people w./ sa over 25...living w/parents??..dead end job...

[carebear]

is there anyone here with sa who is over 25?

it seems the older you get, the worse you feel about having it. you begin to feel as though you have wasted your entire life.

I am over 25 and I still live with my parents-mainly because I have trouble taking risks in the "real" world.
all i can say is..it sucks so much .
everyday that i wake up i feel like crawling into a hole and dying slowly.

just had a fight with my mom about what i am going to do with my life. i have applied for pharmacy school..and have been taking chemistry/science classes for the past couple years with the hope of getting in... i also have a degree in (believe it or not) communications...which is really getting me nowhere because of my shyness. i went into comm because i love web design and music and journalism...now all i want to do is basically escape people,...but i have this burning desire to be around people also...i loooove club/house music.
i have a turntable too and am in love with the whole "idea" of djing.
really..REALLY starting to lose hope.

oh well, i guess i just needed to journal all of this out of me....
anyone, with similar problems/interests..feel free to contact me...

http://www.lonelyclubber.com/index.php

 

[spikefan777]

No, I'm only 15. I'm already feeling like my whole life has been a waste.
Anyway, I hope that you do find something that works for you. Good luck.

 

[Derek]

I am 22 and I live with my parents. sometimes I wish I could move out and live on my own but I think this would just move me one step further from society. I'd be alone all the times and I don't think I'd like that too much.

its good that you are taking all those courses in school though, I'm sure you will end up with a very good job in the long run. I tried going to college a few years ago but I only stayed for 2 months cause I was too shy and diden't make any friends and I felt awkword all the time.

I like your website by the way, its preaty cool. good radio station too



Derek

 

[lawyerguy]

Hi,

Just 6 months ago i was living at home with my parents as well. I was 26 and out of school and I didn't have a job. Soo I was super depressed. Now I'm a lot better. I"m living on my own and its great to be independant. So I know what you feel like. Living with the parents and not having a job or a gf is the worst.

 

[blight]

I am 26 now. I don't live with my parents but I don't take many risks either. Very, very few actually. I have a single apartment and a routine where I go to work and come home. I feel like I should be 50 I'm so sunk into my routine already...and I've only been working full time less than 2 years.

Since you are still in a stage deciding what to do, I would recommend taking your time but don't compromise on the actual profession or whatever you want to do with your life.

Even if it is uncomfortable at the time, there is a good chance your SA will begin to get better when you are older and then you will wish you would have done exactly what you wanted rather than settle for something more in your comfort zone.

 

[Falcon]

I'm 27. I have no friends, and have never dated a girl. I do have a condo and a good job. I am also trying to improve my social situation, since I've recently become dissatisfied with it.

Yes, I do sometimes feel like I've wasted my life. But I get over it quickly, I try to suppress all negaive thinking, or turn it into positive thoughts. Like if I get down because I've wasted my life, I'll instead think: well, I spent many years getting to know MYSELF, and that's something few people ever get a chance to do.

So, you're not alone

 

[StealThis]

i'm 23 and still living at home. Sucks so bad its beyond sucking

 

[Drew]

I was still living at home at age 33. Mind you, I had been on my own for long stretches before that. There can be a lot of guilt and pressure to move on. In my case, I imagined most of it. My parents were very supportive. I write about it in my social anxiety blog.

Drew

 

[Gloomy]

I'm 27 I live with my mom and 2 of my 3 brothers. I'm unemployed. I rarely leave the house. I'm a virgin. I have no friends. And I can't figure out what gender I am.

Sucks to be me.

 

[carebear]

Thanks guys for all of your support...it feels good knowing at least that i am not alone..(even though i feel that no one should have to go through this).

i am 27 now going on 28 and if i go to school i will be there until i am about 32 since pharmacy school takes 4 yrs. :x :roll:

anyone else taking (or took in the past) organic chem or chemistry??

**also, derek, i'm glad you like my website! are you an mos or vibe listener?
fave dj on vibe and mos is nick bridges =)

 

[Derek]

**also, derek, i'm glad you like my website! are you an mos or vibe listener?
fave dj on vibe and mos is nick bridges =)

I had only listened to mos last time but I just checked out Vibe and so far I like it better. I think ill be listening to it for a while now 8)

 

[rko74]

31

I am 31 here, with grade 9 education .I came out of school because of this and my parents didnt kick me out like a normal parent would i guess.I have tried various things to get back on the horse, but i always came away and retreated into my "safe hole" so to speak.

Next week im doing a lifeskills class and i hope to god im able to stick with it, i will have to.Dont worry there are always worse off people than yourself.I have wasted too much of my life.

 

[carebear]

hey rko,
where are ya from?
yo u know..they need to have special meetings for people like us..
a club called
"people with sa who need to get out of the house everyday to be with people that can't" . That would be really cool.
I just can't seem to get myself to go to places where normal people hang out...to me it's like putting oil and water together. i just don't mix.

so do you still live with your parents?? do they bug you??my parents seem to bug me every weekend about my life..it's never on a weekday (STRANGE).
8O i sleep a lot to distance myself from my problems.

 

[Gloomy]

Re: 31

Dont worry there are always worse off people than yourself.I have wasted too much of my life.

True, but it sucks to be the one that is worse off than all but one person.

 

[rko74]

reply

Hiya, i'm from StAlbert, Alberta, Canada

 

[blight]

True, but it sucks to be the one that is worse off than all but one person. Sad

Some people on this site (and I catch myself doing this from time to time) say they are doing better than they are. You can't say you are doing definitely worse or better than someone else.

People write they are doing all kinds of stuff probably because they cannot admit what their real true status/feelings are. If you can be honest that is at least a big advantage.

 

[ShiJai]

I always feel like one of those jokes from a sitcom.
You know, almost 30, living at home, no job, no friends, and definetly no relationships ( oh, and don't forget the requisite cats).
I've moved out before, but I always end up coming back. I don't know about others, but it's a big part of why I can't make friends. I mean, what am I suppose to say to people when I meet them, or catch up with those I've known at another time? Yeah still living with my Mum, no, no job as yet, and yes I'll be 29 in another couple of weeks...
Before anybody trys to say you don't have to share that sort of info, you just know when you bump into someone or meet them for the first time, that they're going to ask what you do for a living and where you live.
I'm sorry if this is a little too negative, I don't normally write unless I have something good to add...
Best I can do this time, is say you're not alone in this situation.
ShiJai.

 

[IceLad]

I'm 26 and still living with a parent. The more the years have crept by, the more desperate I have got to try and overcome social anxiety. I don't feel as if time is on my side any more!

I hate taking risks, but sometimes I just force myself to- I think of all that time I've lost to social anxiety. There are many things that I do now that I wouldn't of done in the past, so at least I'm making some progress.

 

[jauggy]

I am 21 but not living with my parents. However i don't have my own job which makes me feel crap. My parents are supporting me at the moment. Once i get a decent job i will be very happy.

 

[4myself]

i'm 23 and still living at home. Sucks so bad its beyond sucking

This made me smile, I know how you feel!.