Anonymous
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Hi im 17, soon to be 18 and female.
I feel silly typing as I know so many people suffer and I don’t want to trouble any of you but I don’t think I have other options at the moment. I feel like I’m boring you with the same old stories, however I have valued these when reading from the site as I know im not alone, but I still feel this way here in this room. I have visited this site for several months everyday as the pressure has just been building up and I think its time for me to make the first move. Im so scared that someone will somehow know that I have posted this and have never done anything like this before.
I have not been diagnosed with SP but have always been extremely shy. Day by day it just gets worse. I think the REAL SP began two years ago when I started my A levels. I went from 5 years of talking to noone to being reunited with one friend and got to know her friends. I am too afraid to really engage with them though. I have studied A level Psychology. We began to cover phobias briefly. I noticed that I had these symptoms of SP. I couldn’t believe it. I went home that night and began researching and everything I read was so ME. I have questioned and questioned whether I really have this and there are times when I think no cant be but then the anxiety creeps back and I feel sad again. Its seems strange studying psychology because I feel silly that I have read you have to change your ways of thinking etc I have thought ‘Yeah this seems ok, I will try to sort myself out’ but its so hard and I don’t think it works. Although I know there must be hope if some people are cured.
I feel like I just need someone to talk to. I cant talk to my family because they will not be understanding. They know that I am nervous etc but I don’t think to this extreme!! My mum is also very insensitive about my feelings and people with mental disorders and I would be so ashamed to admit to this and she would be so ashamed to tell people or accept that her daughter has it. I do however know that I need to talk to someone which is why I am trying this. I know that people can become attached to a ‘label’of the condition but I don’t want this to happen. I just like the fact that now I don’t feel so abnormal as I know im not alone.
I do not believe that I am depressed but I know that SP can leave me feeling in a depressive mood and exhausted from being tense. Even when I am sitting still in the least possible way to feel embarrassed I still feel immense anxiety. I can never relax. I cant even walk across a room. I cant write in front of people. This even was a problem in my exams. The examination pressure doubled as I fear of being evaluated on my performance. I have developed a terrible fear of my psychology teacher especially. I think this is because I know that he has studied psychology and I am afraid that he will find out what I am experiencing. It is in his lessons that I have suffered most panic attacks….. of course I am not entirely sure that what I have experienced is a panic attack but im quite sure. I can remember the first one very well. It was terrifying thinking that everyone was looking at me as if I was a glowing light attracting attention and my heart POUNDING away so strongly. I was trembling and couldn’t breathe. SP has left me with slight obsessive behaviours although I don’t think I have OCD. I check that pages from a writing pad are torn off to last me the day so I don’t have to tear them off in the lesson. Basically I lay everything out in a structured way to minimise potential embarrassment. I stay up to ridiculous hours to finish work to my best so that people will not judge me. However, I also hate this as if I do really well people also seem to notice me. I hope this is making sense. I don’t feel as if I am explaining myself very well.
My main problem now is that I have finished school. I am not going to uni because I don’t think I can cope. This means that I have to get a job which I think is impossible! I know nothing is impossible but still. I have never had a part time job and am not independent. I have never been on a bus on my own before. I have not been ‘out’ since July last year where it was 2 of my friends birthdays and mine and I got dragged along. I felt I had to as it was my birthday. So overall in the last two years I have been out once. The thing is since then it has just got worse. I don’t even stay for lunch at school. I cant eat in public. The problem is now that I cannot say to my friends im busy with school work. I cant believe they still ask me if I want to come the amount of time I have said no. I started to say to some of my closer friends that im scared and we sort of joke so they don’t really understand but accept more why I don’t come. All my friends are closer to others because of spending more time with them then I do. Although I love being with my friends the anxiety is still high as I fear of being rejected. I hate to upset anyone as I would feel bad, as well as being judged by others. I know that I have extreme low self esteem and lack of confidence but I don’t know what to do. I wear my coat into the summer months and I think this is because I feel safer, protected and covered up. Its like a barrier I can hide myself behind. When I stand out a lot then I rely on hoodies to cover my arms and wear trousers always.
So can anyone give me advice on how to get a job with SP? My mum is beginning to pressure me but I can’t go into the ‘big world’. I don’t have any idea of what I want to do which also makes things difficult for me. I want something simple, obviously avoiding many social situations. I don’t know how I would even get to an interview.
My SP is beginning to get so bad as I am feeling myself hiding away from my family now too. This is why I am desperate for help. It’s interfering with everything. I am not asking for a miracle cure. I just want to feel a little safer with my friends and make it manageable before I lose them. I know in general people say that other people are not interested in our behaviour or us but when I try to tell myself this the inevitable happens where it is clear that someone is laughing. i just cant get rid of these negative thoughts. if i dont have SP then im so confused.
If anyone has read this far I would like to say a BIG thank you for reading it. If anyone has time please could someone give me some advice or just speak to me. It would mean a lot. I would be very grateful. I hope I havent offended anyone.
