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I have made progress
Not physically--my life is a mess lol--but mentally i have completely transformed since i came to this forum!!
When i first came on i was really unhappy, bitter, stuck in the negative, my sp made me feel worthless etc and just wanted to rant and vent and prove the world sucks for sp-ers lol
Now i feel totally different and this isn't a temporary thing. My mentality has changed. I feel positive and see things in a whole new light! I no longer beat myself up much at all. Yeh i get the drowning fear and despair in social situations but i just let it pass, i don't reflect that onto myself as a person and tell myself i'm a 'failure' and worthless etc. And i don't analyse everything incessantly afterwards. I just forget. I want to feel good and see the positive.
My mind is starting to work for me now! I am on my own side and this is the key to beating it.
And i think it's all thanks to these forums, research i have done and the people i've talked to so cheers
I see the way out, just have to find the right method. I plan to be out of this within a year and if i find a 'method' that works i will surely share it with all you lovely people
I have made progress
Not physically--my life is a mess lol--but mentally i have completely transformed since i came to this forum!!
When i first came on i was really unhappy, bitter, stuck in the negative, my sp made me feel worthless etc and just wanted to rant and vent and prove the world sucks for sp-ers lol
Now i feel totally different and this isn't a temporary thing. My mentality has changed. I feel positive and see things in a whole new light! I no longer beat myself up much at all. Yeh i get the drowning fear and despair in social situations but i just let it pass, i don't reflect that onto myself as a person and tell myself i'm a 'failure' and worthless etc. And i don't analyse everything incessantly afterwards. I just forget. I want to feel good and see the positive.
My mind is starting to work for me now! I am on my own side and this is the key to beating it.
And i think it's all thanks to these forums, research i have done and the people i've talked to so cheers
I see the way out, just have to find the right method. I plan to be out of this within a year and if i find a 'method' that works i will surely share it with all you lovely people
Generical
Well-known member
Sweet! flake_ im glad your starting to feel better i gotta agree with you just talking about stuff and finding out so much about sp is really helping. Although i wasnt too bad before i came on, sorta was already getting over it and at first the forum was reminding me too much about it and bringing it back, but now i feel its for the best to know what it is and i feel better about meself
fibri
Member
I'm going away tomorrow for a conference. I know it will feel awful, physically (shaking, palpitations, jitteriness, etc) and mentally (panic, embarassment, shyness, disconnection...)
BUT I am going to focus very hard on positive thoughts, like:
- reminding myself that I'm not a loser to be feeling this way
- only listening to positive thoughts
- remembering that even if I panic, it won't kill me!
- remembering that even if I panic, probably nobody will notice!
- remembering that I have a support line here to come back to (thank you!)
- remembering that other people in the world feel the same way I do, and no matter how bad I feel, it doesn't mean I'm crazy!
- reminding myself that it's just a couple of days - how bad can that be?
Take care everyone!
BUT I am going to focus very hard on positive thoughts, like:
- reminding myself that I'm not a loser to be feeling this way
- only listening to positive thoughts
- remembering that even if I panic, it won't kill me!
- remembering that even if I panic, probably nobody will notice!
- remembering that I have a support line here to come back to (thank you!)
- remembering that other people in the world feel the same way I do, and no matter how bad I feel, it doesn't mean I'm crazy!
- reminding myself that it's just a couple of days - how bad can that be?
Take care everyone!
fibri
Member
Back from the conference. I made it! (Of course )
Just focusing on this forum really helped. Knowing that this was not me being crazy but instead a condition I have always had, that has just got out of hand in the last few years.
I know that I have always disliked social situations, always felt anxious, but I buried my fear - usually by getting drunk.
I quit drinking 16 months ago. At first it was tough, but now I'm getting used to handle social situations without alcohol. I realise that in fact alcohol did NOT help, all it did was first push me into a false cheerfulness that was still anxiety-filled, and help me forget aftrewards. Now being sober is in a way easier, because I find myself more standing back and observing the situation, rather than being really inwardly focused. And it helps me feel that at least in that respect I am fully in control of myself, which is good for my self-confidence!
So, the conference was deeply unpleasant, but not as bad as I feared. Today I'm feeling good - I'm at home, taking a day off, relaxing from my efforts of the last weeks, and feeling satisfied that I made it through a very stressful period without crashing and burning. Proud of myself and happy to have this forum to share both my success as well as my earlier dread. If I could get through the last month, I'm in a better state than I thought I was!
) Just focusing on this forum really helped. Knowing that this was not me being crazy but instead a condition I have always had, that has just got out of hand in the last few years.
I know that I have always disliked social situations, always felt anxious, but I buried my fear - usually by getting drunk.
I quit drinking 16 months ago. At first it was tough, but now I'm getting used to handle social situations without alcohol. I realise that in fact alcohol did NOT help, all it did was first push me into a false cheerfulness that was still anxiety-filled, and help me forget aftrewards. Now being sober is in a way easier, because I find myself more standing back and observing the situation, rather than being really inwardly focused. And it helps me feel that at least in that respect I am fully in control of myself, which is good for my self-confidence!
