Scared

[klytus]

Honestly, since this is a mental health issue, I would suggest to only do things you feel comfortable about. It makes no sense to push an unstable person into a critical situation. While you need a change, I doubt that it's this sort of a change.

All this seem to be about is the simplification of the lives of the people around you.

 

[Pink_Paula]

It basically is about making peoples lives around me easier, which is cool because i have put mum through so much lately that i think she needs a break away from me where she knows i'm safe and stuff! but then it could make me worse, being around negativity all the time, being put in situations that ordinarily i would avoid, while i agree a change can be good, i also think that right now i just need a hug and to be told it's all going to be ok

 

[Square_Eyes]

My care co-ordinator is always trying to put me in a position that places me outside of my comfort zone. My initial reaction is to reject all their suggestions and play it safe. However, after 'playing it safe' for well over ten years now, I'm slowly coming to terms with the fact that perhaps I'm not the best authority on my own problems. I want to feel like I'm doing everything in my power to make things better for myself but I don't think i'll ever be able to qualify that 'want' without placing myself in somebody else's hands at least once and taking the risk. Even though I don't know what the right decision is, I hope you make it. Good luck.

 

[Danfalc]

While thats good advice square_eyes,the crisis care worked has only known her for a few days I think.I dont know what the right decision is either and I'm sorry if I have confused you,I just think it should be your decision to make.

Sometimes we do have to get shoved into the deep end for things to ever change,but at the same time it has to be you who makes that change imo.Whatever happens I am sure you will be okay,even if you dont like it in there,at least it gives your Mum a break,and then hopefully when things are a bit more stable for everyone,you can go back home and things will be better for everyone.But at the same time you have to remember what happens if they decide your a danger to yourself..and your Mum agrees,they can then by law keep you in.They did this to my Mum,even though she went in by her own choice,they slapped her with a section.I know your poorly right now,but I honestly dont see how forcing you into a strange place is going to help

And I could be totaly wrong,you might end up getting good help and support in there that you otherwise might of not got. But I have seen first hand the health care people get in this country,and imo hospital should be a last resort,like it was for my Mums own saftey she went,i know your ill but i honestly think given time,you will get better at your own pace.

 

[Pink_Paula]

I do want to get help, i think i need it right now and yes my mum could do with a break from me and all of my dramatics, but hearing people mentioning sectioning and stuff is scaring me shizless, i don't mind getting help, i just don't want to be forced into anything. Oh gawd me is totally confused now, i mean i want to keep mum happy which means going to get help and getting help is what i need, just now i'm terrified that they're going to deem me as a danger to myself and make me stay there!

 

[iamthenra]

First of all... DON'T PANIC!!! What are some reasons why they would hold you there? Or prevent you from leaving? Are there doctors there who will asses how well you are? If so, then you are still in control. I mean, all you have to do is tell them what they want to hear so that you still have the control to leave or stay.... I can't believe that they would lock you up and throw away the key if you are showing signs of improvement, and getting better? Does this place have psychologists or psychiatrists? Or is it just a "safe haven" to prevent self inflicted harm?

 

[meatcake]

hey paula, i don't know your situation, like if you are in therapy or anything, but i kind of hope you do go, if the place looks alright, just because i know the times i've been suicidal, having a change of scene would have been really helpful. and to be able to go to group therapy and maybe talk about things with other people would have been great, even if it's terrifying at first. when you're really depressed, you kind of get tunnel vision, and just see your problems, it's just the way our brains work. but having other people to talk to can help a lot. anyway, i hope you feel better!