scared ''eye contact'' looking frightened..:(

[Falkor]

Hi everyone.

So I've been thinking about this. Today it happened to me a lot.
When I feel anxious, and people are around me, and when they look at me, I look frightened ''in my eyes'' , It's hard to make eye contact.
And i feel constantly aware of my fear of making eye contact.
I look damn scared when I look at someone's face and I'm afraid it looks really weird. i can't control this, my eyes become big alot and I'm afraid to make people feel uncomfortable. But my fear is unstop-able.

Maybe some of you understand this??
eye contact is so hard for me :/

 

[AsTimeBurns]

Try staring at their nose. it looks like you're staring at their eyes, but you don't actually have to.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

Any advice on how to relax our eyes and facial muscles? That would help a lot.

Although I haven't tested this out in a practical situation, you could try this if you're worried about a tense or 'scared' face when you're talking to people...

Practice making a relaxed face in the mirror -- a bored, completely relaxed face. This is your 'neutral expression'.
If you make this face when you're talking to someone, it's harder for your muscles to tense up and go all the way from 'bored face' to 'terrified face' - it would probably land somewhere in the middle.

It's an acting technique called understating. I think it could help if you work at it a bit.


edit: also... I suppose that in the long run it would be better to practice relaxation and distraction techniques so that your interactions with people aren't so uncomfortable all the time.

 

[Lionheart]

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[Chriiss]

Yee I always look down when it comes to eye contact... Feels like I'm looking down a black hole when I look into someones eyes.. Makes me feel soo uncomfortable.
I know how you feel.

 

[Phoenixx]

Yeah eye contact scares me too, but lately I've been getting better with it. I've been forcing myself to make eye contact when I talk or when someone's talking to me.