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[Scottish_Player]

i'll get used to this funky new hairstyle :wink:

A way to think of it is that it may be new to you but to people who have never seen you before as far as they are concerned its the way you have always had it if that makes sense,thats the way i try and look at things like when i get a new jacket or new trainers i feel as if everyone is looking at me even although i know they are not :?

 

[fiona]

Positive thing for me today was to go to the doctors and get some help. I hate the waiting room and having to tell the doctor what's wrong aswell you feel so stupid like I'm an adult who feels like a frightened kid and can't cope.

Thing is I have a hearing impairment which is why I am like I am and there is nothing that can be done for that anymore than wear a hearing aid which gives me like 50% hearing. if I could hear I know I would be ok with my SP

 

[Danfalc]

Yeah waiting rooms are scary for me aswell,i normaly tell the receptionist ill be outside having a cig,or a really early appointment so there wont be many people about.

Anyways nice one for going to the doctors,hope him/her is helpfull

 

[fiona]

Yeah waiting rooms are scary for me aswell,i normaly tell the receptionist ill be outside having a cig,or book a really early appointment so there wont be many people about.

Anyways nice one for going to the doctors,hope him/her is helpfull

Thanks

Yes he was nice and not intimidating like some of them are

 

[nickabcuk]

Thanks

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[pitkreet]

Wise words, nickabuk. They make a lot of sense.

I've little doubt that I have been hindered greatly in life by negative thinking but had little idea of true positive thinking is.

Perhaps you can compose a post on motivation as I've just realised I've been visiting this forum for nearly 6 months and whislt I've read quite a few good posts offering worthwhile advice, I never seem to be able to put together a concerted effort to improve my situation.

 

[Scottish_Player]

Positive stuff for me recently,well normaly before i go out the house i need to check out the windows to make sure no one is about if there is someone passing i would just stay in till all is clear but recently i have just been going out without checking when i say recently i mean over the past few weeks iam trying to phase out little things at a time and this is one of them.Now looking back at how i used to check out side i feel kinda silly but iam seriously starting to get over it i still do it now and again but no where near as much as i used to maybe about 1 in 10 of everytime i go out

Also went into B&Q again today needed strimmer wire and as soon as i found out i needed it i went straight away,normaly things like that i would think about and think about and eventulay ask someone else to go for me and say iam busy or something like that but i did it myself today

Spent most of my evening in the garden but instead of walking about with my head looking down and away from people i held it high,when some one walked down the street i had a quick look at them and guess what they wherent staring at me even if they where looking they where probably just having a look at what i was doing.

Well all in all ive had a pretty good week,instead of coming home from work and going on my comp like ive done faithfully now for years iam trying to find something else to do and even better if its outside.

Anyway have a good weekend all :wink:

 

[maggie]

hey Scottish...sounds like you had awesome couple of days....good you went to get your wire stuff from B&Q (i am better at doing stuff spur of the moment too, less time to over think it :wink: ) and hanging out in the garden...is it flower garden, vegetable garden? Did you plant anything? Digging in dirt makes me feel good ...i like how you said you're gonna try to change things one step at a time, like not looking out windows before you leave the house.. 8)..good for you :!:

 

[ScaredGirl]

Positive Feeling

Hi All,


The positive thing I did today was join this group. The positive thing I did yesterday was make a decision to get control over my negative energy and thoughts when I am with other people.

Scared Girl

 

[Nightshade]

I had a really positive experience yesterday. It is one of those things that might sound quite silly because it seems so trivial, but I think we all have these things that seem trivial to most people but are just huge to us.

For me, blushing has always been something that I just hated and it has stopped me doing so many things. I often used to blush if people said certain words (often related to sex), or mentioned somebody's name (not just men I was attracted to, but often just random people), or sometimes just for no reason I could understand. One of the worst words was "virgin".

Anyway, I've worked pretty hard on this aspect of my anxiety, and made good progress. Mostly now when people say things that would have made me blush in the past I just remind myself that there is no need to be anxious and I realise that I feel ok and then the moment passes (yay!!!).

