Im an outcast at work. No one talks to me even when i try to mix in. I go lunch alone and find it hard to pass the time alone. If they have anything to say they would ask qns like why am i eating alone; why am i so quiet; or qns that seem to be mocking. I have a low level temp job despite having a degree because i feel i would not last at a full time job just like the last one i had which was horrible. I dun deserve this i am tired of all these crap.
Outcast at work
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dottie
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people don't know how to handle quiet people. they can't figure you out so they ask stupid questions. there is a stigma about temps. consider the pecking order. don't take it personally.
temping is not good for self confidence. if you have a degree use it. be a fighter! and by fighter i mean enduring the turmoil in the beginning months/year at a job. you will have to face your demons (social anxiety) at every job and by temping you are just making it harder on yourself by always being new... just speaking my own experience.
temping is not good for self confidence. if you have a degree use it. be a fighter! and by fighter i mean enduring the turmoil in the beginning months/year at a job. you will have to face your demons (social anxiety) at every job and by temping you are just making it harder on yourself by always being new... just speaking my own experience.
I agree, but having a full time job there is a greater challenge in terms of presentations, liasing with customers, and having to ask ard if u dunno something, this is something i just cant do, thats the reason i quit my last engineer job. I just cant speak up most of the time even when i have to.
LazyHermitCrab
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I know what you mean. I eat alone at work or in my car and sometimes get asked if i am leaving work since i'm going to the car. I don't like when this happens then i just say "oh just getting money for lunch" then go back into work. Breakroom=never. I wish we could just leave early instead of lunch.... :/
psych
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What kind of help have you sought out for your SA? If you haven't, try to do it.
I could've never worked the kind of job I have now years ago. It took doing a ton of research and finding what works for me in terms of herbs, & supplements.
But, prior to that, I went to my general practitioner, & got on an antidepressant and mild tranquilizer so I could function outside of my apartment.
Sad for me, but I really needed help. I needed help for many years before I actually did something about it.
Honestly, back then, I wasn't really sure what my problem was. It wasn't until I had a computer for a few years, that I finally figured it out.
Now, I work in a psychiatric facility, & it is hard to look back and know just how blind I was. How much better my life could've been if I had had some kind of support system around me. If I had known sooner.
I wish I had a degree. To have been able to go to college. To read that you are wasting one as we speak, I just wanted to add in my two cents. That sincerely makes me sad.
I hope you find the changes you need to make, & the strength you need to make them.
PhantomPod
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You sound like you have some good things going for you if you at least have a degree and you mentioned engineering, which can be a lucrative field. I hope you are able to reach out and get help from someone. I, myself, have yet to go to a therapist, but I have been thinking about it more and more. Just working on building your confidence is going to be huge. And I know that it's easier said than done and it's annoying that you have to work so hard to try and build up your confidence.
I'm always alone at work too. I look around at most of the people around me and they will usually walk with a friend to the kitchen to refill their water bottle or get their lunch in the fridge. And everyday a whole group of them will walk to the cafe next door and get lunch. I always just bring my lunch and eat by myself at my desk.
Most people at my work do seem to go on break alone. And everyone really seems to just go out to their car to eat or read or they actually get in their car and leave to run an errand or go to the mall or whatever. Sometimes though, especially on Friday's, they will go out for lunch in groups and I never go. I have gone once before and I regretted it honestly. Cause I just sat there quietly for the whole hour since I don't even know how to make small talk with people and then I really started wishing that I wasn't wasting my break and that I just went to my car and read like I wanted to.
I'm always alone at work too. I look around at most of the people around me and they will usually walk with a friend to the kitchen to refill their water bottle or get their lunch in the fridge. And everyday a whole group of them will walk to the cafe next door and get lunch. I always just bring my lunch and eat by myself at my desk.
Most people at my work do seem to go on break alone. And everyone really seems to just go out to their car to eat or read or they actually get in their car and leave to run an errand or go to the mall or whatever. Sometimes though, especially on Friday's, they will go out for lunch in groups and I never go. I have gone once before and I regretted it honestly. Cause I just sat there quietly for the whole hour since I don't even know how to make small talk with people and then I really started wishing that I wasn't wasting my break and that I just went to my car and read like I wanted to.