I feel silly typing as I know so many people suffer and I don’t want to trouble any of you but I don’t think I have other options at the moment. I feel like I’m boring you with the same old stories, however I have valued these when reading from the site as I know im not alone, but I still feel this way here in this room. I have visited this site for several months everyday as the pressure has just been building up and I think its time for me to make the first move. Im so scared that someone will somehow know that I have posted this and have never done anything like this before.
I have not been diagnosed with SP but have always been extremely shy. Day by day it just gets worse. I think the REAL SP began two years ago when I started my A levels. I went from 5 years of talking to noone to being reunited with one friend and got to know her friends. I am too afraid to really engage with them though. I have studied A level Psychology. We began to cover phobias briefly. I noticed that I had these symptoms of SP. I couldn’t believe it. I went home that night and began researching and everything I read was so ME. I have questioned and questioned whether I really have this and there are times when I think no cant be but then the anxiety creeps back and I feel sad again. Its seems strange studying psychology because I feel silly that I have read you have to change your ways of thinking etc I have thought ‘Yeah this seems ok, I will try to sort myself out’ but its so hard and I don’t think it works. Although I know there must be hope if some people are cured.
I feel like I just need someone to talk to. I cant talk to my family because they will not be understanding. They know that I am nervous etc but I don’t think to this extreme!! My mum is also very insensitive about my feelings and people with mental disorders and I would be so ashamed to admit to this and she would be so ashamed to tell people or accept that her daughter has it. I do however know that I need to talk to someone which is why I am trying this. I know that people can become attached to a ‘label’of the condition but I don’t want this to happen. I just like the fact that now I don’t feel so abnormal as I know im not alone.
I do not believe that I am depressed but I know that SP can leave me feeling in a depressive mood and exhausted from being tense. Even when I am sitting still in the least possible way to feel embarrassed I still feel immense anxiety. I can never relax. I cant even walk across a room. I cant write in front of people. This even was a problem in my exams. The examination pressure doubled as I fear of being evaluated on my performance. I have developed a terrible fear of my psychology teacher especially. I think this is because I know that he has studied psychology and I am afraid that he will find out what I am experiencing. It is in his lessons that I have suffered most panic attacks….. of course I am not entirely sure that what I have experienced is a panic attack but im quite sure. I can remember the first one very well. It was terrifying thinking that everyone was looking at me as if I was a glowing light attracting attention and my heart POUNDING away so strongly. I was trembling and couldn’t breathe. SP has left me with slight obsessive behaviours although I don’t think I have OCD. I check that pages from a writing pad are torn off to last me the day so I don’t have to tear them off in the lesson. Basically I lay everything out in a structured way to minimise potential embarrassment. I stay up to ridiculous hours to finish work to my best so that people will not judge me. However, I also hate this as if I do really well people also seem to notice me. I hope this is making sense. I don’t feel as if I am explaining myself very well.
My main problem now is that I have finished school. I am not going to uni because I don’t think I can cope. This means that I have to get a job which I think is impossible! I know nothing is impossible but still. I have never had a part time job and am not independent. I have never been on a bus on my own before. I have not been ‘out’ since July last year where it was 2 of my friends birthdays and mine and I got dragged along. I felt I had to as it was my birthday. So overall in the last two years I have been out once. The thing is since then it has just got worse. I don’t even stay for lunch at school. I cant eat in public. The problem is now that I cannot say to my friends im busy with school work. I cant believe they still ask me if I want to come the amount of time I have said no. I started to say to some of my closer friends that im scared and we sort of joke so they don’t really understand but accept more why I don’t come. All my friends are closer to others because of spending more time with them then I do. Although I love being with my friends the anxiety is still high as I fear of being rejected. I hate to upset anyone as I would feel bad, as well as being judged by others. I know that I have extreme low self esteem and lack of confidence but I don’t know what to do. I wear my coat into the summer months and I think this is because I feel safer, protected and covered up. Its like a barrier I can hide myself behind. When I stand out a lot then I rely on hoodies to cover my arms and wear trousers always.
So can anyone give me advice on how to get a job with SP? My mum is beginning to pressure me but I can’t go into the ‘big world’. I don’t have any idea of what I want to do which also makes things difficult for me. I want something simple, obviously avoiding many social situations. I don’t know how I would even get to an interview.
My SP is beginning to get so bad as I am feeling myself hiding away from my family now too. This is why I am desperate for help. It’s interfering with everything. I am not asking for a miracle cure. I just want to feel a little safer with my friends and make it manageable before I lose them. I know in general people say that other people are not interested in our behaviour or us but when I try to tell myself this the inevitable happens where it is clear that someone is laughing. i just cant get rid of these negative thoughts. if i dont have SP then im so confused.
If anyone has read this far I would like to say a BIG thank you for reading it. If anyone has time please could someone give me some advice or just speak to me. It would mean a lot. I would be very grateful. I hope I havent offended anyone.