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Horatio
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I have never had sex and never will unless I pay for it
but even if I was in a relationship I think I would have major probelms when it comes to sex... if people even come near me I get in a panic... if the pedestrians on the street bump into me I almost die with anxiety... Im so afraid of intimacy that I cant go to the hairdressers
before I stopped getting my haircut, that was the most intimate experience I ever had... someone touching my hair, ear etc and now I cant even handle that
I dunno how I could ever hug someone, let alone sleep with them
even though my body is telling me that sex is the only thing worth living for - meh, stupid body, how would it know that anyway. thats like an Eskimo telling himself that living in the Sahara Desert is the only thing worth doing in life
but even if I was in a relationship I think I would have major probelms when it comes to sex... if people even come near me I get in a panic... if the pedestrians on the street bump into me I almost die with anxiety... Im so afraid of intimacy that I cant go to the hairdressers
before I stopped getting my haircut, that was the most intimate experience I ever had... someone touching my hair, ear etc and now I cant even handle that
I dunno how I could ever hug someone, let alone sleep with them
even though my body is telling me that sex is the only thing worth living for - meh, stupid body, how would it know that anyway. thats like an Eskimo telling himself that living in the Sahara Desert is the only thing worth doing in life
Rainman
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I've only had one sexual partner all my life, and that was only a few years ago, and I don't think I was too good in bed. Then again, that was also because it was my first time(s)
At this moment, I am not in any relationship, nor seeking sex, but feel very anxious about the eventuality arising. At my age(mid 20's) most women would have had plenty of experience, multiple partners, and I may come up short.
I mean come on, it's not like some skill you can practice without having a sexual partner and my morals are too strong to ever seek sex workers.
So, I don't actually want to actively seek relationships or sex, I want it to happen naturally with the right women, as something more meaningful, where a bad performance in bed is not going to cause our relationship to end.
At this moment, I am not in any relationship, nor seeking sex, but feel very anxious about the eventuality arising. At my age(mid 20's) most women would have had plenty of experience, multiple partners, and I may come up short.
I mean come on, it's not like some skill you can practice without having a sexual partner and my morals are too strong to ever seek sex workers.
So, I don't actually want to actively seek relationships or sex, I want it to happen naturally with the right women, as something more meaningful, where a bad performance in bed is not going to cause our relationship to end.
Rainman:
don't sweat, my best partner is my current one and he was a virgin. it totally doesn't matter, sure the first couple times with mediocer, but he soon got the gist of it, no biggie. sex is sex, it's best when you have an intimate connection with the other person and if you do, then the sex doesn't really matter (well it does, but it'll be good because you love one another)
don't sweat, my best partner is my current one and he was a virgin. it totally doesn't matter, sure the first couple times with mediocer, but he soon got the gist of it, no biggie. sex is sex, it's best when you have an intimate connection with the other person and if you do, then the sex doesn't really matter (well it does, but it'll be good because you love one another)
Rainman
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KyBoshia said:
Thanks KyBoshia. I think a lot of relationships now days, particulary those that form because of primarily physical attraction, have a great emphasis on sex. It's scary listening to women talk about their boyfriends and their sex lives so openly with their friends and judging them on it.
I think for a man, being rejected by a woman for not being man enough, which seems to be largely measured by how well they perform in bed, is most scarring. What I find scary about, doing what my peers do, going clubs/pubs, picking up women and then having sex with them, is the emphasis is on sex.
In fact I would say I have a certain fear of success here. If I did succeed in picking up a woman, and it did finally lead to sex, I maybe somewhat worried what to do next
Rainman said:In fact I would say I have a certain fear of success here. If I did succeed in picking up a woman, and it did finally lead to sex, I maybe somewhat worried what to do next
don't stress or worry about it, that's the worse thing to do, just relax and let things flow, "you can do it"
Sex is good and nice, but sometimes the emotional drawbacks just don't seem worth it. I certainly don't think I'd ever have sex with someone I didn't love, seems pointless to me, probably wouldn't be much good and I'd probably hate myself for it It's only worth it if you get cuddles and kisses and it feels emotionally good, not just physically.
It's only worth it if you get cuddles and kisses and it feels emotionally good, not just physically.