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[Butterfly]

First off, I'm very for everyone's successes.

My walk on the wild side took place on Saturday morning at the gym, when I actually talked to a stranger for more than 5 minutes. I usually go to the machines area at lunch time so I can have it pretty much to myself. And since I'd never been there during the weekend, I didn't expect to see so many people.

While I was walking on the treadmill, two guys came closer and one of them tried to use a machine. As they were wondering why the thingy wouldn't start, I looked at it and shyly said "it's unplugged." The poor guy was kind of embarrassed and left (I'm still fretting about making him feel bad).

The thing is another guy who was running next to me introduced himself and started chatting. I mostly answered his questions but at least I was
feeling ok when talking to someone I didn't know. For me, this was a positive step. :arrow:

 

[aaaiiihhh]

So great to see so many positive things! Last week I went drinking with my co-workers. I wasnt going to go, but one of my co-workers said to me "Don't be a weiner! Just go - you're like me, you don't want to go, but you'll end up having a good time."

And I did end up having a good time! I also shared with that one co-worker about how it takes me a long time to find my comfort zone, and she totally understood because that's how she was when she first started. We even ended up listening to the same type of music.

After that day, I've just felt very comfortable with people at work and talking to people at work.

 

[Angie_05]

So great to see so many positive things! Last week I went drinking with my co-workers. I wasnt going to go, but one of my co-workers said to me "Don't be a weiner! Just go - you're like me, you don't want to go, but you'll end up having a good time."

And I did end up having a good time! I also shared with that one co-worker about how it takes me a long time to find my comfort zone, and she totally understood because that's how she was when she first started. We even ended up listening to the same type of music.

After that day, I've just felt very comfortable with people at work and talking to people at work.

That's awesome, aaaiiihhh. I know how hard it is to start socializing with coworkers.

I went camping this weekend, which was 5 hours away. I had to meet like 20 people I didn't know because they were my boyfriend's friends. I was so nervous but it went great. I decided it would be better to ease into the situation rather than ignore everyone and act like I'm having a terrible weekend. There were obviously some nervous and uncomfortable moments, but there were more good ones.

 

[Meatwad]

I have a positive thing that I haven't done yet, but will on Monday that I am very nervous about and have never done before...going to the airport and flying alone. I am so worried about not knowing where to go and what to do when I am in the airport alone, and wandering around looking like an idiot. I am more nervous about being in the airport than being on the plane. I hope it is not as complicated as I think its going to be

 

[Toad]

Something positive that I just did was order a pizza. Yeah I know...big deal...well it is for me. I've always managed to avoid doing this by finding an excuse to not order a pizza, or get someone else to do it, but I couldn't this time. Of course I still will find excuses and make other people do this in the future, because I still really don't like to do this, but now I've done something I've always been afraid to do.

 

[Yossarian]

Because my tap water tastes so vile (down to the pipes I think) I have to buy bottled water which I feel quite self-conscious about because buying water is a bit silly.

Anyway I was at the checkout and the guy behind me said to the checkout women "I don't see what's wrong with tap water." Now this pissed me off because I felt really embarressed and annoyed because it's none of his damn business. So I just ignored his comment and carried on packing but he said it again!

Normally I would ignore it, say nothing and go home fuming about it. However for some reason I actually turned to the guy and explained the problems with my tap water. The three of us had a little chat while I was packing and it was quite nice in a way. I also felt quite good because I knew I had a good reason and I think the guy might even of felt a little silly when I explained it.

So I managed to have a 3 minute conversation with strangers, feel comfortable doing it and turned what might of been a negative situation for me into a rather pleasant one. Which was nice.

 

[pitkreet]

I went to see my doctor about another matter, but before I left, I decided to mention, for the first time to anyone (other than people on this site), that I had diagnosed myself as having SA and wondered if there was any help available in the local area. He said yes, asked a couple of questions about my symptoms, and agreed to put me on the waiting list to see a therapist. Inveitably, there's a waiting list, so I should start CBT in about 4 months.

It was a bit strange, I hadn't really intended to bring the subject up but on the spur of the moment, just decided I may as well mention it. I can't say I really feel anything in terms of relief, excitiement or even apprehension....it was all just so matter of fact...

me: "I have a sore back"
doc: "don't we all"
me: "well, can you offer any help?"
doc: "not really, I don't do backs"
me: "oh well.....to be honest, I wasn't expecting much help"
doc: "that's what we're here for....anyway I have more patients to see so if you wouldn't mind closing the door on the way out"
me: "ok.....by the way doc, I have SA, can I see a therapist?"
doc: "sure thing bud, I'll put you on the waiting list and you should start CBT in about 4 months"
me: "ok, that's cool"
doc: "no problem, have a nice day"

I'll probably start cacking myself nearer the time but I guess I've just effortlessly stumbled into the process of trying to recover. I suppose that I'm now officially registered as mentally ill.

