I'm constantly bouncing between these states, never really understanding what's real. Based on previous outcomes it seems like actual fact, and that makes me intensely paranoid and anxious. So, I really need some perspective.
This is my attempt to understand people a little better and hopefully gain insight into just how mental I really am.
To make a long story short, apparently the cool kids at my new job found out about some of my not so great past, and things have been chilly ever since. You know, kids like that tend to group up and spread the message and imply they know things under their breath.
Well, today right when I'm at my lowest and feeling socially dead... this girl I walk by acts like she's shooting me with her fingers.
Now, my over-analytical brain immediately equates that with, "you're dead," Or, "got ya." Now considering the turmoil I'm in, and I've always been alienated, it was perfectly in step with my thoughts. How could I question it? It's clear that socially I'm dead, here was an action to prove it.
So, having given you the scenario, does that make me an extremely paranoid person or am I justified? Would a confident person just shoot back (which I did) or say something funny back and that's the end of it right there? Would they not even think twice? Is that a normal thing to do? I'm always on the edge as I say and it is really making my life a miserable one.
If that is what she meant, I don't know where to begin fixing it because nobody will talk to me directly. I just don't know how people do. If people imply something without saying it, do you call them out and ask them if they mean something by it? Or if there's something bothering them about you?
I never do because I fear being viewed as paranoid, and the activity getting worse since that's the way it's always been. In fact, I seem to be screwed keeping quiet and being polite, talking somewhat, or being loud and obnoxious. It doesn't matter. I have no idea how to deal with it all.
By the way, it's not so much that I care about what people are saying or if they're talking about me, it's primarily about the job.
This is my attempt to understand people a little better and hopefully gain insight into just how mental I really am.
To make a long story short, apparently the cool kids at my new job found out about some of my not so great past, and things have been chilly ever since. You know, kids like that tend to group up and spread the message and imply they know things under their breath.
Well, today right when I'm at my lowest and feeling socially dead... this girl I walk by acts like she's shooting me with her fingers.
Now, my over-analytical brain immediately equates that with, "you're dead," Or, "got ya." Now considering the turmoil I'm in, and I've always been alienated, it was perfectly in step with my thoughts. How could I question it? It's clear that socially I'm dead, here was an action to prove it.
So, having given you the scenario, does that make me an extremely paranoid person or am I justified? Would a confident person just shoot back (which I did) or say something funny back and that's the end of it right there? Would they not even think twice? Is that a normal thing to do? I'm always on the edge as I say and it is really making my life a miserable one.
If that is what she meant, I don't know where to begin fixing it because nobody will talk to me directly. I just don't know how people do. If people imply something without saying it, do you call them out and ask them if they mean something by it? Or if there's something bothering them about you?
I never do because I fear being viewed as paranoid, and the activity getting worse since that's the way it's always been. In fact, I seem to be screwed keeping quiet and being polite, talking somewhat, or being loud and obnoxious. It doesn't matter. I have no idea how to deal with it all.
By the way, it's not so much that I care about what people are saying or if they're talking about me, it's primarily about the job.
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