Positive Posts Only

Scottish_Player

Well-known member
I thought it would be good to have a post where we could put up positive stories and things that have worked out well for us other than just talking about the things we cant do and the things that go wrong.

Well after reading the posts by Nickabcuk he has certainly opened up my mind about things.

I went to Mc Donalds today,something that may mean nothing to some people but i went to the one round the corner from me that i hate,i went through the drive thru and i had too repeat myself cause the guy coudlnt hear me as i was speakin so low,normaly i would fell terrible here but after reading what Nick said i decided to learn from it rather than fail myself on it and what i learnt is that i must speak clearer and louder the next time.

I also went to the train station today another thing i dont like as there is lots of people but it wasnt too busy and rather than sitting in my car and waitng to pick my mum up,i went out to the platform to wait on here and i didnt feel as bad as i thought i would.I think that avoiding these things most my life has made it seem bad but actualy being in the situation wasnt what i was expecting so for me that was another succes :D

I have found that dwelling on my problems does nothing,after reading nicks post last night and listening to "The 7 habits of highly effective people" (that i downloaded :oops: ) last night i was excited and felt a little hope and actualy was looking forward to getting out today and it was good :D iam not saying that iam reading to go host a confreence or anything like that i just feel ready to do somthing and start making changes.

Well it looks like my message is getting rather long so i will cut it off here . :)
 

AnnaMaria

Active member
Good for you ScotPlayr. :D

Honestly the most positive thing I did today was take the day off. I caught up on housework and even stood out on my balcony for 5 minutes. I usually don't because I live in the middle of downtown and everyone can spot me since I'm on the 3 floor surrounded by (literally) 4 other apartment buildings. 8O
 

Chilling__Echo

Well-known member
hmm sucess stories huh? i feel like i've made alot of improvement over the last year, before doing presentations were impossible for me while now they're doable with little anxiety if i prepare enough.

i just got to the point where i looked at everyone i thought had it so much easier than me and then looked back at myself and saw we weren't so different. i looked for skills that i thought i could be proud of and tried to go off of that. i try and look at other people as people, and not as a theat.

but yeah, it's all deffinately a state of mind. i've always heard tha tyou have to choose to be happy and only now do i really understand that phrase
 

Scottish_Player

Well-known member
hi Chiliing_Echo i dont think i could do presenations just yet,but iam not going to say i could never do them :D thinking positive like you said does help alot,even this helps on its own.I have found in the past day if i change my attutde and thinking, things go easier and i fell better :D

Iam just hoping iam not setting myself up for a fall,so i will try not to set myself tasks that are beyond my reach just yet :)
 

maggie

Well-known member
Hey Scottish_Player...that is awesome... I'm gonna check out the posts by Nickabcuk...good job...the McDonalds drivethru and picking up your Mom.. :D i'm happy for you..maybe the posts will inspire me too..i hope; p.s. what did you order at McDonald's? :mrgreen:
 

Chilling__Echo

Well-known member
i'm very selective with what presentations i'm comfortable with but i'm counting my blessings! and kudos to you, i avoid drive-thrus at all costs!

and i'm sure you aren't setting yourself up, being realistic with your goals is the best thing you can do for yourself and your attitude is so awesome. the only thing you've set yourself up for is a win-win situation :)
 

Scottish_Player

Well-known member
My positive things for today

Well i used a shop i have never used before i didnt realy need to but i wanted to try myself so i just went in for a can of juice and something to eat ,but as usual i made a fuck up lol i gave him too much money as i was a little anxious (lucky he was honest :lol: ) nothing much to learn from it other than get it right next time :D

Also had a job to do in a tenanted house,i dont like working in house with people in them i normaly work in empty houses,any way i could see the lady was a little nervous (a bit like myself)having someone in her house that she didnt know so i made a stupid joke it wasnt realy funny but it kinda broke the uncomfortableness (is that a word :? ) normaly i wouldnt have said much and just got my job done and left :?

Also had to go to a wholesalers to pick up stuff for another job,i hate all that kinda stuff having to fill in invoices and sign my name but the building had a power cut so they where busy trying to get it sorted so i didnt fell like the centre of attention and it went well for me :D

I have had alot of things gone wrong for me today but those are the good things that went well so iam not gonna dwell on the bad,and just look at the good things.
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Butterfly

Active member
Good for you, Scottish_Player!!!

Nevermind about giving too much money at the store. Everyone does that some time, it could mean you're in a hurry or a million things besides being nervous :)

Making a joke to improve an awkward situation... that was awesome 8)

BTW, loved your idea of a "positive feelings only" thread.
 

pitkreet

Well-known member
Yeah, this is a great idea for a thread!!

It also makes me realise it's a good idea for everyone to consciously attempt to make positive things happen everyday, whether you decide to post them here or not.

I will keep this thought in mind and try to remember it everyday, and try to make positive things happen.

My entry for today - I suspected that my annual pay rise was less than it should have been, so I went to complain, and payroll accepted that they had made a mistake. So, I get a bigger pay rise and didn't feel too uncomfortable whilst making the complaint :D.
 

Scottish_Player

Well-known member
I also hate complaining,but its one of those things that just has to be done sometimes to get things done.

good on ya :wink:
 

maggie

Well-known member
today I made some phone calls..doesn't sound like big deal..but for me, it was..cause I get so stupid and nervous and breathless on phone normally...funny how little things mean so much :)
 

Danfalc

Banned
2day was a good day!

Before i start this, i wanna say this sounds bad at the start but it gets better.Well anyways i was wandering home the other night and 2 guys roughly my age who were very drunk. Decided it would be fun to jump me, I started wrestling with the first one, but the other one grabbed me from behind and the first on started laying into me,this went on for a bit untill some guy who was passing jumped in and chased em off.Normaly somthing like this would really get me down and make my anxiety worse.But i had to go and shrink 2day, so i thought why should i be nervous when id taken a kicking, i mean whats feeling nervous compared to getting my ass kicked. Anyways i didnt feel bad going to my shrink. :D
 

Chilling__Echo

Well-known member
wow, awesome story, glad nothing bad happened though, i think i might have had a nervous breakdown and a heartattack simultaneously if that happened to me. nice job :D
 

Danfalc

Banned
you would be suprised

Chilling echo, u said basicaly u couldnt handle somthing like that happening to you.To be honest i reckon u could and so could most people on this forum.Sa/sp is bad cos were scared and our adreniline is going, so when somthing serious happens, well were in our element, cos normaly we cant do anything to get rid of the adreniline.but in serious situations we kinda focus more than normal.
 

Butterfly

Active member
Danfalc, my corageous deed is really lame compared to yours. Anyway, yesterday I felt right so here it goes:

I was walking around the mall and entered a small store without noticing the girl and three guys chatting around the counter. One of them approached me with the usual "can I help you?". And as usual, my chilly answer was that I'd take a look first.
When I walked towards the back they started laughing so I thought they were laughing at me and so on. But instead of making the list of reasons why I deserved it, I though "SO WHAT?. What do I care if they're laughing at me or not?? Chances are they are just flirting and stuff."
So I cooled down and looked at all the clothes.
 

Danfalc

Banned
Butterfly

Butterfly give urself more credit! i didnt have a choice about getting into a fight, and i have 2 see my shrink.You probaly didnt have 2 go to the mall yet you still went, and not only did you go, but it sounds like you handled is it well.So its not lame at all compared to mine, you decided to do what you did, i just had 2.
 
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