So yesterday at choir someone refered to a section of music that was about the Virgin Mary and called it "the virgin bit". At that moment I realised that I definitely wasn't going to blush and that I didn't feel anxious at all. For some reason the word "virgin" got repeated about 4 times with variations ("virginity" as well) and I just sat there thinking "YES, YES, say it as many times as you like because I'm not going to freak out or blush or even feel slightly worried".

Anyway, that felt really good. It was a step up from doing a little mental routine to stop myself from becoming anxious.

Lately I've felt like I was going backwards with my anxiety and also I've had to work hard to avoid becoming depressed (it is winter and I have decided to try and get through winter without antidepressants for the first time in a decade). So this little thing has given me a much-needed boost.


By the way, welcome to ScaredGirl! And thanks to everyone who keeps posting positive things, because I feel good reading that other people are achieving things too.

 

[ScaredGirl]

Thanks for the greeting Night Shade!

 

[maggie]

yesterday at work, i initiated conversation with co-workers and my boss before they did...seemed to work for me, i'm guessing cause i was more in control of the conversation and not sitting back waiting for whatever questions were to come my way :? ...i think that way i am kind of more on the offence than the defence and it makes me feel less nervous...if that makes sense :wink:

 

[Angie_05]

yesterday at work, i initiated conversation with co-workers and my boss before they did...seemed to work for me, i'm guessing cause i was more in control of the conversation and not sitting back waiting for whatever questions were to come my way :? ...i think that way i am kind of more on the offence than the defence and it makes me feel less nervous...if that makes sense :wink:

Thanks for posting this, Maggie. Today I have to go to my professor's office and ask him something but I am so scared. I hate just arriving without notification, but I have been sending him emails and I feel they are too impersonal and not helping me get over SA.

Your post gave me encouragement to do it. Everyone's positive posts have. Reading about other's experiences with facing their fears makes mine seem less daunting. Thanks guys!

 

[maggie]

that's cool Angie_05 ....did you go see professor yet? how did it go?

 

[LonerSx]

That Nickabcuk post was great. Just by reading it once it has given me lots of confidence. It has given me some idea of how to approach my problem.

Taking a hint from that post which said that if you continue to think and do things the way you have always been doing......you will end up with the same results every time. There is no point in continuing to think the way you have always been thinking in the past.

Instead of continously thinking of the problem.............it is always better to keep on thinking about the solution. This will automatically drive away negative thoughts.

So I am applying all my energy in thinking about the solution instead of the problem.

Beacuse of my change in approach, today my day has gone really well. I am too happy and can see some hope now
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[Scottish_Player]

Hiya LonerSx glad to hear you had a good day,iam trying to change how i think also and i think just taking a little bit at a time is the key and try not to rush things.

 

[maggie]

...bear with me :wink: ......so about 5 min. drive from my house there are two gas stations...right across the road from each other....the one i ALWAYS go to and the one i have NEVER...the one i always go to...has been there longer, i am familiar with the attendants :roll: ...i have a big truck, so it is way easier to manouver around the pumps....but the owner is a snot...with a huge beehive hairdoo :twisted: ...and i can tell she really doesn't appreciate my business....o.k.... the newer gas station across the road....the fuel is made from corn and is way more environmentally friendly, the owner is a sweet old man who appreciates every customer...and it's CHEAPER!!...but it is harder to manouver around, has like this huge partition between the pumps and have to merge out into traffic when leaving, so "socially phobic me" always opts for older, more expensive gas station, because it is more comfortable :x .....today, as i sat at the pump waiting for the attendant to come out, i looked across at the newer, friendlier gas station, and noticed that, once again, i was gonna be a total friggin idiot and spend more money for less fuel just because of my anxiety!! I left the pump and drove across to the new station.......probably pissing off the beehive hairdoo lady.......my big proud moment for today :wink:

 

[MarCPatt]

I am able to work now. My anxiety is not as bad as it used to be. YES!!!!!

 

[maggie]

that's cool MarCPatt!!

 

[maggie]

so..... Father's day was stressing me all week....which is totally ridiculous, cause it is my own family 8O ....just my brothers and sisters and their families, but i still get freaky about it....what i did today was arrive one hour before anyone else, have some time with my parents, then others arrive, one at a time, so i get used to them slowly and have time to "adjust" myself to the growing number of people...if you know what i mean :roll:...it was way better than arriving after, and having to address everyone at once :wink: