Shift
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I read your posts whenever I see you, just because your name made me laugh and grabbed my attention!
That's the key, isn't it, not taking things personally and having self love. I know these things, but for some reason knowing just isn't the same. I'm not sure how to just DO IT. I spend a lot of time reading and listening to different "self-helpish" or spiritual books and things. My boyfriend listens to them, too and he's the type of person who just reads it and does it. He's like, "oh, that's a good idea to not take things personally, I'm gonna do that from now on!" and then he does. For me, I just don't get it. I need step by step instructions because my brain feels like it's filled with concrete. Changing how I think requires slowly chipping things away and then figuring out how to attach the new ideas and it's a slow and grueling process. I think my boyfriend's brain is made of wet clay, so it's easy to just alter what's in there without having to try very hard.
I had a conversation like this with my friend yesterday... He had been terribly depressed a couple years ago and then decided that wasn't what he wanted and he just stopped being depressed. I can't do that. I can't just decide that I want to be happy one day and then be happy. It's hard for me to change, even though I want to more than anything. I worry that he thinks I'm not getting better because I am not trying hard enough.