Incognito
Well-known member
So many people here have trouble talking to others. We over-analyze and worry about how we come across. I'd like to share a great experience I had today.
I've always waited for people to talk to me, and they never did. And whenever I did , I tried too hard to make them like me. But it occured to me today that if I liked it so much when people talked to me, wouldn't they feel the same? So I started talking to people at work. I didn't try to impress them, I was just casual. Occasionally, I worried I was saying something stupid and I started analyzing everything. When I caught myself doing this, I forced myself not to analyze. And you know what? They started opening up to me!
But the best was to come. There was a girl there who I thought had pretty hair. I asked her if she had done anything to it. It turns out she had. Now I've always been afraid to compliment girls, thinking I would come across as desperate and creep them out, but this time I did. I said casually "It looks good". She said thanks and clearly enjoyed the compliment.
I can't remember the last time I felt this good! :lol:
I've always waited for people to talk to me, and they never did. And whenever I did , I tried too hard to make them like me. But it occured to me today that if I liked it so much when people talked to me, wouldn't they feel the same? So I started talking to people at work. I didn't try to impress them, I was just casual. Occasionally, I worried I was saying something stupid and I started analyzing everything. When I caught myself doing this, I forced myself not to analyze. And you know what? They started opening up to me!
But the best was to come. There was a girl there who I thought had pretty hair. I asked her if she had done anything to it. It turns out she had. Now I've always been afraid to compliment girls, thinking I would come across as desperate and creep them out, but this time I did. I said casually "It looks good". She said thanks and clearly enjoyed the compliment.
I can't remember the last time I felt this good! :lol: