quitting my job

[ophme]

I have decided (I think) to quit my job tomorrow. I didn't give a two weeks notice, so I'm worried with how my manager will react to me leaving abruptly. I plan on calling in early tomorrow to break the news.

I feel guilty yet at the same time I want to get away from the job (MONTHS AGO). I no longer care for it to be honest. When I go into work I feel like walking right back out. I work in retail. The schedule is constantly being revised. My supervisors are always calling me at home asking if I can come in because someone's called out. The pay is shitty. The store is a mess and it's frustrating. I actually took a 2 weeks leave of absence last month because I was badly depressed and anxious all of the time. My manager knows of my condition but still I feel like she's going to be pissed with me.

Another concern is my boyfriend. He takes care of our bills basically and I take care of whatever else. He doesn't want me to quit my job until I have another job to go to. And I may have one doing an overnight paper route w/ my brother. My brother hasn't given an answer whether it's ok with him or not.

So I guess this was just to vent and/or if anyone reads this and wants to give any advice on what to do.

 

[NormanBates]

If that's what your job is like then no wonder you have a 'condition'

 

[ophme]

If that's what your job is like then no wonder you have a 'condition'

haha thank you, you made me laugh. =} sometimes i wonder though if my job is really that bad. that i should just suck it up and deal until i can find a job to replace this one... but i'm ****ing fed up. ::

 

[dottie]

give your two weeks! i dare you

eta: i don't dare you to quit but i mean, if you are i encourage you to at least leave the two weeks notice.

 

[ophme]

give your two weeks! i dare you

eta: i don't dare you to quit but i mean, if you are i encourage you to at least leave the two weeks notice.

thanks for trying, dottie. :: but i called in this morning, said i was quitting. response was, "just like that?" she didn't sound pissed, more surprised than anything. i'm going in tomorrow morning for an exit interview. i have an idea of what i'm going to say but actually speaking it is a different thing.

 

[DaaaBulls]

ophme-
I was in the same situation around 3 months ago. I hated my job, I felt like the people there didn't like/respect me. I felt like the customers thought I was a tool and had no respect for me. I was 15 minutes away from just not showing up that day but decided to go and boy am I glad I did. If you can I would seriously think about saying you amde a mistake by quitting and would like to stay on. If it's this bad now it can only get better. Especially with the way the economy is you should feel proud that you have a job in the first place. I don't know where I would be now if I had quit but things have gotten a lot better. I think just a change of attitude is what happened. I no longer despised going in and just realized it's just a job and something for me to do and make money, nothing more. I would say these split decisions are the worst, give it another month and try and just enjoy it a bit more, usually it isn't the job that is making us depressed/frustrated but the lack of things we are doing outside of the job. I know for a fact if I had a lot of other things going on outside of my job then it would be a situation where I would not want to be there but in a good way, the kind of way where I don't want to be here because I have so much other stuff I want to do instead of not wanting to be there because of whats lacking outside of the job.

 

[dottie]

thanks for trying, dottie. :: but i called in this morning, said i was quitting. response was, "just like that?" she didn't sound pissed, more surprised than anything. i'm going in tomorrow morning for an exit interview. i have an idea of what i'm going to say but actually speaking it is a different thing.

an exit interview? wtf never heard of that before. let us know how it goes!

 

[Argamemnon]

I have decided (I think) to quit my job tomorrow. I didn't give a two weeks notice, so I'm worried with how my manager will react to me leaving abruptly. I plan on calling in early tomorrow to break the news.

I feel guilty yet at the same time I want to get away from the job (MONTHS AGO). I no longer care for it to be honest. When I go into work I feel like walking right back out. I work in retail. The schedule is constantly being revised. My supervisors are always calling me at home asking if I can come in because someone's called out. The pay is shitty. The store is a mess and it's frustrating. I actually took a 2 weeks leave of absence last month because I was badly depressed and anxious all of the time. My manager knows of my condition but still I feel like she's going to be pissed with me.

Another concern is my boyfriend. He takes care of our bills basically and I take care of whatever else. He doesn't want me to quit my job until I have another job to go to. And I may have one doing an overnight paper route w/ my brother. My brother hasn't given an answer whether it's ok with him or not.

So I guess this was just to vent and/or if anyone reads this and wants to give any advice on what to do.

Why does your boyfriend want you to have a job? Doesn't he earn enough? My philosophy is "spend less, and work less".

 

[ophme]

Why does your boyfriend want you to have a job? Doesn't he earn enough? My philosophy is "spend less, and work less".

No, he doesn't earn enough. He makes enough just to cover rent and a couple bills,sometimes not. The money I was making was for food, gas for the car, etc. He's feeling a lot of pressure on him now that I've quit. He's not in that great of shape either- he has asthma and needs medicine. Today I applied for food stamps and energy assistance, we'll see how that goes. I also started the process of applying for SSI.

 

[ophme]

an exit interview? wtf never heard of that before. let us know how it goes!

Turns out they don't actually have exit interviews where I worked, but I talked with my ex-manager anyhow. I couldn't clearly express my reasons for leaving; I got out what I could... When I told her the unstable schedule was stressful for me, she said "that's retail". Which I'm not sure I agree with. She also said that she thought she had made it clear that she'd work with me if I needed anything.Probably she did but I still felt that I couldn't ask for things to be changed. Overall it went ok and she gave me a hug and all. Whatever... She said if I change my mind, just give a call...

 

[enchantress24]

Two weeks notice is just a courtesy. It's not required. Most places even have you sign a paper stating that you have right to quit at any moment just as they have the right to terminate you at any moment as well.

I mean, when you get fired, do they give you a two weeks notice?? yeah right!

 

[ophme]

ophme-
I was in the same situation around 3 months ago. I hated my job, I felt like the people there didn't like/respect me. I felt like the customers thought I was a tool and had no respect for me. I was 15 minutes away from just not showing up that day but decided to go and boy am I glad I did. If you can I would seriously think about saying you amde a mistake by quitting and would like to stay on. If it's this bad now it can only get better. Especially with the way the economy is you should feel proud that you have a job in the first place. I don't know where I would be now if I had quit but things have gotten a lot better. I think just a change of attitude is what happened. I no longer despised going in and just realized it's just a job and something for me to do and make money, nothing more. I would say these split decisions are the worst, give it another month and try and just enjoy it a bit more, usually it isn't the job that is making us depressed/frustrated but the lack of things we are doing outside of the job. I know for a fact if I had a lot of other things going on outside of my job then it would be a situation where I would not want to be there but in a good way, the kind of way where I don't want to be here because I have so much other stuff I want to do instead of not wanting to be there because of whats lacking outside of the job.

I thank you for encouraging me to save my job because that probably was the right thing to do. However, the right thing for me was to leave.

 

[ophme]

Two weeks notice is just a courtesy. It's not required. Most places even have you sign a paper stating that you have right to quit at any moment just as they have the right to terminate you at any moment as well.

I mean, when you get fired, do they give you a two weeks notice?? yeah right!

lol I never thought of it that way!