parents...

[no1]

my father doesn't seem very supportive at all. we have a LOT of misunderstandings. on top of that he drinks and smokes weed a lot (I know I'm sorry). Then he misunderstands EVERYTHING I do, and makes me out to look like the worse person that ever lived. he really knows how to say condescending things, it's almost like he does it unconsciously, because he watches a lot of TV and he likes to appear like the ASSHOLE that some people and others in general look like.

I'm sorry.. my dad is cool but these things REALLY drive me crazy. we live in an apartment and we argue sometimes... and he REALLY takes advantage of his loud obnoxious asshole voice to make himself seem like I am the worst spoiled kid in the entire world, lazy, etc. you know the image. very condescending. he tries to subdue me with his parent attitude also. I believe he just acts unconsciously on images he's seen.
it's messed up tho it drives me crazy.

and we have smoekd and drink together and that may mess things up tons more. he's always high and drunk, and I can always have that option as well. I guess he knows how to handle it tho. Yeah right. He seems very unconscious tho sometimes. He is also very paranoid, and self absorbed. I'm 22 yrs old, I know some things I've done he may not understand but everything I say, everything I do he seems to misinterpret, and then never give me the benefit of a doubt. He doesn't really give too much advice as a parents most of the time he thinks calling me names and badmouthing me is enough.


this is kinda personal tho I didn't even know if I should post about this.

does anyone else have any problems with parents making them out to be lazy, ESPECIALLY lazy. But here's the thnig I feel physically lazy all the time so yea I am kinda lazy but that's cuz I dont sleep, or I just physically feel lethargic I guess. and my habits make me out to look like I am (ie that I dont go out, etc). he really can go off on me on numerous things.. and reallym ake me feel suicidal.

sometimes I feel like a lot of my self image problems come from him. he can be very critical, like maximally critical. he can just say the worst.

I dont know what else to say. I'm tired, like always, because I can't sleep well. I'm also a little drunk off of 1 beer. I just got up too.

people see my posts and most are probably like "WTF!" I know most of my posts make me seem like numerous things.

 

[Gone]

I can relate to what your saying and it sounds like its unhealthy for you to live with him. If you have the option i you should considering living somewhere else.

 

[lyricalliaisons]

I agree with what Gene said. If at all possible, you should move from there. I also realize, from personal experience, that this may not be possible. For me it never has.

I definitely know what you mean about parents thinking that you're lazy. or years, from 17 on, my dad was on my case about how I needed to get a job & stop sitting around the house doing nothing. It was constant whenever we were together. Luckily, he lives in another state & I only had to put up with it for about two weeks out of the year. My mom also started it when I was around 18. It continued until she had a stroke when I was 19, &, since I've been taking care of her, she hasn't said it since. She also realizes, at least to a certain extent, that it's not laziness, but a disorder.

Things remained really bad with my dad & until my early 20's when he remarried to a woman who keeps him from insulting me.

All you can really do, is try to get yourself out of that situation, though. Your dad sounds even worse than mine was in some ways & I know I would have gone crazy if I'd had to live with mine. Or even if I had to now. If you can't afford to get your own place, then explain your situation to other family members, or friends, who are more stable than your father, & see if they'll let you live with them for a while until you do have the money to get out on your own.

If you haven't you shouldn't get help for your anxiety because it won't get better without treatment, just worse.

 

[no1]

I want treatment but I dont want to be taken really bad medication.

I decided to quit weed because I believe it's really getting in the way of things. I just hope I'll be able to sleep afterwards.

I have some differences as well. My "paranoia" may also stem from the fact that I've read a lot of conspiracies and other BS that it's gone to my head. after high school I got lost into some "cultish" kinda thing, over the internet. it's a long story. but I'm out of it and learned from it. my dad really misunderstands me now... but yea this "doomsday cult" (and it really was more than just a doomsday cult) had REALLY taken a whole lot of time away from me. I became isolated and lost in my own world. how am I going to get mylife back together? I've had social anxiety since I was younger.

 

[lyricalliaisons]

I want treatment but I dont want to be taken really bad medication.

I decided to quit weed because I believe it's really getting in the way of things. I just hope I'll be able to sleep afterwards.

That's also probably what's causing a lot of the paranoia. It can cause paranoia, anxiety, & depression.

Not all meds are bad. I'm on three & they've all helped me greatly.

 

[DaaaBulls]

Hey man, sorry to hear about your father and everything. I kind sort of relate in the sense that my Dad was a bad influence on me as a person as well. Not in the same ways your father was but he wasn't a very nice person. He wasn't mean in the sense that he would hit me our anything but he just wasn't very nice, always in a bad mood, always getting pissed off at little things, making everyone tense and stressed, always had to have his way, was like a dictator, couldn't really enjoy anything I wanted to like music or tv because he was very opinionated and just a mean looking guy. When I went off to college and came back to visit I started to see these things because I had been living in a "normal" environment for a few years at college and when I came home I saw what was going on more clearly. It has been really tough on me lately because I truly despise him and also a little bit of my mother as well. The thing that you have to try and do is put yourself in a position where you are the better person than your father. I am also 22 and we are both adults now, we are no longer 12 year old children so we can act in a manner that we feel fit. We don't have to conform to how are father acts or treats us, rather start to see what he does and try not to become like that. Try going to see a therapist about these issues, find a good one that can help you guide through these feelings, it has done wonders for me. Good Luck