiveness" but also "does she NEED forgiveness?" Read my sig. We all have been corrupted and twisted by this terrifying world, but most of us hide that away and never let it show... it's like pretending you don't have a gaping wound in your side. Doing that never lets it heal and only makes it build up into an even worse condition... think staph infection. We all want to be the tough guy and act like nothing's wrong... and we often will stay that way until someone who cares enough to see through it and dig deeper to see what the real problem is.