Self-esteem

[emre43]

My brother and I argue all the time. He annoys me because he is so arrogant and vain and always makes sure how good-looking he is and how big his muscles are. I have always felt that I am unattractice and haven't seen a future for myself in terms of relationship. However, I spoke with myself and she opened my eyes and made sure that I understood that I am physically in good shape, I am tall, have dark hair and a stubble and women like all of these things and I felt so much better about myself and I actually saw a future for myself in terms of relationships.

Like I said my brother and I were arguing and my mum entered the room and said that we are like two alpha males competing for dominance. My brother then said well that won't be very difficult for him as he claims that he has all kinds of sexual appeal and I have none. He berated my looks and my personality and told me that I am too modest and girls prefer the arrogant type. He told me that he has the looks, the muscles, the arrogance and that he has a job (that no matter how hard I try I am unable to get). He said that if a group of girls walked into the room they would all go for him and no one would give me a second look. I probably bring it on myself because I do give him a hard time but I feel like when I start feeling good about myself there is always something round the corner waiting to bring me back down to earth again. It's as if I am not supposed to be happy...

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Modesty is better than arragance.. you sound like the type who would end up having the longer lasting relationship in the end just ask someone you like out

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

Your brother sounds like the kind of guy I would avoid like the plague.

ohhh, yeah~ ditto.
hah
Next time, you should tell your brother that girls have brains and can decide for themselves who they like; I can guarantee, any girl worth dating in the long run would prefer a modest guy over some jerk.

 

[Deus_Ex_Lemur]

Self-confidence is NOT arrogance. You can be confident and still be modest. But you don't have to flaunt yourself about. Actually, cocky arrogance and obsession with muscles and vanity in that way usually are overcompensation and a cover for low-self esteem issues, covered by arrogance and more extroverted ways rather than being negatively modest and withdrawing/too reserved.

You probably don't want the lemming of women your bro "gets" anyways

 

[emre43]

Your brother sounds like the kind of guy I would avoid like the plague.

As his brother am I allowed to say that I don't like him and if I could I would also avoid him like the plague.

 

[emre43]

ohhh, yeah~ ditto.
hah
Next time, you should tell your brother that girls have brains and can decide for themselves who they like; I can guarantee, any girl worth dating in the long run would prefer a modest guy over some jerk.

Thanks, I will mention that to him if there is a next time. Unfortunately I am not the quickest thinker and I couldn't think of any response to get back to him with.