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Heartbeat

Heartbeat

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I don't know if people want to talk about this but does anyone else have problems with this aspect of life? There are probably gender differences in how people experience it. I'm a girl - and I am now pretty much celibate. Sex (or lack thereof due to me losing interest) has destroyed all of my relationships. All too much for me!
 
Remus

Remus

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I just dont have much of an interest in it, only when inlove do I feel the urge and enjoy it and its been a long while since then, when I have done it since then, sometimes I've just felt bored and have thought "I wish she'd come" :?

sounds awful that and its my problem not theirs :(

GFs have felt neglected because of this and have "wandered"
 
Danfalc

Danfalc

Banned
I havnt as much intrest or enthusiasm these days when it comes to sex.. not that i have it frequently anyway.I do enjoy it... but not as much as i use to.. and i find it hard to be passionate and intense.

I use to love sex... now i prefer affection more than sex.. you know just hugging each other close ect..
 
jayfan

jayfan

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Heartbeat said:
I don't know if people want to talk about this but does anyone else have problems with this aspect of life? There are probably gender differences in how people experience it. I'm a girl - and I am now pretty much celibate. Sex (or lack thereof due to me losing interest) has destroyed all of my relationships. All too much for me!
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same here to some degree . my sex life is non-existant. its not that ive lost interest - hell im really fiening it all the time. i dont have my v-card but ive never had someone who ive done it with consistently which makes me think i just wasnt that nice . as far as losing interest though - i dont see that happening .
 
McNuggets

McNuggets

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As a new user I haven't taken the leisure to consult the forum regulations. So I'll hold tight. Metaphorically. Sheesh. 8O

My, ahem, 'sex for one' life is actually proving rather dynamic as of present. No substantial romantic relationships to report on at all as yet, but I am 19, so there's always time to play with...
 
Chilling__Echo

Chilling__Echo

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it sucks for me being on Paxil, in the past when i've had a bf, before i knew that it had sexual side effects, it was really discouraging for me and for him. i felt like something was wrong with me and felt horrible for him.

now i'm single and after a period of time of being off it for a while, I'm extra frustrated now :evil: :lol:

i hate that the next guy i ever date, i'll have to explain to him... no kaboom for me :? it's like i trade my sex life for a normal regular life that's depression and anxiety free.
 
Heartbeat

Heartbeat

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I'm not on any anti-depressants or medication - so it's just me! It's not asexuality (relationships usually start with good sex) but it seems to be a fear of intimacy.

I somehow feel violated by sexual intercourse, after a time, and this is with perfectly OK, nice people. It's not weirdo bondage or violence or anything, just normal old sex. It ends up hurting them because they feel rejected, whereas I don't feel I'm rejecting them, I just prefer hugs and companionship. I want them around, but the sexual side ends up feeling like an imposition on me and I end up stressing about it so much I'd rather be alone.
 
voltaire

voltaire

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Chilling__Echo said:
it sucks for me being on Paxil, in the past when i've had a bf, before i knew that it had sexual side effects, it was really discouraging for me and for him. i felt like something was wrong with me and felt horrible for him.

now i'm single and after a period of time of being off it for a while, I'm extra frustrated now :evil: :lol:

i hate that the next guy i ever date, i'll have to explain to him... no kaboom for me :? it's like i trade my sex life for a normal regular life that's depression and anxiety free.
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At least girls can fake it! Though I agree it would suck to have to do that.

I think too much porn has desensitised me to regular sex. I'm so used to seeing absolutely hot women and pleasing myself that when I do have sex with a woman, it's just not that good. And in a long term relationship, I just lose interest, which I've always thought was unusual for a guy (but reading some other posts I guess not).
 
Vincent

Vincent

Banned
Anxiety is still there when in the act.

I think its a triumph over anxiety to have to accomplish all the necessary interaction before getting to throw a leg over.

But the voices in my head are still there, laughing at me.

Still, sex is pretty fucken good. Even with angst. Like any kind of socialising in my experience, the better you know the person and the situation the less the anxiety.

Sex is one of best physical natural highs there is.

Sexually aggressive women conceptually turn me on, but not in actuality.

Tell yourself that you are a sex God )or Goddess) enough and you will start to believe it.

Lose the lights and your inhibitions.
 
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