So, the conference was deeply unpleasant, but not as bad as I feared. Today I'm feeling good - I'm at home, taking a day off, relaxing from my efforts of the last weeks, and feeling satisfied that I made it through a very stressful period without crashing and burning. Proud of myself and happy to have this forum to share both my success as well as my earlier dread. If I could get through the last month, I'm in a better state than I thought I was!
winnipegjets
Well-known member
fibri said:Back from the conference. I made it! (Of course
Just focusing on this forum really helped. Knowing that this was not me being crazy but instead a condition I have always had, that has just got out of hand in the last few years.
I know that I have always disliked social situations, always felt anxious, but I buried my fear - usually by getting drunk.
I quit drinking 16 months ago. At first it was tough, but now I'm getting used to handle social situations without alcohol. I realise that in fact alcohol did NOT help, all it did was first push me into a false cheerfulness that was still anxiety-filled, and help me forget aftrewards. Now being sober is in a way easier, because I find myself more standing back and observing the situation, rather than being really inwardly focused. And it helps me feel that at least in that respect I am fully in control of myself, which is good for my self-confidence!
So, the conference was deeply unpleasant, but not as bad as I feared. Today I'm feeling good - I'm at home, taking a day off, relaxing from my efforts of the last weeks, and feeling satisfied that I made it through a very stressful period without crashing and burning. Proud of myself and happy to have this forum to share both my success as well as my earlier dread. If I could get through the last month, I'm in a better state than I thought I was!
I love you. God loves you. You are a great person. I admire your courage. Drinking is hard to quit, but you are a great man for quitting.
millymoocow
Well-known member
well the past 36 hours have been so... hypo!!!
yesterday i was happy and confident for once and my friends were having a convo that i really wasnt listening to. :roll: and then one said "you and you and you are..." and then he pointed to me and said "she's the only one who isnt". and then my bestie explains to me today that he was saying that the she and the others were ugly, but i wasnt. :? and mind you, this guy who said all this is my besties boyfriend! 8O
and today, before i walked out me front door to go to school, my lil sis says, "you look pretty!" and im like "ok...thanks". and then a girl i dont know very well but shes real nice says to me "are you wearing contacts?" (cuz i had my glasses off). and i'm like "no" and shes replied "you look pretty" and i answer "thanks"
its nice to know that some people out there arent shallow. but, it kinda helps cuz most of today i had my glasses off and i was wearing make-up. so... ummm? 8)
yesterday i was happy and confident for once and my friends were having a convo that i really wasnt listening to. :roll: and then one said "you and you and you are..." and then he pointed to me and said "she's the only one who isnt". and then my bestie explains to me today that he was saying that the she and the others were ugly, but i wasnt. :? and mind you, this guy who said all this is my besties boyfriend! 8O
and today, before i walked out me front door to go to school, my lil sis says, "you look pretty!" and im like "ok...thanks".
and then a girl i dont know very well but shes real nice says to me "are you wearing contacts?" (cuz i had my glasses off). and i'm like "no" and shes replied "you look pretty" and i answer "thanks" its nice to know that some people out there arent shallow. but, it kinda helps cuz most of today i had my glasses off and i was wearing make-up. so... ummm? 8)
haha good for you!!!millymoocow said:well the past 36 hours have been so... hypo!!!
yesterday i was happy and confident for once and my friends were having a convo that i really wasnt listening to. :roll: and then one said "you and you and you are..." and then he pointed to me and said "she's the only one who isnt". and then my bestie explains to me today that he was saying that the she and the others were ugly, but i wasnt. :? and mind you, this guy who said all this is my besties boyfriend! 8O
and today, before i walked out me front door to go to school, my lil sis says, "you look pretty!" and im like "ok...thanks".
its nice to know that some people out there arent shallow. but, it kinda helps cuz most of today i had my glasses off and i was wearing make-up. so... ummm? 8)
it sounded like you had a really great day. so maybe you are prettier than you thought...everyone was just confirming it . i think youre like 13 right? you may be one of the youngest here...but you are one of the nicest and upbeat pple on here so you deserve it . you have a beautiful personality to go along with it. i know i enjoy your encouraging posts 8)
BreakingFree
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I have given in my name to do voluntary work with the Salvation Army. It is my first step in relating to people other than at work. I will keep you posted on how its going. I hope to make some strides into the real world.
I have given in my name to do voluntary work with the Salvation Army. It is my first step in relating to people other than at work. I will keep you posted on how its going. I hope to make some strides into the real world.
steel_sparks
Active member
I've had a very good time lately It started about two weeks ago when i was out with my sister and I went up to do kareoke and when I finished nearly everyone in the pub was clapping and my sister said she didn't know i could sing which put me on a high for the next few days then I carried on along as normal untill last friday when I went to the same pub and a woman decided to take a fancy to me and convinced me to do Kareoke again as a duet, anyway i ended up going back to her place and we had sex and now i'm on a major high.
Graham
and now i'm on a major high.Graham
piper23
Member
My boss is usually really stressed out and yells at everyone (I have only been there 2 months and 7 ppl have been fired, and it's a small office!), and whenver I do something good he always finds another thing to point out that I should do better. Well today I stuck to my convictions as to why I did something a certain way and he told me it was excellent and I am a great asset! 8O Also I am getting better with handling ppl on the phone, even the mean ones. So today was a good day.
