R3K
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Hello all. Now, i rarely rarely ask for advice on things cause i like to figure everything out myself, but this situation is just too extreme for me even. Quick back-story:
I got a new job as a server/waiter at my friend's restaraunt who's the main chef there. It's a retirement community with companion/caretakers who watch over the residents, who are in their 80s and 90s etc.
Now the situation: My anxiety levels are already very high just trying to deal with the basics of the job itself. Now throw in the cute 22 year old girl who frequently places her hand on my shoulder or back presumeably just to let me know she's behind me, so we don't bump into each other in the hectic, fast-moving restaraunt environment. Then add the walk-by finger brushes against my rear as she saunters along with her hand open and outstretched in some kind of catwalk model strut or something...
and oh, it gets better... apparently there's a large clique of filipinos who comprise the majority of the caretakers at the place (prob about a dozen of them.) And my friend and boss has informed me that some of the male ones are "bi." This after i make the acquantence of one who has taken a liking to doing this little side pinch move on me. I've just laughed or said hi or whats up or whatever, not thinking it was any kind of sexual advance. But when my friend told me the guy was gay, it dumped an enormous lump of additional anxiety on my already overloaded plate.
I'm not homo-phobic (someone who hates gays,) but i'm definately not interested in trying out that lifestyle. How do I deter this guy's advances without pissing anyone off (him and his clique?) And how do I deal with this super-social 22 year old chick who's clearly out of my league (and age bracket)?
I got a new job as a server/waiter at my friend's restaraunt who's the main chef there. It's a retirement community with companion/caretakers who watch over the residents, who are in their 80s and 90s etc.
Now the situation: My anxiety levels are already very high just trying to deal with the basics of the job itself. Now throw in the cute 22 year old girl who frequently places her hand on my shoulder or back presumeably just to let me know she's behind me, so we don't bump into each other in the hectic, fast-moving restaraunt environment. Then add the walk-by finger brushes against my rear as she saunters along with her hand open and outstretched in some kind of catwalk model strut or something...
and oh, it gets better... apparently there's a large clique of filipinos who comprise the majority of the caretakers at the place (prob about a dozen of them.) And my friend and boss has informed me that some of the male ones are "bi." This after i make the acquantence of one who has taken a liking to doing this little side pinch move on me. I've just laughed or said hi or whats up or whatever, not thinking it was any kind of sexual advance. But when my friend told me the guy was gay, it dumped an enormous lump of additional anxiety on my already overloaded plate.
I'm not homo-phobic (someone who hates gays,) but i'm definately not interested in trying out that lifestyle. How do I deter this guy's advances without pissing anyone off (him and his clique?) And how do I deal with this super-social 22 year old chick who's clearly out of my league (and age bracket)?