really heartbroken..

[LazyHermitCrab]

so i met this guy who was is in the army. at first I was really paronoid because it takes me months to get used to someone. It took everything I had to go on base because the guards would always make me uncomfortable but then I got used to it which felt like a breakthrough..anyway we started talking more and I had trouble trusting him at first but then fell in love because I could never spend a lot of time with one person until him.. and now hes gone.. ::

 

[mads]

I am so sorry to hear about your horrible loss. It is really devastating to hear

 

[Flowers-Of-Bloom]

That's sad to hear. I hope you're doing ok.
This sort of thing has happened to me before... One of the worst things in life is heartbreak.

 

[BlueDays]

Try and do something you really enjoy doing to keep your mind off how bad you are feeling. Time does slowly heal heartbreak. Keep busy in the meantime.
Keep telling yourself this is just one bad experience, love does not always end like that. Some people can make it work, so there is no reason why you can't too.

 

[Brokenx]

It will feel hard now, but you will get over it i promise

 

[Noca]

I'm sorry for your loss.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

That's sad to hear. I hope you're doing ok.
This sort of thing has happened to me before... One of the worst things in life is heartbreak.

What happened? And definately true ::

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Try and do something you really enjoy doing to keep your mind off how bad you are feeling. Time does slowly heal heartbreak. Keep busy in the meantime.
Keep telling yourself this is just one bad experience, love does not always end like that. Some people can make it work, so there is no reason why you can't too.

I guess enjoying a box of double stuffed oreos is enjoyable..

 

[Hellhound]

Aww... i'm sorry to hear

 

[I_jailed_me]

so i met this guy who was is in the army. at first I was really paronoid because it takes me months to get used to someone. It took everything I had to go on base because the guards would always make me uncomfortable but then I got used to it which felt like a breakthrough..anyway we started talking more and I had trouble trusting him at first but then fell in love because I could never spend a lot of time with one person until him.. and now hes gone.. ::

You mean he is gone on duty or has he ditched you? Some army men just make friends only to have fun during their holidays but either way rejection does make you feel bad because it makes you feel unworthy and not good enough. Usually we feel that we need to go back to them so we can get ourselves approved and so we can feel that we are good enough. Its just the opposite of someone coming too close to us and selling themselves cheap by nagging us.

If some one comes too close to you it does not mean that your the best person in the world and thats why they are hounding you. Sameway if some one leaves you it does not mean your the worst person in the world and your unworthy. Well thats just how i looked at it, thought i share it with you.

 

[illuminationSP]

Happened to me also, quite recently. One of the cruelest things I've ever experienced. Fortunately, it hasn't hindered my desire or willingness to find/accept love elsewhere, from someone else. Hang in there.

Some people are just full of **** and always will be. Let them be that way. Sad for them. Their own issues are to blame, not ours.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

You mean he is gone on duty or has he ditched you? Some army men just make friends only to have fun during their holidays but either way rejection does make you feel bad because it makes you feel unworthy and not good enough. Usually we feel that we need to go back to them so we can get ourselves approved and so we can feel that we are good enough. Its just the opposite of someone coming too close to us and selling themselves cheap by nagging us.

If some one comes too close to you it does not mean that your the best person in the world and thats why they are hounding you. Sameway if some one leaves you it does not mean your the worst person in the world and your unworthy. Well thats just how i looked at it, thought i share it with you.

..Not sure what happend but he usually writes first but he took awhile so I asked whats up first he just said hey which is saying goodbye on a light note..yea I see what you mean ::

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Happened to me also, quite recently. One of the cruelest things I've ever experienced. Fortunately, it hasn't hindered my desire or willingness to find/accept love elsewhere, from someone else. Hang in there.

Some people are just full of **** and always will be. Let them be that way. Sad for them. Their own issues are to blame, not ours.

:: I'm sorry.. At the same time you experianced it and now you don't have to regret not trying..

 

[I_jailed_me]

May be he needs something from you that he is not getting? Where you supportive and concerned about him being alone, its nice to say stuff to men like how brave and what a great fighter he is. Do you say all that?

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

May be he needs something from you that he is not getting? Where you supportive and concerned about him being alone, its nice to say stuff to men like how brave and what a great fighter he is. Do you say all that?

No I haven't because he said he was just going to work on base and also he felt like talking about other stuff so I did.. ::

 

[I_jailed_me]

No I haven't because he said he was just going to work on base and also he felt like talking about other stuff so I did.. ::

Well if people cant understand then its not worth bothering about them.

 

[Flowers-Of-Bloom]

What happened? And definately true ::

I was going out with a guy... He was wonderful. I seriously thought that we'd be together for a long time. Sometimes we'd just sit and talk for hours, you know. I was myself around him. I trusted him. But then he just... left. And he gave me no clear reason why. I had to pick apart my memories and everything that he said just to come up with a possible explanation. I really didn't handle it well... I thought that suicide was a very liable option. It took me three months to get out of that dark place.
Now I just don't get myself into relationships. I have enough trouble on my own.

I don't know, maybe sharing experiences helps.

 

[I_jailed_me]

I was going out with a guy... He was wonderful. I seriously thought that we'd be together for a long time. Sometimes we'd just sit and talk for hours, you know. I was myself around him. I trusted him. But then he just... left. And he gave me no clear reason why. I had to pick apart my memories and everything that he said just to come up with a possible explanation. I really didn't handle it well... I thought that suicide was a very liable option. It took me three months to get out of that dark place.
Now I just don't get myself into relationships. I have enough trouble on my own.

I don't know, maybe sharing experiences helps.

Why do you think he left? I think people mostly leave because we give to much ourselves. In other words if the supply increases more than the demand people lose interest and start moveing away?

 

[Flowers-Of-Bloom]

Why do you think he left? I think people mostly leave because we give to much ourselves. In other words if the supply increases more than the demand people lose interest and start moveing away?

I don't know, I think it was the age difference. I was 16, and he was 22. (My parents weren't too happy. ) Maybe he felt responsible because sometimes we went out drinking and because I was only just within the age of consent.
He said that it wasn't anything to do with me personally, but he could've been lying.