 

[black_mamba]

Anyway I was at the checkout and the guy behind me said to the checkout women "I don't see what's wrong with tap water." Now this pissed me off because I felt really embarressed and annoyed because it's none of his damn business. So I just ignored his comment and carried on packing but he said it again!

Wow a sly comment like that would really anger me and I would be too choked up to say anything coherent let alone debate the quality of tap water.

Good on you. (Any tips for dealing with these sorts of situations?)

 

[Yossarian]

(Any tips for dealing with these sorts of situations?)

I have no idea why I was so calm and composed. I think I just knew I was in the right and he was wrong. Wrong technically because I had a reason for buying the water and wrong because it was rude to question other peoples' purchases. It's hard to pinpoint anything specific....I was in the right. There was nothing to fear. I guess self-righteousness ain't such a bad thing after all lol.

 

[black_mamba]

The only reaction that sort of remark produces from me is a smirk i.e. haha, ignorant fool.

So, +ve stuff eh? Well I knocked my head today by accident and I'm feeling better mentally. Went to pay some bills, didn't hold back with my questions and requests for receipts. Thats something I used to do without giving it a second thought, then it got difficult, now its getting slightly easier again. God damn I want some consistency!

 

[Butterfly]

Passed my driving test today!!!!!!!!!!!
I had failed a couple of weeks ago and felt really miserable and embarrassed. Almost thought about quitting the whole thing but kept trying and it worked!! Today the guy told me I was still too afraid of traffic and "of everything around me" (Jeez, he saw right through me 8O ) but that I hadn't committed any offences so I had passed. phew!!!

 

[Butterfly]

Thank you Masterpiece2!!!!!!!!!!!

It was a really nice gesture to reply to this elated message I posted last Friday. Many times I feel like doing it but I'm afraid I don't have anything interesting to say or that people won't really care for my opinion.

 

[Sue]

hay moog

going to the airport alone is so brave
there is no way i could do that and for the same reasons that you dont want to do it. getting lost and looking like an idiot. that is super what you are doing

good on ya :wink:

 

[black_mamba]

Passed my driving test today!!!!!!!!!!!
I had failed a couple of weeks ago and felt really miserable and embarrassed. Almost thought about quitting the whole thing but kept trying and it worked!! Today the guy told me I was still too afraid of traffic and "of everything around me" (Jeez, he saw right through me Shocked ) but that I hadn't committed any offences so I had passed. phew!!!

Wow I'm so jealous, thats amazing. Sounds like you coped with the anxiety very well. Congratulations!! :wink:

I got my bike test next week so wish me luck. *bites nails* 8O

 

[Sue]

good on ya butterfly
and good luck with bike results black mamba

 

[Butterfly]

Thank you guys!!!! You've made me feel as if I did something special 8)

Failing was quite a blow bec it's my first car ever (family was dirt poor when growing up) and I had way too many expectations about it.

The thing is I was terrified the first time I took the test and the second time I was wreck. A couple of days before the 2nd test I was so scared I couldn't concentrate on work and it was almost physical. At one point I closed my eyes and imagined the test all over again. I pictured the worst scenarios like not being able to park or messing up at some light, and how I would react to them. It was awful but I didn't feel so scared any more, even if I tried to redo the "exercise". Funny, I hadn't remembered this until now.

Good luck black_mamba in your bike test!! Please check back to tell us how it went.

 

[black_mamba]

You did do something special butterfly.

And thankyou for the luck I'm gonna need it, but I expect to fail first time around since I haven't ridden my bike for months, and the lessons are a big anxiety trip for me (being watched, critised, told off, ordered around, I hate it, but its neccessary).

Um some good news today I got my exam results back and I got the A's I was aiming for in certain subjects except, all my other grades were 1 or 2% away from A's...annoying or what?! Oh well, not the end of the world.

er what else, I tried talking a bit to some new kids at my workplace, nothing major, but they were in a little group of their own and I felt left out. *sniffle* and I only just started getting relaxed when I had decided to leave! (Does anyone else get that? Phone conversations for example, I perk up when I know the call is about to end.) *hehe*

 

[Sue]

Um some good news today I got my exam results back and I got the A's I was aiming for in certain subjects except, all my other grades were 1 or 2% away from A's...annoying or what?! Oh well, not the end of the world.

that is super mamba. id love to get A's but far off from doing that.

super sweet congrats!!!

 

[black_mamba]

Thankyou! I bloody deserved it, hours upon hours of though revision, literally hundreds of equations and processes to memorise. Woohoo bring on the 3rd year! :lol:

 

[Sue]

Thankyou! I bloody deserved it, hours upon hours of though revision, literally hundreds of equations and processes to memorise. Woohoo bring on the 3rd year! :lol:

your god damn right, you are going to blow them away girl